got yelled at by a stranger - Mothering Forums

Forum Jump: 
 
Thread Tools
Old 05-04-2010, 05:20 PM - Thread Starter
 
scottishmommy's Avatar
 
Join Date: Nov 2009
Location: in a little apartment
Posts: 1,077
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
I have to say I've been lucky. My dd is 16 mos and today was the first time a stranger told me how to parent. I live on the third floor of a walk up in a quiet residential neighborhood. The biggest challenge about living in an apartment with a baby is going grocery shopping. Usually I go shopping when dh is home so he can help me carry them up the three flights of stairs, but now that my dd is a good walker I can carry the groceries while she climbs the stairs. It takes a long time but it works. The only problem is shepherding dd through the front door of our apartment building while I carry the groceries. It doesn't seem safe to let her walk to the front door unless I have both hands free, SO what I do is park right out front, lock the car and run the groceries into the main door to the apartment building and then run out and get dd. Mind you that this takes roughly 10 seconds. There isn't a lot of space(25 feet or less) between the street and the building. So today I do this and as I turn around to get my dd this man stops and sees her alone in the car. I'm right behind him and say "don't worry I'm her mom" as I open the car and pick her up. Then he starts yelling at me for leaving her in the car. I said that I didn't leave her, I was running my groceries into my apartment foyer. Then he yells that I should take her in first (oh yeah cause it's sooo safe to leave a toddler alone at the bottom of three flights of stairs). He walks off cursing me. What I wish I had said was "if you're so concerned why don't you carry my groceries in!" UGH. The funny thing is that I am a really paranoid mom. I mean I won't even put her in a crib at night because I wont let her out of my sight LOL. Any other good mind your own business stories?

Wife to amazing dh, mama to dd 12/08
scottishmommy is offline  
Sponsored Links
Advertisement
 
Old 05-04-2010, 05:40 PM
 
nextcommercial's Avatar
 
Join Date: Nov 2005
Posts: 4,449
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
So, you just went to the first floor of the apartment? Not up three flights with the groceries, then back out to get her?

I don't see the harm in that either.

I can't think of a safer solution either. Well, I guess I can, just not a super reasonable solution.

I lived in St Louis, and we had those three floor walk ups too. So, that is what I am picturing when you say that you dropped them in the main foyer. I'm guessing that the man thought you just left her out there while you ran upstairs. I've seen worse, so I wouldn't be surprised. The other day, a man parked out in front of Super wal mart... (just in front, not in a space) and ran inside to get money out of the bank, while his preschool aged son climbed from front to back locking and unlocking all the doors wearing nothing but a blue cape. (the cape part was funny)
nextcommercial is offline  
Old 05-04-2010, 05:43 PM - Thread Starter
 
scottishmommy's Avatar
 
Join Date: Nov 2009
Location: in a little apartment
Posts: 1,077
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
Yep just dropping them off inside the front door to the building. I would never run upstairs with her in the car. Not in a million years!

Wife to amazing dh, mama to dd 12/08
scottishmommy is offline  
Old 05-04-2010, 05:45 PM
 
laila2's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jul 2007
Posts: 220
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
it is OK to leave them in the car if you are in eye sight. Sounds like an old guy having a really bad day. I would have been pi@#ed too. You were doing fine. As long as dd was buckled in. I have left my dd in car and she has unbuckled herself. All that I thought about was what if she released brake or put it into gear?

Back in the 70's, my dad left us in the station wagon forgetting to put the e-brake on. We went rolling out of the parking lot of longs, luckily onto a quiet side street.
laila2 is offline  
Old 05-04-2010, 05:46 PM
 
~Charlie's~Angel~'s Avatar
 
Join Date: Mar 2008
Posts: 4,411
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
No joke......

http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/23594474/

People are nuts!
~Charlie's~Angel~ is offline  
Old 05-04-2010, 05:46 PM
 
OdinsMommy0409's Avatar
 
Join Date: May 2010
Location: Memphis, TN
Posts: 408
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
Ah, That's great that you've made it thus far without unsolicited and oft ridiculous advice from a stranger. I have an elderly gentlemen (late 70s-early 80s) who when DS was 7 months, standing, and enjoying walking while I held his hand tell me that I was an awful mother for making my baby bow-legged. I laughed, and then told him that the American Academy of Pediatrics and my pediatrician would not only disagree with him but actually encourage such types of activities.

