I agree with the PP who said to contact the media. I think they will do some sort of expose about the safety of pools or whatever. I hope that something good comes of this horrible situation. Although, Thank G-d the boy is ok.
It's become so depressing at our local neighborhood pool. They won't let the children wear waterwings or use kickboards or anything. Our 10-year-old's a strong swimmer, but it'd be so nice for me if our 5-year-old could wear the wings so I could swim at her side and get some exercise myself instead of needing to stand up and hold her.
Don't get me wrong: I don't "trust" waterwings to guard the safety of my child. I'd still be there at her side to help her should she run into any trouble. But, from what the pool staff has told me, they quit allowing waterwings because some parents think their children don't need supervision if they're wearing them.
They should swim test for the kickboards rather than banning them outright.
It's irresponsible to have a pool and not have lifeguards. My family doesn't belong to facilities that don't have lifeguards. (Our YMCA has lifeguards and requires parents to be in the pool in arm's reach of kids who are under 7 and are non-swimmers.)
I don't care if they have legal liability or not. I wouldn't belong to a club that has a pool and doesn't have a lifeguard. If they can pay "deck supervisors," they can pay lifeguards. It's only fifty cents an hour more.
It should be the parents' responsibility, but plenty of parents are idiots. If you own a facility, you should take some responsibility for your premises and for the kids on your premises.
I didn't have this opinion because I'm a non-swimmer, BTW. I'm an ex-high school swimmer who is currently trains for Olympic distance triathlons. I was a lifeguard in high school.
It's pretty common for a lot of people to stand around in a drowning situation. People don't know what to do. They panic. They hang back because they're poor swimmers. It's important to have a life guard there, because the life guard knows what to do, is capable of implementing the rescue, and can be the designated person in charge.
OP gets huge props for jumping in when nobody else was willing to do it. You're a hero.
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your title is a little misleading. and it was even more terrifying to read.
so instead of saying 'Drowned' (which means past event. which means he is already dead) it would really be helpful if you said 'nearly or almost drowned'.
I read this article a few days ago. I hope no one ever has to use the info in it, but everyone should give it a read.
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wow, that is horrible. I feel like crying right now from reading it. I am so sorry you had to experience that on every level. I am so sorry that little boy had to experience that. I am so sorry the dad is- I don't have a word for it that is appropriate to use here
I am so sorry everyone didn't help you and the poor little boy :cry
I am so glad you saved his life. This may be in this long thread but have you seen the boy since then? Have you called social services to check his family out? I feel very teary eyed from this story.
if you contact the police dept, fire dept, or hospital, they should be able to point you in the direction of someone to talk to who may be more qualified in tis type of circumstance than a regular therapist. around here it's referred to as 'critical incident stress debriefing'.
I would totally consider doing that if you still haven't gotten an answer to your, very understandable and concerning, question.
Sorry this happened to you...but that little boy owes you and the others who helped you his life. So while I'm sorry it happened, I'm glad you were there. I hope you are feeling better.
Your friend's daughter helped to save his life. I hope she understands the magnitude of her courage and strength. You, too.
I would be angry too. I would not join a gym like that. They are not dealing with reality and attempting to cover their a**.... I would ask for my money back and go somewhere where a trained lifeguard is present with children.
Send that little boy an encouraging note about how strong and valuable he is. That was probably traumatic for him and he needs to know how others saw HIM in that situation. Encourage the girl who saved him, too. She is probably shaken up too.
Mandy, you should talk to her, it might help you heal. But I agree with others you should follow your own path-