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#31 of 44 Old 10-05-2010, 04:51 PM
 
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depends on how sick they are and what they are sick with. but yeah. I live in the midwest. Everyone is aways sick with something.

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I'm with a lot of the other posters. If a kid is really sick, they shouldn't be out and about anyway, they should be at home recovering. But a little cold isn't a big deal.

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My son has allergies and gets sinus infections also. There are/were times if we let a runny nose get or slight cough stop us he would have played for months.

If there is no fever, child isn't lethargic then I chill out and let them have fun.
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Most of the time no. Even a simple cold in another child turns into croup or pneumonia with DD2 who has serious asthma. I don't keep us in a bubble and I know she is going to get sick, which she is always. I make sure our playmates know that if we are having a playdate, they need to let me know if there child is sick, no matter if it is just a cold. That way I have the ability to say no and I always let people know as well. I can't control the kid coughing at the store but someone coming over to my house, you had better tell me or else you risk me asking you to leave.

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If they play every day anyway, they are generally contagious before symptoms show so there is nothing to be gained by keeping them apart when sick. But, I cannot really see why a sick child should be out and about playing instead of at home. I guess maybe you mean if it is just a cold or something?

Logically, if they play daily, there is no point to separating them when sick. But I personally would not want my child around someone else who is sneezing a bunch or hacking or vomiting, etc.
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But I definitely agree with others that a runny nose alone would not bother me. My oldest in particular always had horrid allergies so he never would have played with anyone if we let that stop us.
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If they are kids we see all the time anyway, I figure we were likely exposed before the friends became symptomatic. So as long as the kid is well enough to be out & about (i.e. not feverish or weak or hacking up a lung) then I don't limit interactions. If they are clearly too sick to be out then yes, I would limit interactions.
This. Also a cold is contagious for about 5 days and is more contagious before a person has symptoms.

People with allergies can seem sick when it's really just pollen or a change in seasons type of thing.
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I'm with the minor colds/illness are no problem crowd. I figure most people feel this way unless their child has a compromised immune system. I do give folks a heads up even if it is just a cold though as I figure it is up to each parent to decide what they are comfortable with and I would also say "Hey, it's just a minor cold, but if she gets worse, please call me so I can come pick her up." As who doesn't want their mommy when they are really sick, right?

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No, I definitely try to keep ds away from children (even if they have a minor illness.) It's impossible to do that while he's in school which annoys me. Oh, my son has an immune deficiency and gets sick very easily. What looks like a minor cold or tummy bug in one child often turns into something serious with my son (which lands him in the hospital all the time.)

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I try to avoid having the kids around sick kids. But I have a hard time here in Mississippi b/c everyone calls everything "Sinus problems" Seriously. Everyone diagnoses EVERYTHING as Sinuses. I either don't know the extent of Sinus issues, or people around here don't know what they are talking about. I feel like it's their way of not taking responsibility for illness, like keeping their kids home etc. So I am very wary and don't trust people when they tell me they aren't really sick, it's just sinuses. I ask for more symptoms. And if I can somehow determine (in my own opinion) that maybe it's just a cold, I might be around them.
(My MIL just said that about my husband last night in fact when I was describing his condition. Which is most definitely a cold. But she immediatly siad "Yeah, it's prob. sinus stuff. There is some kind of sinus thing in the air, everyone has it" What does that even mean?!?!!)

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I try to avoid having the kids around sick kids. But I have a hard time here in Mississippi b/c everyone calls everything "Sinus problems" Seriously.
Sinusitis is usually a complication of a cold or caused by allergies. It's an infection in the sinuses, not necessarily something that isn't contagious. Sounds like you should assume anyone who says sinuses means a cold effecting their sinuses, in your neck of the woods. They aren't necessarily trying to be misleading though I am used to people meaning they have chronic sinus problems and aren't infectious, in my area. It's kind of like when people say they just have a cough. They don't have a cough for no reason. It's usually because of a cold. It might be a lingering thing and they might not be contagious anymore. They might be susceptible to coughs and always get a cough with their colds (my sister always got asthma). Or the cough might be due to allergies.

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I do. I'm generally not too concerned with exposure to a minor illness.

But I always give a warning to others, because I know not everyone believes the same way as I do.
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For me it depends on the kid. Not nessessarily the fact that he/she is sick. (and by sick I mean 'cold' sick, most kids with the flu are usually feverish and don't feel like playing anyway)

If the kid is responsible enough to wipe his/her own nose/face and flush the tissue, fine, come on over to play. But if I even have an inkling that they're going to drip/smear/blow snot all over my sofa/my kids toys/my good wool rug/ etc then forget it. Stay home.
Seriously there is nothing grosser than sitting down on my sofa later in the evening and putting my hand in....well you know.

I know my kids are going to get sick anyway, whether it's brought in the house by a friend or picked up at school.
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Sinusitis is usually a complication of a cold or caused by allergies. It's an infection in the sinuses, not necessarily something that isn't contagious. Sounds like you should assume anyone who says sinuses means a cold effecting their sinuses, in your neck of the woods. They aren't necessarily trying to be misleading though I am used to people meaning they have chronic sinus problems and aren't infectious, in my area. It's kind of like when people say they just have a cough. They don't have a cough for no reason. It's usually because of a cold. It might be a lingering thing and they might not be contagious anymore. They might be susceptible to coughs and always get a cough with their colds (my sister always got asthma). Or the cough might be due to allergies.
This is how I view sinus issues as well. Allergies is one thing. But I kid you not when I say that most people claim sinuses for e.v.e.r.y.t.h.i.n.g! That's why I'm wary. It's likely a cold or some kind of infectious illness.

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