This may come as a complete shock to you - but I feel the same way a lot of the time about my own son.
He too is very sensitive (always has been).
I had a pretty crappy childhood myself - was in foster care from a very young age, abusive foster homes, etc. So for me, I am BIG on emotional health. For me, that is the one very important thing. I take my parenting very seriously due to my own childhood experiences. Except sometimes I feel like I have helped my son to be too 'free' with his emotions. Sometimes I think 'bottle them up - just alittle bit!' lol...
He cries about everything
. And sometimes I think 'yeah - fair enough...id cry too if I bit my tongue and was bleeding all over the place!'...so have no problem with sympathy there. And its not that I am not sympathetic, it is just that there is only so much sympathy I have and by the afternoon it is usually all used up ...so that when you can't find your toy or can't put the puzzle piece in the exact right spot the first time around or or or (hes such
a perfectionist as well!!!)...its hard to be sympathetic/patient/not angry when you cry because you think everything is the end of the world at the drop of a dime! lol
I would never hurt him though - and I love him to bits. But the crying drives me insane. I too have no
idea why. I get so angry when he cries as well! Its like 'what now?!!!'. Perhaps it has something to do with my own childhood. Maybe I was sensitive as well (I know I can be sensitive now) and maybe my carers got angry with me so that is my first reaction now too...??? All speculation of course.
I just try and have trust him him. For me the problem lies with his inability to look at a situation and think 'Hey - this isn't so great...what can I do about it?'....before
bursting into tears like its the end of the world. Of course he is only 4.5 years of age and the reality is, he probably just can't
do that yet - so the trust is, one day (and hopefully in the next few years lol) he will
be able to. Because when I get hurt or I lose something or I find something incredibly frustrating to accomplish, etc...I don't burst into tears the first second I get!...I think 'Hey this isn't so hot - what can I do?'...and then go about making myself happy so I don't burst into tears the first second I get! lol I think this is just something we have to learn on our own (be it knowing what our physical limits are, or knowing what our buttons are or knowing what we need to do to calm down before we can complete a difficult task, etc)...and really all we can do for our children during this time is to be patient with them - whilst they are learning this ...cause this is really something they need to learn themselves, it is not something we can teach
I don't think.
So - I don't think I am much help - but I wanted you to know that I know exactly how you feel!