Right now we have a sitter come once a week for 1.5-3 hours to watch DD for us, she started about 2 months ago. She cooks dinner for the two of them, cleans up their messes and then they play, read etc. no TV. Our sitter is in her mid 20's with great referrals - she wonderful she fits us so well and our DD loves her. We pay her $10/hr but tend to round up some (like tonight she was at our house for 1.5 hrs, we gave her $20 - but the round up isn't always that high.)
Lately (the last two weeks) our sitter has brought gift(s) for DD - silly bands last week and this week silly bands and a tea set. I don't think the the silly bands are the brand name ones (hence the spelling) and the tea set was $5.
DH and I aren't sure is we should say anything to discourage weekly gifts. DD already loves the sitter and doesn't need gifts for that, not that that is why we think she is bring them - they are just for fun. DH and I just don't want our sitter to feel she has to bring them and we feel bad that she is spending money on our daughter while we are paying for her to watch our DD - Does that make sense?
Anyone else have this experience? any suggestions? Do we just leave it alone?
My only concern would be if it went past two times in a row, then I might say something just so your child doesn't come to expect it. Maybe "I know that you love buying X gifts and she really loves getting them. I'm worried that she will come to expect it though, so maybe its not a good idea to do it every time?"
And, of course, your child should be saying thank you and maybe even making a thank you picture or something.
Also I love buying little kids things my kids have are too big for and as a teen I would have loved to have a good reason to buy a few stickers or silly bands. nothing i needed for myself but even now as a mom, I enjoy picking those sorts of things out and finding ones that will make my kids squeal with delight. So much fun. Let the sitter have her fun.
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