I ran into him again last month when DS was 11 months. DS was walking around, and I could see the man shaking his head in disdain that he was so young a walking. He stopped me yet again and asked how old my son was. Anticipating why he was asking in order to berate me, I replied, "I don't see how that's relevant." Of course, he was shocked with my reply, and the men to whom he had been sharing his disgust of my parenting burst out in laughter. I then continued to ignore him, and he sat in utter shock with his mouth agape at my refusal to answer him. LOL.

Wife to Chris 12/27/07. DS1 Earth Day 2009 (4/22). DS2 March 6th, 2012. nocirc.gif saynovax.gif winner.jpg femalesling.GIFfamilybed2.gif  vbac.gif

OdinsMommy0409 is offline  
Old 05-04-2010, 05:56 PM - Thread Starter
 
scottishmommy's Avatar
 
Join Date: Nov 2009
Location: in a little apartment
Posts: 1,077
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
really, I can see his point of view. Imagine seeing an unattended baby in a car (buckled in a car seat mind you). I feel like time would stand still. He couldn't see me because I was right behind him. But still I don't think he should have yelled at me!

Wife to amazing dh, mama to dd 12/08
scottishmommy is offline  
Old 05-04-2010, 06:36 PM
 
ICU2's Avatar
 
Join Date: May 2010
Posts: 14
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
I don't know where you live, but I have seen a couple of news stories already this year about kids dying in cars because the parents forgot about them. The temps got so high in the car that they died of hyperthermia.

There are stories like this every year and it could be that the man has read a story recently or in the past or knows someone this has happened to. I totally get your problem, so I'm not saying there was anything wrong with what you did. He just probably had a knee-jerk reaction and didn't really think of the logistics of the situation before he unleashed on you.
ICU2 is offline  
Old 05-04-2010, 06:39 PM
 
jeminijad's Avatar
 
Join Date: Mar 2009
Posts: 896
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
Quote:
Originally Posted by ICU2 View Post
I don't know where you live, but I have seen a couple of news stories already this year about kids dying in cars because the parents forgot about them. The temps got so high in the car that they died of hyperthermia.

There are stories like this every year and it could be that the man has read a story recently or in the past or knows someone this has happened to. I totally get your problem, so I'm not saying there was anything wrong with what you did. He just probably had a knee-jerk reaction and didn't really think of the logistics of the situation before he unleashed on you.
Yeah... he was wrong to yell, but I completely understand why it seemed off to him.

Those stories (kids forgotten in cars) are some of the worst things I've ever read, bar none.

Mother to R- 2/09, & C- 5/11

jeminijad is offline  
Old 05-04-2010, 06:51 PM - Thread Starter
 
scottishmommy's Avatar
 
Join Date: Nov 2009
Location: in a little apartment
Posts: 1,077
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
Quote:
Originally Posted by ICU2 View Post
I don't know where you live, but I have seen a couple of news stories already this year about kids dying in cars because the parents forgot about them. The temps got so high in the car that they died of hyperthermia.

There are stories like this every year and it could be that the man has read a story recently or in the past or knows someone this has happened to. I totally get your problem, so I'm not saying there was anything wrong with what you did. He just probably had a knee-jerk reaction and didn't really think of the logistics of the situation before he unleashed on you.
Yeah I totally think it was a knee jerk reaction. There are a lot of stories about kids dying of hyperthermia in cars. BUT, I hear a lot of stories about toddlers getting hit by cars while their mothers load or unload groceries....I think it is way more dangerous to let my dd walk to the apartment while my hands are full and I can't grab her. We live right on an alleyway. I've almost been hit like a hundred times walking on my own sidewalk.

