Ds1 has a neighbor friend who is occasionally sick, and his mom (also my friend) never gives me a heads up about it. I used to tell her when ds was sick, but she's always said she doesn't care, so I stopped. If I told her to give me a heads up, she would.
I'm just not sure about keeping ds from playing with his friend. They play nearly every day, and are "best friends," so he would really miss playing with him. Otoh, ds1 is in school and it would be a major bummer to have him miss, plus ds2 is 1yo and he's miserable to be around when he's sick.
Becky, partner to Teague, SAHM to Keagan (7yo), Jonah (2yo)
I always try to give others heads up if any of my kids are feeling sick. They always seem to appreciate it.
My advice may not be appropriate for you. That's ok. You are just fine how you are and I am the right kind of me.
Our kids spend a lot of time on public transit. It would be silly for us to deny play dates over a runny nose and then to turn around and take the kids onto a crowded subway.
Our kids don't get sick much though. We have four kids ranging in age from 1 year to 6.5 years and I can count the number of prescriptions we've had filled on one hand with fingers left over. I might feel differently if I had a child who was prone to infections. I definitely try my best to respect parents who want the heads up.
I wanted to send her home, but it got pretty late and I hate confrontation, so I just stayed rather annoyed. She said she'd been sick for a couple days, but had went to school. She was definitely calmer and more sedentary than usual. Knock on wood, but so far no one in my house seems to have a bug.
So, yeah - I guess I let them play with sick kids. But I don't like it, and think it's inconsiderate to not keep your cold-laden kid at home... or at least give a heads up.
And if my child was sick too, even if it's just a runny nose, I'd let the other parents make the call if it was a playdate.
That said, we DID bow out of family dinner last weekend when I heard one of them had pink eye and would definitely avoid a get-together if they had fever/diarrhea/vomiting. But in my part of the world people don't generally take their kids out if they're feeling that horrible anyway, so it's kind of a non-issue.
- C + T = DS 08/08 DD 02/12 and D? sometime around March 16/2014
Mama to three
Anything involving a fever for more than 2 days or stomach bugs with vomitting I appreciate a head's up. Because then it disrupts stuff. Bigger stuff obviously I would like to know, although I may actually want my kids to catch it. For example measles or rubella.
I really hate getting sick and will avoid people with a bad cold or worse. But I don't try to control the situation with people we see all the time when it's just a mild cold. We'd never get together, otherwise. Plus, ds is always sniffly so I don't want to make a big deal and then present my sniffling child.
Depends on what you mean by "sick".
I care about vomiting, diarrhea and HIGH fevers. A runny nose or feeling a little bit under the weather? I don't mind and I wouldn't warn anyone about.
If it is contagious I would want a heads up because I have to work...And I don't want L getting sick if I can help it...If it isn't like a simple little cold I don't care...I think sometimes we need a few germs to keep us healthier in the long run..
I base my decision on if I would send the kid to school with it. If I would feel comfortable sending that child to school, then it's OK to play with them.
i do, though, hate when ANYONE brings a knowingly sick kid somewhere. i have had phone calls before playdates form friends who say, X woke up with a snotty nose and no fever, wanna still play? chances are, i will, but to not inform before bringing a sick kid makes me irate.
also, there are friends that i know have serious asthma issues and so i will not knowingly expose them if we have even little colds. their mom is usually cool with little colds ( i mean its everywhere anyway) but i don't like knowing she got a cold (which required her asthma treatment) because of us.