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#31 of 39 Old 05-20-2010, 06:25 PM
 
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It wasn't just the kids that were a problem. DH thinks its perfectly fine to stand there and brush his teeth, shave, whatever while I'm on the toilet. Again, not acceptable to me.
I hear ya. I leave the door open when I'm using the toilet when I'm here alone with the kids -- they pretty much leave me alone, but once in a while they'll cruise by and chat or whatever, which is fine. And DH and I pee in front of each other when we're getting ready for bed at night, but when I'm doing my morning routine after my shower, I like to be nude (to "steam" so I don't sweat all over my clothes) and it drives me crazy when DH keeps coming in.

Our room doesn't have a door between the bedroom and the bathroom, so even though I wait until he's showered and dressed before I start getting ready, he'll invariably come upstairs and change his shirt, or get his shoes that he forgot, or grab some stuff for the dry cleaners, or whatever, and I always say, "I'M IN THE BATHROOM!! I KNOW THERE'S NO DOOR, BUT IT'S THE BATHROOM AND IT'S PRIVATE." I'm half-joking, but it does really irk me sometimes.

I'm not a fan of that trend in home design, where the master bedroom has no bathroom door. It's fine for there to be openness between husbands and wives, but I do not need DH getting a full backside view of me bending over blow drying my hair or something. (Did any of you see the good naked/bad naked Seinfeld episode? )

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I'm not a fan of that trend in home design, where the master bedroom has no bathroom door. It's fine for there to be openness between husbands and wives, but I do not need DH getting a full backside view of me bending over blow drying my hair or something. (Did any of you see the good naked/bad naked Seinfeld episode? )
LOL@Seinfeld!!!!

We visited the home of one of DH's co-workers. The place was enormous-one of those almost-a-mansion type of homes. Anyway, his wife was showing me around and showed me their master suite. Not only did the bathroom not have a door, but the shower was just a glass box. No shower curtains or anything-just glass. I'm sorry but I just don't think I'd ever love anyone enough to want to see them naked THAT often!

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I used to take dd into the bathroom with me to shower or do other things before she potty trained. I think it made her see those things as normal because she has never been squeemish about any bathroom activity. I slowly moved towards her being more independent though after she was three because I wanted to be in the bathroom myself sometimes and she wanted to play when I showered instead of showering with me.
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I guess DH and I are weird...we totally pee in front of each other all the time. And sometimes, if I'm in the shower or something, he'll poop in the same bathroom... I had no idea those things were odd

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It just occurred to me that sometimes, when at my parents or inlaws house, I need to remember to close the door all the way. Even before we had kids, my husband and I had a habbit of leaving the door open. And I cant even TELL YOU how many times I have caught a shot of my BIL peeing at the ILs cuz he NEVER closes the door to pee.

ETA, my husband USED to poop while I was in the shower, before we had two bathrooms, now he goes to the other bathroom, THANK GOD!!!!
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I grew up with ZERO bathroom privacy. Our bathroom door unlocked from either side, and my mother was always letting herself in to get something or just to have a conversation, whatever I happened to be doing in there. She still does this when I visit!

Therefore, in our house, toilet time is and always will be sacred, alone time. The door is closed. DD whines a little and knocks, and I am happy to talk to her or sing a song so she knows I am there, but I am not letting her or anyone else in.
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I grew up with ZERO bathroom privacy. Our bathroom door unlocked from either side, and my mother was always letting herself in to get something or just to have a conversation, whatever I happened to be doing in there. She still does this when I visit!
Me too...but I didn't mind it and it's the same in our house now.

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I still change in front of my 5-year-old and often he comes in the bathroom when I am in there. I have no problems with that. I figure if one of use becomes uncomfortable with it, it will stop. However, I will not be in the bathroom with another adult except for my bff. The very thought of seeing my mom naked or using the bathroom creeps me out.

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I don't think you're weird, but I would never do it. To me, the bathroom is a place where I expect privacy. My children have been taught from a very early age that when I am in the bathroom I expect privacy. I think if that's what they are used to then they don't question it.

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