I wanted to share some of our positive update here.
Since the playground bullying we've been dealing with seems at least partly related to the fact that I support my girls' freedom to be active and rambunctious, and to get dirty and not be concerned about keeping their legs together, the stuff we've been learning and the positive results we've been getting seem just as applicable to this thread as they do to "Claiming Our Neighborhoods."
Someone on the other thread posted a link to an awesome article (which also has links to an awesome site where we've been reading). Here's the first link: http://wondertime.go.com/learning/ar...our-child.html
Anyhow, I'm realizing that sexism is actually a form of bullying, so these articles are great for equipping my girls for dealing with that, too.
Today my 10yo was hanging upside down on one of the gymnastics bars, practicing swinging by her knees and jumping, in the hopes that she'll eventually land on her feet...
And a 10yo boy who is part of the bullying group came up to her, and each time she swung her head up he was looking into her face saying "You're dusty" and she just kept calmly saying, "That's nice" and going on with what she was doing until he moved on.
I could see him standing there but was too far away to hear the interchange (she told me about it later), and rather than rushing to be involved, I had just watched to make sure that he didn't make any physical contact with dd.
I feel very proud of dd and she seems to feel pretty proud of herself, too.
By the way, the "dusty" thing is kind of one of the ways that this group likes to make fun of my dd, along with commenting that she wears the same clothes a lot, swings with her legs apart, etcetera ...
Some folks may not see this stuff as directly sexist, but I find it hard to believe that they'd target a boy for these same characteristics, so I DO feel that we are combating sexism as well as bullying by being ourselves and choosing not to get ruffled any more by their comments.
As more and more time passes without them being able to create the "ruffle" affect in us, they seem to be trying less and less. I'm hoping these same principles can be applied to our sexist society at large