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Someone on another thread said that lip kisses were only for lovers. I only have a 1 year old DD and my husband and I kiss her on the lips all the time. She knows the word "kiss" and she'll pucker her lips out and it's just the cutest thing ever. I will kiss her on the lips until it embarrasses her and she wants me to stop.
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I didn't used to, but at 3.5 yrs my DD1 insisted that I kiss her on the lips (but not DH). Funny.

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In our family, mouth-to-mouth kissing is for people who are romantically involved. But I've had friends who do mouth-to-mouth kissing with their parents even into adulthood. It's not for us, but I don't judge.
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We kiss on the lips.
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DD wanted to kiss everybody (friends, babies,animals, etc..) we finally instituted a no lips kissing rule just because it also meant satisfying her need to give kisses

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Yes, we kiss on the lips, too.

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We kiss on the lips. And we haven't had to discuss kissing differently with friends...not there yet!

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No kissing on the lips here. To easy to pass germs back and forth that way. But then I dont even kiss dh on the lips but for reasons other than germs.

 
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Baby to parent kisses on the lip aren't remotely romantic. I guess it will turn to cheek kisses when my son gets older. But for now, he's three. Even his father (king of the macho good ole boys) still kisses him on the lips.
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I'm in the "kisses on the lips are for lovers" camp. Which is fine for our little family, but extended family on DH's side do kiss on the lips. It's very strange to me as I didn't grow up with it, but I don't say anything about it.

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Lip kisser over here.
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Absolutely. DS is only 11 months; when he "kisses," he sucks on my whole mouth. I think it's hilarious.
I imagine when he's older (I don't know how much. 5-6+, perhaps?) we'll move to cheek/head kissing, but for now he's a baby. I'll take my lovin's where I can get 'em.
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Kissy lips here.

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Lippy kisses here too. My 2yo kisses everybody he knows on the lips. You can see him coming a mile away though, so those who prefer cheek kisses can just turn thier heads a bit.

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yup, at least until age 3 or so. heck, i'm 35 and still kiss my mom on the mouth.
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Lip kissers here too, though I know many people that are uncomfortable with it...I don't think you HAVE (or should be made to feel like you must) to kiss anyone you don't want to on the mouth! If you only want to kiss lovers, then that is perfectly fine. If I don't, then that's perfectly fine too.
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Lip kissing so far! My DD is 11 and it doesn't seem that we'll stop anytime soon...

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yes at DD's insistence.

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I usually kiss DS on the lips (he's 19 months). Once I turned my face so he would kiss my cheek. He stopped mid-kiss, put his hands on either side of my face, and turned my head so he could kiss my lips!

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Lip kisses here. DS2 would explode if he couldn't do lip kisses. Sometimes, he likes to give us "love kisses", which are long, big kisses, with a gigantic smacking sound at the end. It's kind of funny.

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I kissed my parents on the lips into the teen years.

I started out kissing DS on the cheek or head, but now he insists on lip kisses.

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lip kisses so far; I stopped kissing my parents some time in elementary school so it may happen the same way for us.

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I'm in the "kisses on the lips are for lovers" camp.
Yep, us too!


I do kiss and hug my kids a lot. We just personally feel that lip kissing is too intimate for doing with your children.
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Yes, lip kisses! I never thought of it as being for romance only - b/c certainly that doesn't apply with children.

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its a cultural thing.

i grew up where kissing by itself is not a norm.

i do the lip kissey thing though.

however only with my dd.

for germs and respect of how other parents feel i dont kiss their child on the lips. actually i rarely kiss other kids. in fact now that i come to think of it, i am not comfortable with others kissing dd on her lips.

to me kissing on the lips means connection and i would not be comfortable seeing a not really close person kiss dd on the lips.

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We are lip kissers too. It actually never occurred to me that it had anything to do with lovers. Our kids are still really little. When they get older this may change.

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Lip kissers here too! When I was little I used to give my parents what I called "Fonzie kisses" - my parents still tease me about it, heh. I don't normally kiss my parents at all now, but the last few times my dad kissed me it was on the lips and I was an adult. And trust me, it felt nothing like kissing a lover!
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Dd is 8 and I don't very often anymore. I don't think there's anything wrong with it. I haven't really thought about it much. We're much more of a hugging family.
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We kiss on the lips here too. My DS is 11. I still kiss my mom on the lips and I'm 36. I had no idea this was taboo.
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Of course we do :-).

(My youngest even kisses me on the but, lol: a little 3/4yo having a hugging and kissing mood, 'attacking' me with his strong love-filled pressure kisses and hugs wherever he can, picture child clinging to mom busy in kitchen and kissing her behind, loooool. )

For me, as a mom, soft kisses on the lips are the most natural expression of mother-child love (and vice versa :-), those are just the most wonderful love-filled kisses and I wouldn't want to have missed these, ever! When I get one of my youngest, I name it the 'sweetest kiss in the world'.

So yes me and my children do lip kisses.
But ONLY mother-child, or little siblings among one another, in our case.
I may personally also kiss a very good friend on the lips (and only rarely that happened), mostly just on the cheek with a big hug, but when it happens this also feels just natural and spontaneous :-).

I found out other people do not find lip-kisses that naturally: my dh did not grow up with lip kisses at all, in fact with not much kisses at all (cultural thing) and so he is not comfortable with it at all and was not comfortable upon seeing me do this with our children. We had a 'discussion' folloeing a situation where our toddler would be expected to 'kiss goodbye' a friend (adult) and then mistakenly kissed that person on the lips, one blamed for teaching to lip-kiss, the other for expecting child to kiss non-parent adult/stranger(to the child, and also to me).
Anyway, now both children are old and 'experienced' enough to know it's not to be done and they wouldn't accept any either !
So between me and my children it is very much our own thing and a cultural thing, and it's so normal and natural and lovely to us. But as a compromise towards my dh, we more or less limit it to the setting of our house since we also live in a culture where this is not much practised either. Also, my dh does not wish to be kissed on the lips by his children either, for him it does not feel natural nor 'right', so they use cheecks among themselves, and that's fine by me :-). The children now get these preferences/kissing 'rules' totally, and that's cool.

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