> Where's the line between AP and "smothering"? *see note added 02/02
Originally Posted by MoreThanApplesauce
actually, this describes our family and i stand behind our decision. I am not needy or insecure or hovering - my dh and i have strong beliefs and we make sacrifices to ensure that we are true to them whenever possible. I am very picky about the food we eat and I absolutely would not permit my dd to eat most crackers. Most processed foods are full of junk. And for the first year of my dd's life I only ran errands alone when it was completely necessary because she screamed hysterically in her car seat rearfacing. I saved almost all our trips out for when my dh could come alone and I or dh sat in the back so my dd could at least see a friendly face and hold our hands. I also nursed her while strapped in when she could not be comforted any other way (dr. sears recommends this, btw).
THANK YOU!!! I was starting to feel like a crazy person because all these "helicopter moms" people were describing sound exactly like me!! But it's not about my needs or insecurity or anything, it's about DS's, and the fact that we have very strong beliefs. I'm glad to know I'm not alone, even if many people think I'm nuts!
Originally Posted by Youngfrankenstein
I think the OP has stated that seeing her friend got her thinking about the topic, not that she is making judgements about her friend.
Thank you, my point EXACTLY!!! This is not about her. She is a sweet person, and a good mother.
I've been thinking alot about this topic, due mostly to unresolved personal issues I've had about my own upbringing, and the fact that I'm facing the very real possibility that my daughter will be an only child, which is completely not what I had imagined for my life. But these are all very private issues that I didn't feel the need to get into!
I don't know the situation, but it could be the baby has issues that you aren't aware of.