Wife to amazing dh, mama to dd 12/08
scottishmommy is offline  
Old 05-04-2010, 06:54 PM
 
Baby_Cakes's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jan 2008
Location: NJ
Posts: 9,879
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
I don't live in an apt or anything, but often times I put DD in the car, have her buckled in -- and realize I forgot my phone inside or my wallet. I leave her in the car, lock the doors, run in, run out, and she's fine. You're not alone. I think that the system you have is the safest for your LO so don't worry about that old guy. He must have been having a bad day and took it out on you.

Carrie SAHM to Nora Caitlyn (5) and Finnley Dax (2) homebirthing, breastfeeding, babywearing, intactivist, doula mama!         
Baby_Cakes is offline  
Old 05-04-2010, 07:02 PM
 
ICU2's Avatar
 
Join Date: May 2010
Posts: 14
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
Quote:
Originally Posted by scottishmommy View Post
Yeah I totally think it was a knee jerk reaction. There are a lot of stories about kids dying of hyperthermia in cars. BUT, I hear a lot of stories about toddlers getting hit by cars while their mothers load or unload groceries....I think it is way more dangerous to let my dd walk to the apartment while my hands are full and I can't grab her. We live right on an alleyway. I've almost been hit like a hundred times walking on my own sidewalk.
Oh yeah, I really understand it. I have kids of my own and have taken care of kids since I was 14 and my sister had her first. I just think he saw Kid - Car - No parent and reacted without thinking through the whys of the situation. If I left my youngest in a lobby alone she'd be half-way to California by the time I got back. She's a speedy one!
ICU2 is offline  
Old 05-04-2010, 07:08 PM
 
berry987's Avatar
 
Join Date: Apr 2008
Posts: 701
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
I agree that leaving kids in car stories are terrifying and awful. But the fact that a mom can't step away from a car for 1 minute to drop the groceries in the front door, etc. is insane. People have to put things in perspective - those kids who die in cars are left for longer periods of time, completely unattended, often because a parent forgot they were in the car. I've never heard of a child dying because a parent ran in the front of their apartment building for a few seconds. Kids choke on hot dogs, too...does that mean parents feeding their two year old a hot dog at a picnic should be arrested for child endangerment?

I had a UPS driver yell at me for leaving my two sleeping kids in the car to pick up a package from their delivery center. The doors were glass and the pick-up counter was right in front of the glass doors and my car was parked in front of the doors and I was watching the car the whole time. My car was locked, the weather was a cool 50 degrees and I was in there for no more than 3 minutes. I knew I was breaking the rules, but I knew my kids were not in danger so I did it anyway. He threatened to call the police.

There is no common sense in these laws.

berry987 is offline  
Old 05-04-2010, 07:09 PM
 
CalaRei's Avatar
 
Join Date: Mar 2008
Location: Seattle
Posts: 878
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
Holy crap, I don't know how I'd handle getting yelled at for that! I can only physically carry one of my babies out to the car at one time!! Same goes for getting them back in the house. And *gasp* when we go for walks, it's a huge affair - bring stroller out front, load one baby. Go in for second baby, load him. Go back in for dog, and *THEN* walk.

Granted, no three flights of stairs here in our suburban neighborhood, but geez.

Mama to twin boys, Oct-'09 and baby girl, Apri-'12!

CalaRei is offline  
Old 05-04-2010, 07:14 PM - Thread Starter
 
scottishmommy's Avatar
 
Join Date: Nov 2009
Location: in a little apartment
Posts: 1,077
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
What really gets to me is how people judge but don't help. This guy was young, maybe 20 or so. He could have said "do you need help with your groceries?" instead he curses me and tells me I should have taken dd inside first. How is that safer?

