I totally hear and understand ya!
: Hope I don't get flamed too! I could have written that post myself, with the exception that I am now doing things that give me balance. That's the key, at least for me and my family. Otherwise, I would totally feel the same way. What you are doing is so incredibly important, as you already realize
, but it really only affects your family right now. I won't go into the details of how wonderful it is to be a SAHM, because that isn't what your OP was about. You also seem to have a very good grasp of the benefits to your family.
Aside from that, however, IMHO you are an individual too. You were a person with talents before having kids. Those talents don't just go away (whether academic, artistic, leadership, etc), but they can certainly stagnate if not used. You can certainly use those talents later on in life, but that is also easier said than done. Offering that as an excuse is just a little too pat, IMO. In many fields, out of sight is out of mind. Sad but true. Someone else is always there to do the work, write the book, paint that painting, etc. Also, as you get older, and have more kids, responsibilities, bills, etc, it is not as easy to "get back into the field" whatever that field may be.
In my experience, I have seen too many women who devoted themselves completely to hearth and home, and now that their kids are teens and in college, they have nothing for themselves, except maintaining the house. That's fine, if it is for you. But, if you have talents that you don't use, then it might not be enought for you. KWIM?
Maybe you can get back into using some of your talents. Do you have anyone who can help you out with babysitting if you choose to get back into doing some things. IMHO, I think a balanced woman makes a balanced and happy mother. We were women before we became mothers. Being a mother is a blessing and a bonus, but it shouldn't take away from our individuality
as women. Ok, I'll get off my soapbox now. Just wanted to let you know that I hear you and I understand!