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#31 of 32 Old 11-01-2010, 10:26 PM
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I've been on the "least favored" side both as a child and as an adult. It is tough. The one thing that I remind myself of is that I can only control myself, and the person that I strive to be is one who is bigger than all of the petty stuff. It still does get to me sometimes - sometimes I feel a bit like a doormat. But I try to remember that I am happy with the choices that I've made, and I don't think I'll ever regret rising above it all.

Your son will likely eventually realize that he's less favored, but it could take a long time. Honestly I didn't fully realize that was the case with my grandparents until I was an adult - there were many clues yet they were good about hiding it. For your son it may sting in the short term, but in the long run it really is their loss.

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Originally Posted by jammomma View Post

And I think our parenting philosophy or style, may be at the root of some my inlaws distance. We are the polar opposites of our BIL/SIL in many respects.

I guess I just need to try and cut my inlaws some slack, they are just people, human beings who make mistakes just like I do.
If it is difference in parenting choices that are creating the distance between the boys you may see the gap start to narrow as they get older. Once all the baby stuff has passed. hopefully.

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