Wife to amazing dh, mama to dd 12/08
scottishmommy is offline  
Old 05-04-2010, 07:22 PM
 
Raine822's Avatar
 
Join Date: Dec 2008
Posts: 140
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
After DD1 was born me and DH started walking a few miles in the afternoon. It was very hot-90+ degrees. We would put DD in a stroller and take her. EVERY DAY at least 2-3 people would yell at us for not having her in hat/blanket/long pants ect. My mother would go as far as putting her in footed sleepers and covering her with a heavy afghan. It drove me crazy trying to explain that at 9 pounds she does not need to be dressed like an eskimo.
Raine822 is offline  
Old 05-04-2010, 07:32 PM - Thread Starter
 
scottishmommy's Avatar
 
Join Date: Nov 2009
Location: in a little apartment
Posts: 1,077
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
The whole "that baby looks cold" thing.

Wife to amazing dh, mama to dd 12/08
scottishmommy is offline  
Old 05-04-2010, 08:24 PM
 
Ambystoma's Avatar
 
Join Date: Mar 2009
Location: The Bayou
Posts: 713
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
Quote:
Originally Posted by Raine822 View Post
After DD1 was born me and DH started walking a few miles in the afternoon. It was very hot-90+ degrees. We would put DD in a stroller and take her. EVERY DAY at least 2-3 people would yell at us for not having her in hat/blanket/long pants ect. My mother would go as far as putting her in footed sleepers and covering her with a heavy afghan. It drove me crazy trying to explain that at 9 pounds she does not need to be dressed like an eskimo.
Ugh-I get that too. My 2mo DS is very hot natured and it's in the upper 80s here now. He goes out in just a onesie and will sweat. So, my neighbors gove me the stinky-eye and say how cold he must be with no socks/etc on. Umm...he's sweating and so am I.

Anyway, OP-sorry you were yelled at over that. Some people don't think before reacting. I get the "unattended child" fear, but even if I thought you had gone upstairs, I wouldn't have yelled.

Kara: on a journey with DH, Mama to DS 2/2010
Ambystoma is offline  
Old 05-04-2010, 08:35 PM
 
sleepingbeauty's Avatar
 
Join Date: Aug 2007
Location: New York, USA
Posts: 1,328
Mentioned: 6 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 1 Post(s)
It is stories like these and the one in the link that make me really nervous about having my own kids someday. i swear, one of these days we're going to have to glue our children to us or risk arrest!

Kris: "auntie" to W (7yrs)  and Z (5yrs)
 
→Waiting to start my own little family←
sleepingbeauty is offline  
Old 05-04-2010, 09:17 PM
 
maddymama's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jan 2008
Posts: 1,041
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
Hugs, mama! We've all been there to some degree. I solved my problem by wearing my toddler on my back in a mei tai or a soft structured carrier while I carried my groceries in. Sometimes it took a second trip, but I knew that DD was safe and I wasn't leaving her alone for any amount of time so no one (read nosy busybody neighbor) could complain about my parenting (other than "That looks dangerous to toss her on your back like that...."
~maddymama
maddymama is offline  
Old 05-04-2010, 09:23 PM
 
sapphire_chan's Avatar
 
Join Date: May 2005
Posts: 27,052
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
I'll put my car in park right in front of the door with my hazard blinkers on, empty the trunk onto the porch of the apartment building, and then finish parking, but we have assigned spaces. In your situation, I wouldn't bother lock my car or close the doors in this weather. I'd leave them open to keep talking to dd.
sapphire_chan is offline  
Old 05-04-2010, 09:29 PM
 
ebethmom's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jan 2002
Location: State of Grace
Posts: 3,684
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
Too bad you didn't ask him to help with your groceries! I would love to hear his response to that.
ebethmom is offline  
Old 05-05-2010, 01:06 PM
 
ellairiesmom's Avatar
 
Join Date: Mar 2008
Location: Back Where It All Began...Frankford Twp, NJ
Posts: 1,014
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
Quote:
Originally Posted by maddymama View Post
Hugs, mama! I solved my problem by wearing my toddler on my back in a mei tai or a soft structured carrier while I carried my groceries in... "That looks dangerous to toss her on your back like that...."
~maddymama
nak
incidentally-i've been getting a lot of cr#p from strangers while wearing dd2 lately...if she is in the MT, people ask if she can breathe & say it doesn't look safe. if i have her in the ringsling, i get the whole "don't you know those things were recalled & kill babies". i have been taking the time to explain why they are safe & why bag style carriers are not but any day now i'm gonna lose my patience & tell them to mtob.

