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If you are invited to a friend's house for a holiday party and you are not going to reciprocate, I would bring a small gift for the family or a hostess gift and something for the child, but in general no gift exchange among friends. Where would you draw the line?
If you aren't sure, just ask your friends when it's a bit closer.
Its nice that my kids can get excited about giving to people they love, get involved in the process rather than just buying something off the shelf, and a good afternoon of making gifts is a good way to spend a day. They get to craft and the stuff doesn't end up around our house...its WIN WIN! But I love giving gifts to my friends, especially if it is a sweet little something I made. If it is something small your friends won;t feel obligated to reciprocate and instead can just enjoy the gift.
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Maybe I will see if some friends want to do a recycled/homemade type of gift exchange as part of a holiday party... & would assume this would be in place of any individual gift exchanges...
When ds1 was born, he was the only child in our immediate circle of friends and family. Our closest friends (my bff and my ex's best friend - a couple - and one other old friend of my ex...also a friend of mine, as we had already been together 8 years) did buy gifts for ds1. They were mostly little things. Over the next couple years, the two guys dropped that, for lots of reasons, but my bff kept it up for a long time. She didn't know any other kids, and I think she really enjoyed shopping for him. As we spent less time together (we're still very close, emotionally, and can talk about anything, but we don't actually see each other often), she stopped buying for him. None of my other friends ever bought him anything, and I'd have been somewhat shocked if they had.
I used to spend a lot of time with one particular family. I did buy Christmas gifts for their kids, but it was a whole exchange, and their kids even got gifts for me (at least at first - paid for by their parents, but chosen by them...I particularly remember the large box of chocolates, wrapped in way too much wrapping paper, with all the caramels already eaten). I was more-or-less a member of the family. (And, actually, I shop for someone, who also shops - or knits - for all my kids, and she's technically a friend, not family, but we don't think of her that way.)
Honestly - I'd ask.
Lisa, lucky mama of Kelly (3/93) , Emma (5/03) , Evan (7/05) , & Jenna (6/09)
Loving my amazing dh, James & forever missing Aaron Ambrose (11/07)
However, I do host a Christmas party playdate at my house for a group of 5 Moms and 7 kids. It's very low key and we do a book exchange. 1 book per family. It works out really well and we all have a nice time.
One family did give ds a gift once. I suppose I wouldn't discourage ds if he wanted to give something to a special friend. I can see making ornaments to give to people we'll be seeing over the holiday. But most people want to cut back so I'll sacrifice myself and graciously accept a gift without reciprocating knowing they will either not repeat the gift giving next year or they will because they really really like to give people things.
OTOH, my crafty DD likes to make cards, and I always allow THAT and will even go to some hassle to deliver the cards to her friends.
I do buy christmas presents for my friends kids but close friends but not every year. As I may not have the funds and can't afford to.
Oh, this year I am doing a stocking exchange with some of my fellow mommy friends. My husband gives good gifts but sucks at remembering my stocking. Last year I filled it with newspaper just so that it didn't look so sad. Then I found out I wasn't the only one in this position so now I am arranging a mother-to-mother stocking swap. I'm hoping it will be a fun opportunity to share recipes and little inexpensive things like knitted dishcloths and the like.
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Kate, mom to 7 year old Djuna and 4 yr old Alden. Missing our good friend Hal the cat who died June 2, 2010
this is because we spend christmas with them.
otherwise no. if we are not spending xmas with them we dont buy each other gifts.
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