Although I live in a cold climate, we used a convertible car seat and just bundled him up before putting him in it, then unbundled him insidethe store and wore him in the sling. As a disclaimer, I only had the one kid and my husband came with me most of the time. I'm curious to find out what kind of system we'll develop when I have two kids, especially since DH doesn't go grocery shopping with me anymore.
For myself, I would not buy a bucket seat just because the temptation to just leave the baby in there is too great, especially when they're sleeping and despite the risks. If you have a convertible, you have to take them out. It did mess up quite a few naps and was kind of annoying, but eh. We lived.
Anyway, one of my kids hated it (the carseat/bucket) and hated the sling and I just didn't go out for a few years....one of my kids liked the bucket and hated the sling - should I have forced him into it?
so silly - maybe we should all just focus a bit more on what we need in target and get home to play with/read to our kids rather that criticizing the other parents who we don't really know. just an idea.
DD2 hated being worn with an undying passion. The bucket on the other hand, made her happy. So my choice was to put the baby in the sling and let her scream and fight through the shopping trip, or leave her in the bucket where she would be either sleeping or looking around happily. Everyone always acts like slings are the answer to all baby problems, but I never found that to be true. Both my girls, dd2 especially, really preferred being in the bucket while we were shopping.
As for the person who asked how slings could be over used, I don't know how many times I've heard people on various message boards talk about forcing their baby/toddler into a sling just because it was more convienient for the mom. I've even seen people say that they knew their toddler preferred riding in a stroller, but THEY didn't like the way it looked, so the child was forced to unhappily be in a sling. I think that sometimes people forget that being AP is about listening to your child, not checking off a check list of crunchy ideals.
I used them shopping if hte baby was asleep and I didn't want to disturb her. I'd put the bucket in the main part of the shopping cart, not on top.
I didn't find them useful in any other way, but those two things, particularly teh first, made them very useful for me.
Where I live, most people I know call them "bucket seats" or "bucket car seats" when differentiating from convertible seats, and I live in a place where most people use them a lot. Those moms call them bucket seats too. Again, when talking about that particular style so people know what kind of car seat they mean.
It is fine to put carseats in the MAIN basket of a shopping cart. Just not in the top basket. The reason it is "OK" to put the carseat in the car and not the top basket of the shopping cart, is even though a car toppling over would obviously be dangerous, the carseat won't cause the car to topple over on its own. But a carseat on the top basket of a shopping cart can make the shopping cart topple over just by its own weight. So yes, when I see someone with a carseat in the top basket of the shopping cart, I think they are ignorant of that specific piece of information, even though they may be extremely knowledgeable about everything else. (I know several mothers who are experts on all sorts of things but ignorant of a few safety issues. I'm sure there is something I am ignorant of, too.)
@ Bokonon: The weight limit is 35 pounds on the shopping carts (it says it there, e.g. Target, PetCo all list it).
Then...why is it ok for a 35 pound kid to sit in a cart? It's still heavier than a carseat + infant.
Although I will say that my 7 month old is in a low % for weight - 16 lbs., and her bucket weighs almost 15 lbs, so she is getting close to the limit that way - I am amazed how many older babies (9+ months and BIG) I see still in those buckets on the carts. They are definitely over the limit when combined with bucket weight. Surely they can sit up by now? I know mine was early, but she has been sitting in the shopping cart seat since she was 6 months.
Instead , you can use those "playcarts" (those that come with car attachments and stuff), at King Sooper's those list a total capacity of up to 80 pounds (you can put two kiddos in there). Or if we go as a family, DH walks with DS through the store and I do the shopping.... But most kids aren't as heavy as my DS who is approaching the 35 pounds at 18 months.
I don't think people object to infant travel systems, which is what I think you are referring to. They object to people who leave their kids in them for hours and hours and hours. I had one of those for my girls when they infants. It was great cause when they fell asleep in the car, you could bring them inside without waking them. It was also good when we were in the grocery store and they were too young to sit up. I would just set the seat in the cart and off we would go. That being said, I didn't leave them in the seat after we got out of the car, unless they were sleeping or we were in the grocery store. They only were in the seat when necessary, which I dont think is a problem.
Aw, wait a minute, LOOK how comfy this mama looks!
DS is in his in the car, period. He hates it and I dont' blame him. Honestly it doesn't look very comfortable but I agree, it's safe - for the car. Otherwise, we're holding him or if we're taking a long walk he's in his (big bulky travel system) stroller, which he loves. I had every intention of wearing him but he HATES - HAAAAAATES - being worn. Funny how things work out in real life. Sigh.
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I think the big question this raises is about makining people feel guilty for things that show they aren't good enough parents.
Like a bucket seat. Or a few days ago I got the evil eye for putting my baby in the car while I put my grocery cart into the coral, within site of the car and with the car locked. Or maybe it was because I shopped with the baby in the bucket.
On the face of it my ds spends a lot of time in "contraptions". My dd1 liked some, and dd2 wouldn't even sit in one for a moment and had to be worn or carried at all times. Ds is mellow, and more than that, I have two older kids including a nursing toddler, three dogs, and a dh who is away half the time. If ds is content, you can bet I put him down somewhere while I do other things - nurse dd2, clean, put the dog out, pee myself...
Sometimes it seems like people are way to rigid about the "right" way to parent if you don't want to somehow ruin your baby.
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