can't win for tryin'!

and yeah-no one should yell at us!

Stephanie~hippie.gifwife to Dov, mama to Ella Irie (9/24/07) & Kaya Raine (2/1/10)~our vbac.gifbaby, born 45 hours after PROM!!!
ellairiesmom is offline  
Old 05-05-2010, 01:11 PM
 
maddymama's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jan 2008
Posts: 1,041
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
Quote:
Originally Posted by ellairiesmom View Post
nak
incidentally-i've been getting a lot of cr#p from strangers while wearing dd2 lately...if she is in the MT, people ask if she can breathe & say it doesn't look safe. if i have her in the ringsling, i get the whole "don't you know those things were recalled & kill babies". i have been taking the time to explain why they are safe & why bag style carriers are not but any day now i'm gonna lose my patience & tell them to mtob.

can't win for tryin'!

and yeah-no one should yell at us!
Stephanie,
I've gotten some flack for that lately, too. I usually smile and say, "DD is perfectly safe in here/back there, but thank you for asking." Then walk on.
I just found out from a friend that I'm the "East coast hippie girl" in the neighborhood- ha ha ha ha ha...... bc of my carriers, CDing, and BFing. I took it as a compliment.

And back to the original issue... yes, we shouldn't be yelled at for any reason. Hopefully parking with hazards on, or using a carrier, or something will prevent that from happening to her (or any of us) in the future....
~maddymama
maddymama is offline  
Old 05-05-2010, 03:21 PM
 
fiorio's Avatar
 
Join Date: Aug 2006
Posts: 521
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
OP, I used to do the same thing with my DS. I would park in front of our building and bring my grocery bags to our door on the second floor, then I would rush back to the car and park it. I figured a toddler is much safer left buckled into his carseat for a minute than roaming freely in the apartment.
fiorio is offline  
Old 05-05-2010, 03:34 PM
 
bcblondie's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jun 2009
Location: winnipeg
Posts: 3,026
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
Oh dear. How dumb. As if you had a safe alternative...
And I don't see why people feel the need to comment. Last fall I was meeting someone someone at the mall, who was buying something I sold online. The guy took a little longer than I thought (like 5 mins) and it was about 10 celcius out, and just a little windy. And I hadn't realized til I got there that DS didn't have socks on. But he was dressed warm and was in his moby wrap and I just held his feet.
Some lady drove past, stopped, backed up and said "you've GOT to start taking care of that little boy!!" as if I wasn't... And continued to bash me about the lack of socks. She offered me a ride home, as if getting in the car with a stranger with no carseat was safer than standing outside with slightly cold feet... And also bailing on the guy I was meeting....

Mom to angel baby, grew wings at 5 weeks in May '07, William, born Dec '08, and another angel who grew wings at 8w4d (lost at 11w) in Oct '10. Rachel born Feb 2012, Another angel Lost Sept '13. New bean due Nov '14!
bcblondie is offline  
Old 05-05-2010, 05:04 PM
 
