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I am having one of these days where I just want to get drunk. Sounds horrible, right? I am not a drinker at all (maybe a glass of wine here or there or non alcoholic beer). But lately I am bombarded from all the sides. I am just so worn out Financial troubles, husband working crazy hours, suspicious thoughts and fighting because of it, my family living overseas and barely any friends here, a very active 2.5. yo and an infant. I am just feeling like getting drunk to get away from it all.
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Well, you'll just wake up with a hangover and the same problems

Seriously, though, I feel ya. I had a day like that a couple of weeks ago. I just felt like leaving my house for awhile and going out for drinks. So, I say, have a drink, it might make you feel a little better. Just don't go overboard.
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Hugs Mama.

I often have days where I feel like a drink...so I am not a good influence. I say have a nice glass of wine or a good beer, put your feet up for a minute & enjoy. Or for me, sometimes when I am making dinner, it makes me feel really content to have a drink while cooking. I feel like a normal person or something??? Weird, I know.

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Don't do it. It won't improve the situation whatsoever and hangovers are no fun anyway.

Is there any chance you can go somewhere and take a break and just have some me-time for a while? Depending on what you're into it could be a jog around the neighborhood, a pedicure at a local salon, a few hours with a good book under a shady tree, a spa treatment or two, a solo hike on a local trail, etc. etc.? Alcohol probably isn't the answer here, but you sound overwhelmed and should take care of yourself as much and as often as you care for your family.

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I don't have a drink when I'm the only grownup home. No way. Anything could happen. When dh is home.. I have a cider or a glass of wine if I've had a tough day. I have teens.. there are some tough days round here.
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I often feel the same way, only I think alcohol tastes like troll toe fungus. I often wish I could 'escape' with a glass of wine.

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You are right, ladies. The drink is not the solution. On top of everything I nurse and cosleep with my infant. So I am not going to get drunk. I just don't know how to get away from it all. I can't even leave my babies because my infant does not take a bottle at all and cries when anyone tries to hold her besides me, even her father. The only person who she was content with was my cousin who just left and will not be back for at least another 6 months.
and I have a splitting headache to top it all
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I often feel the same way, only I think alcohol tastes like troll toe fungus. I often wish I could 'escape' with a glass of wine.

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You made me smile with your analogy I don't know what it is but it sounds interestingly disgusting
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I'm so sorry Mama. Our dd2 also wont take a bottle & is very attached to me. It makes it really hard. I had a gift certificate for a massage a few weeks ago that was going to expire. Right near our house, was gone 65 mins. Walked in the door & dd2 was screaming.

Makes it kind of impossible to leave the house to do anything on your own.


Incidentally, I never suggested getting drunk. One drink would not render someone drunk & a danger to their kids or incapable of breastfeeding, cosleeping, dealing with an emergency.

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I'm so sorry Mama. Our dd2 also wont take a bottle & is very attached to me. It makes it really hard. I had a gift certificate for a massage a few weeks ago that was going to expire. Right near our house, was gone 65 mins. Walked in the door & dd2 was screaming.

Makes it kind of impossible to leave the house to do anything on your own.


Incidentally, I never suggested getting drunk. One drink would not render someone drunk & a danger to their kids or incapable of breastfeeding, cosleeping, dealing with an emergency.
See, I would love a glass of nice red wine. I don't think it would make me drunk or anything. I just don't have any in the house and I can;t go to the liquor store with two kids. and my DH is not answering his phone...
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maybe not immediately, but you can have dh pick some on his way back home and after kids have gone to bed, maybe you and dh can share a glass. even if you only get peace for ten minutes, it is at least some relaxation for 10 mins.

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I think after DH gets home you should hand him the baby for a little bit and go take a nice bath. Take care of yourself mama.

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I'd be terrible. Cuz, I'd bring the rum and lemonade over.

If you lived in this neighborhood, we'd have you out in the lawn chair with a drink in your hand and your kids would be running all over the street with our kids.
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I think after DH gets home you should hand him the baby for a little bit and go take a nice bath. Take care of yourself mama.

Just make sure your dh brings home chocolate. You can sit in the tub, read a good book and eat chocolate. It's better than wine anyway and doesn't give you a hangover.

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nak

this thread has made me want wine, chocolate & lemonade...lol


it would be great if he could stop & pick up chocolate (dark, of course) & a bottle of red that you could each have a glass of, while you are in the tub & he helps with the kids. worst case scenario (this is what would go down in my house) dh could sit in the bathroom with you so your lo can still see you & doesn't freak out.

and try to cut yourself some slack during the day...it's ok to turn on the tv for your kids so you can sit down & rub your temples, take a tylenol...or better yet, take a hot shower. i am learning to not try & live up to some image of a mother/wife i think i should be. and it's a damn good thing i am learning it since i am so NOT cutting it at the image!!!!

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Well red wine would make my headache worse...

I find a cup of tea can do wonders. Pair it with a good book. In fact, I've had a rough day and I think I'm going to go up and make myself a cup of Sleepytime. I love that tea.

I hope your day is better tomorrow. (((hugs)))
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I'd be terrible. Cuz, I'd bring the rum and lemonade over.
How does that taste? Like lemonade?
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I'll be over in 20 minutes with a couple of bottles of Merlot.

This week in particular, I am feeling the exact same way. These are the days that make me wish I had an on-call nanny. And weren't 34 weeks pregnant.


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You are right, ladies. The drink is not the solution. On top of everything I nurse and cosleep with my infant. So I am not going to get drunk. I just don't know how to get away from it all. I can't even leave my babies because my infant does not take a bottle at all and cries when anyone tries to hold her besides me, even her father. The only person who she was content with was my cousin who just left and will not be back for at least another 6 months.
and I have a splitting headache to top it all
Try to figure out what else soothes your soul. This winter, I either had a glass of red wine or a cup of tea with milk and honey at 4:30 every day, and my 4 year old and I would curl up on the couch and watch Giada on Food Network. That was my relaxy time. Just a little thing but I looked forward to it all those cold days!
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Well, ladies, I did get my nice glass of red wine I am feeling much better today. I would take you up on your offer to come and enjoy this wine together. I wish I lived in the proximity to those of you who offered. Thanks for all your nice words! You guys made me smile yesterday when I really did not feel like it at all. You know all these expectations being a perfect mother, wife and a homemaker need to go. I am forgetting about myself a lot lately and it's getting to me. This morning I made a vow to myself - I WILL remember me and do things just for me once in a while. I hope it does not sound selfish.
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I'll be over in 20 minutes with a couple of bottles of Merlot.

This week in particular, I am feeling the exact same way. These are the days that make me wish I had an on-call nanny. And weren't 34 weeks pregnant.

LOVE Merlot!
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This morning I made a vow to myself - I WILL remember me and do things just for me once in a while. I hope it does not sound selfish.
actually i think not taking care of yourself is v. SELFISH of you.

because ultimately you come to a breaking point. and everyone around you protests because you have brought them up to expect you you you all the time.


soooo glad you had your glass of wine.

its v. v. important that you do something - anything for yourself at least once a way. whether that is just sitting back and enjoying a glass of icy cold water or picking a flower and putting it in your hair. or making sure you change your clothes everyday and not look frumpy ya know.

whatever it takes.

i think only when we take care of ourselves do we actually BECOME the perfect mother.

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