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#1 of 57 Old 02-25-2010, 10:55 PM - Thread Starter
 
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that's me..the former teenage welfare mother..that's where I began this journey. In a long line in the stifling heat of summer in Los Angeles. From a 2 transfer bus trip , sweating and pregnant..no one offers up a seat to the teenage mothers here. Got spit on by a woman at the mall the day before. It was the height of the "teen mothers epidemic"
I'd never been a part of an epidemic..
I was one of "those" "them" the less then..the moochers of the state.

I stood in lines..all day. And then they turn you away because it's closing time. Then where to sleep that night? How to eat? The calls to adoption agencies, because "wouldn't that just be better?" because everything and everyone was better...better than me. I almost believed it.

"NO! No they're not. I am brave. I am strong. I will be a better mother than my own had been. I can do this and someday he will do great things...you'll see"

In October I wrote this post http://www.mothering.com/discussions...ght=whitneymum

And tonight we got his college acceptance letter. My son is going to a well respected university this fall.

The teenage son of a teenage mom. yea, there's a huge triumph here

My son worked SO hard for this. He never waivered in his dedication to get into the college of his choice. And in his application essay he wrote about us, in that tiny apartment, sharing the food bank food box and thinking like it was Christmas..and all the other "adventures" of taking Christmas trees home on the bus, of walking in the rain, of hopping the bus downtown to sneak into the art musuem. Of life LIVED, no matter the circumstance.


I adore the gift of being proud of him. I am blessed beyond measure..and this is one of the happiest nights of my life.

thanks for sharing it with me, there's no family around to share in this, nobody but you guys would probably even get it anyway.

thank you my sisters!

I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel. - Maya Angelou
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I almost got offended at the title of your post, having once been a teenage welfare mother.

You and your son are amazing. Congratulations are in order to both of you.
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Congrats, to both you and your son! Sounds like you raised a good one .
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Congrats Mama to you and your son Lovely post, thank you.

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Kudos to you both...and that's from one teenage mother to another!
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Huge congratulations to both of you!!
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I remember that post - it made me cry. Congratulations to you both!

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Congratulations!!!! You should be so proud of both of you!!!!

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Yay!! Congratulations and best wishes to him for a great four years!

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Your heart must be about to burst!

Well done mama!

Congratulations to you both!

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Bless you both. People like you just prove that "I can't" is almost never a valid excuse.

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Congratulations to both of you!
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I'm weeping with joy for you and your son.
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Congrats to you BOTH!!

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Congratulations!!!! I remember that post. I cried too. I am so happy for you both.

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what an amazing moment. congratulations to you and your son

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That's WONDERFUL! Congrats to both of you!!

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Someday it will be my turn!
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big congrats to you and your son both!

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Congratulations!

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You made my night. Thanks for sharing.

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Congratulations!
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Congrats!!!

 

 

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Love your post.

My mother had her first child at 17 and was the best mother ever. (Love ya mom!)

I am feeling lonesome and discouraged tonight (DH in Afghanistan, kids cranky and suffering from the Februaries--crankiness, tiredness and moments of downright meanness to each other). Your post made me feel proud to be a mother. I hope I do as good a job as you have done. Relish every minute of your success.

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I was about to log off for the night...I'm SO GLAD that I opened your post before I did! This gives me such a warm feeling in my heart. Well done mama!

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I remember your first post- it made me cry. I replied on it that you are an inspiration and it is true, BOTH of you are.

Congrats to a proud, dedicated mama and her proud, dedicated son
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You must be a wonderful mother to havee raised such a wonderful son!
Be proud, Mama!

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Your posts make me cry. Your son should be very proud of himself and you should be very proud of both your son and yourself. There's no question that you did it and did it well. Congratulations.
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Congratulations to both you and your son! I hope you get the support system you deserve.
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