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|Originally posted by candiland
How easy is it for you to stay "present" - ie., not think about the past or the future, just focus on the here and now?
I never thought of this before...but I probably focus on the past and/or future more than the present..
Do you have an official diagnosis for the meds. you are on?
so far it is depression, maybe major depression?...but it may be worse than that...if I am not on meds..I have been known not to function almost not at all and not able to take care of my kids. Like not able to make their meals..doing most things other than just surviving is usually what I am able to do...usually anything more than that is too much...
With meds. it takes the edge off, but I tend to get side effects with higher doses.
Do you get breaks every day?
Yes, I do get breaks everyday..at least during nap times and they go to bed usually at 7 and then if if their is some activity where the children are being taken care of.
If you're having a bad day, will your husband step in and do the dishes, make dinner, and put the kids to bed, as an example?
Are you kidding me??? My husband would never step in to help and if I ask him to do anything, it is asking too much...according to him he is to provide for the family and play with the kids...he thinks that that his is only purpose. And for most of our marriage he has been too busy with his career and not around much since we have had children, as in out of town. He is currently out of town for 6 months and today has been a really BAD day...I have called him a few times...but his response is that I need to "toughen up". I don't think that most women with 2 young children would be happy in this situation.
What do you do with your daily breaks?
As in, how do you/would you spend your time?
sleep, play on the computer, read, work on my house (currently painting), garden, clean
What makes you feel happy and alive?
making art...I am an artist, but with being pregnant and nursing it has been sidelined because of the toxic chemicals..
I wish that I could say my spouse makes me feel happy and alive..so that maybe an issue also
How could you incorporate that into your children's lives?
I have been encouraging my daughter to paint, draw, play with "dough", finger paint..etc, all of which she loves and I am very glad that she does..my 18 month old is still into eating everything he gets his hands on so we don't do art too much.
I have thought of going back to work...I am still considering it...maybe it would be a better option for the kids and myself..and maybe better than getting a divorce..though that may be inevitable with a husband like mine.
WOHM married to SAHD, living the dream w/our: 3 girls (14,12,10) and 3 boys (7,5,3) and tie-breaker due Jan 2014
|I am trying raise myself from the dead in bringing things back that interest me...|