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#1 of 42 Old 01-10-2010, 11:06 PM - Thread Starter
 
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DD is 22 mo. and we've recently been around some other families with kids about her age and one family was referring to us as "Mr. (last name) and Mrs (last name)" and the other referred to us as Miss (first name) and Mr. (first name). I hadn't even thought of that and definitely feel that something respectful should be added to adults names, but I don't know what.
So what do your kids call other adults, and is it different depending on age?

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What they want to be called.....which so far is always "firstname"
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We just use first names with friends of any age. We're not that formal I guess.

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They call adults whatever I call them, which usually means their first name.

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Uncle or Aunt so-and-so. He's only 19 months right now though so he'll say their name and pat their knee and the Uncle/Aunt thing hasn't stuck yet.

We definitely will be teaching him 'sir' 'maam' 'mr' and 'ms' though for people we don't yet know. It's just polite.

Our kids will call people whatever they wish to be called which is always just their first name. Playdates go the same way. Always just first names because our playdates are typically with friends.

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For people we are very close to or have known well for years it's uncle/aunt. For people we know or meet it's miss or mr firstname. For a few it's first name. If it's someone we just met it's mr/mrs lastname until they say "just call us....." At that point it's still mr/miss firstname to show respect.
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For us, I would be perfectly happy with DS calling people by their first name, or what I/we call them, that is how I grew up. But in our Mother's group...and the first place I heard the Mrs. Heather deal...it depends. If a mother refers to me as Mrs, then I had DS refer to her the same way. Otherwise it is just firstname. I didn't do the Mrs deal at first, but didn't want to offend anyone, so just go with the flow now.

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In our circle of friends, the kids call everyone by first names.

It's us: DH , DS ; DD ; and me . Also there's the . And the 3 . I . Oh, and .
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We just use first names with friends of any age. We're not that formal I guess.

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first names. One set of my kids' friends call me "Miss" first name but everyone else just calls me Valerie.
I don't mind Miss first name but I do not let anyone call me Mrs. Last name.
My kids call everyone by their first name.

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Seems like a very regional thing. We all use first names...
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First names. But that's b/c we don't know people who prefer to be called Mr. or Mrs. If we did, I would assume my children would refer to them however they introduced themselves.

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We use Miss Firstname and Mr Firstname--althought that Mr. Firstname thing just sounds odd to me! I think for the most part it's because the majority of our friends are friends from church and all of us moms work as teachers in the various Sunday school rooms and that is what we're called there, so it just transfers to home. I really think it's sweet and shows a certain amount of "respect for elders" in a way that isn't so formal as ma'am and sir.

For super close friends, we have a couple of aunt/uncle so-and-so.

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Our best friends are aunt and uncle. Everyone else is first name.

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best friends are "uncle", most everyone else is either just first name or miss/mr first name.

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I think this is very regional and will change depending on where you live. Here in the deep south it's pretty common for kids to say "miss firstname" or "mr firstname" and that just sounds odd to me.

Most of ds's friends call me "ds's mom" but sometimes they say my first name. Ds is the same way.

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We use 'Miss FirstName' and 'Mr. FirstName.' We've lived in the South for most of our marriage, so it just stuck.
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I live in the midwest and here its Mrs Lastname and Mr. Lastname. The exception seems to be teachers who work with young children, who sometimes go by "Miss Firstname"

I still remember when I first met one of our best friends families as a child. They asked me to call them "Frank and Nancy". I came home and announced that I'd been at Frank and Nancy's house and my parents were like "Excuse me?!? You mean Mr and Mrs Smith?" They had a talk with Frank and Nancy, who explained that in California, where they moved from, kids called adults by their first name, and that was how they wished to be addressed. They were the only adults I was ever permitted to call by their first names.
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Just first names.

I think adults have enough power as it is that they don't need any more by having some sort of title used.

But, I also don't mind when she calls me by my first name. She normally tries mama first, but if I don't respond she'll switch to my first name because that's more likely to get my attention.
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We just use first names with friends of any age. We're not that formal I guess.
We use first names too.
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We generally call people what they want to be called. Defaulting on either First or Mr/Mrs Lastname depending on how they introduce themselves.

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My kids use first names for our friends. We did have to have a starting school conversation about certain adults needing to be given a title and called by their surname, even though we knew them well. At four they were ready to "get" that.
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For us, I would be perfectly happy with DS calling people by their first name, or what I/we call them, that is how I grew up. But in our Mother's group...and the first place I heard the Mrs. Heather deal...it depends. If a mother refers to me as Mrs, then I had DS refer to her the same way. Otherwise it is just firstname. I didn't do the Mrs deal at first, but didn't want to offend anyone, so just go with the flow now.
Me too...my daughter uses Miss Firstname for a couple of people who seem to prefer it, but everyone else she calls by their first name. I always tell kids to call me by my first name.
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Usually Ms. or Mr. firstname. We're not really formal either, but I want to children to understand that most adults expect a show of respect from children. Right or wrong, a little polite guesture(sp) can influence how people see and treat them.

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Usually first names although sometimes it's "Señor" or something similar. My kids are tri-lingual so sometimes they come up with creative names when they can't remember or don't know the real name.

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I'd never thought about it. I guess I teach her to call people what I call them... which is first names for my friends, and Mr/Mrs Lastname for older people at our church. I'm not into the fake-auntie thing, but I do call my sister's BF and DH's male friends "Uncle Firstname", so... hmm, why do I do that? Odd.

I have a friend called Natalie who DD adores, and she's taken to calling her Natty. It's cute. My littlest sister is 11, so I always feel a bit silly calling her "Aunty Firstname", but she likes it!

DD also calls DH by the nickname of his Internet nick half the time. I love it. It's "Daddy" the rest of the time, though.

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We just do first names. We're very informal as a family. However i've noticed some of my mom's group moms are callling me Miss Firstname to their kids. I don't really mind, but it's a bit odd sounding to me.

i grew up with either first names or Mrs/Mr Lastname. The Miss/Mr Firstname thing seems to be a strictly preschool thing here.

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We just use first names with the families we hang out with. No one has asked us to do different. I grew up using Mr./Mrs. Lastname. My best friend and her husband are aunty and uncle though and I have one friend who teaches her kids Ms/Mr. Firstname so with her we do that. But I don't think that being an adult makes you more entitled to respect than being a kid. We are all people. And I would feel weird being called Mrs. Last name because my last name is my maiden name and it would just make me feel old. Haha.

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Depends on the person and how we know them. Our best friends are aunt and uncle. Close friends are first names. People we know from school that we don't have a casual relationship with are Mr./Mrs. Coaches from sports are Coach____.
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I was raised in the South, so I do Mr/Miss Firstname. But I don't enforce it, or anything. I just always refer to my friends as Mr/Miss Firstname to my kids. My daughter does it about half the time, I'd guess, the rest of the time she just calls them by their first names.
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