nertsmommy's Avatar
 
Join Date: Nov 2009
Posts: 7
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
I don't live in an apartment, but there are 34 steps to go up from the road to my house. I have a 3 & 2 year old. I leave them strapped in the van while DH & I carry bags up the steps. Then we either carry or hold the hand of the kids as we walk them up. The railing is too high for them to hold and the steps too steep for me to feel comfortable letting them go up or down alone. I am due with #3 in 4 days and when it is just me I have to take one child at a time. I keep waiting for my nosy neighbor to call the cops on us. He calls for everything else (leaves blowing into his yard on a windy day).
I can't wait to hear what comments I'll get when I'm out with the new baby in a wrap after the recall on the bag carriers. People hear recall on child items, but then they never bother to see exactly what is recalled and just thing all carriers are bad.
Also I get the "you aren't dressing the kids warm enough." from MIL who thinks kids need to be in coats, hats, socks, and shoes at all times. As well as I don't feed them enough because I don't leave food out on the counter for them to eat all day long.
nertsmommy is offline  
Old 05-05-2010, 07:05 PM
 
Smokering's Avatar
 
Join Date: Sep 2007
Location: New Zealand
Posts: 8,313
Mentioned: 1 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 5 Post(s)
Ech. He probably meant well and was thinking of those "baby dies in car" stories, but don't worry about it! You know you didn't do anything wrong.

And you're lucky - I got my first bad-parent scolding when DD was about two months old. It was a hot day, she was in the Ergo with the newborn insert, and I took her out to the grocery store without any socks on. The lovely Indian woman behind the counter gave me an earful! (As it happens, I'm currently writing an article about postpartum practices worldwide and have learned traditional Indian people have a Thing about babies being cold, related to traditional medicine. So that explains that. But still... she wasn't cold. I touched her feet and they were warm. She clearly thought I was young and flighty and up to no good. Fun!)

If decomposition persists please see your necromancer.

Smokering is offline  
Old 05-06-2010, 01:00 AM
 
2cutiekitties's Avatar
 
Join Date: Dec 2006
Location: Georgia baby
Posts: 1,150
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
DS was 6 months old and in his stroller at the farmers market. We are in the shade, in the shade, in the shade, then hit the end of the aisle, the shade ends, so I make a u-turn to go back into the shade. The sun hit the face for two lousy seconds while making that u-turn and some little old lady (charging $4 for one fist sized non organic tomato ) screamed at me that he would go blind and I should cover his eyes up. I mean seriously.

Quote:
Originally Posted by nertsmommy View Post
I don't live in an apartment, but there are 34 steps to go up from the road to my house. I have a 3 & 2 year old. I leave them strapped in the van while DH & I carry bags up the steps. Then we either carry or hold the hand of the kids as we walk them up. The railing is too high for them to hold and the steps too steep for me to feel comfortable letting them go up or down alone. I am due with #3 in 4 days and when it is just me I have to take one child at a time. I keep waiting for my nosy neighbor to call the cops on us. He calls for everything else (leaves blowing into his yard on a windy day).
Neither DH or I would be comfortable with that. I would take the kids up, then have one parent stay with the kids while the other unloads. I would also have that house up for sale, doesnt sound kid friendly (no offense).
2cutiekitties is offline  
Old 05-06-2010, 01:24 AM
 
corysmilk's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jan 2004
Location: with my right foot out
Posts: 846
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 2 Post(s)
Quote:
Originally Posted by maddymama View Post
Hugs, mama! We've all been there to some degree. I solved my problem by wearing my toddler on my back in a mei tai or a soft structured carrier while I carried my groceries in. Sometimes it took a second trip, but I knew that DD was safe and I wasn't leaving her alone for any amount of time so no one (read nosy busybody neighbor) could complain about my parenting (other than "That looks dangerous to toss her on your back like that...."
~maddymama
yup!!
i had to water the garden in the summer with ds in a sling. no hose just buckets of water. ( we lived on a secluded island)I just couldn't leave him in the house and the garden was too big and akward for me to push the stroller around in.

mama to Alex 20 Briana 16 Cory 10 and Jade 3Tubes tied and regret it
corysmilk is offline  
 
User Tag List

Thread Tools


Forum Jump: 

Posting Rules  
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off
Trackbacks are On
Pingbacks are On
Refbacks are Off