Others posting your childs photos on their facebooks.. do you allow it? Why/why not? (and a question!) - Mothering Forums
Forum Jump: 
Reply
 
Thread Tools
#1 of 83 Old 10-30-2010, 01:58 AM - Thread Starter
 
WindyCityMom's Avatar
 
Join Date: Aug 2009
Location: Chicago, IL
Posts: 2,619
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
I'm wondering- do you allow family members and friends to post pictures of your children on their facebook pages? Why or why not?

My MIL has a ton of photos of both of my DDs on her FB. So does FIL, SIL, DHs uncle, DHs aunt, a friend of the family, and so on. MIL frequently posts pictures of my DDs and tags others in them so that they will be notified and look at them. Right now 16yo SIL has a photo of her and my DD as her display picture.

I don't really mind people taking the photos, that's fine. Put them in their photo albums and look back at them KWIM? But when it comes to social networking, I get iffy, just because photos get passed around like no tomorrow on those things. I do have photos of my kids on my own facebook (so does DH), but I don't have every.single.photo that has ever been taken of them on it. Our facebook pages are also set to private.

I also have a blog, which I do post photos on from time to time.

I kind of feel weird with people having our photos on their facebooks. MIL has an entire album dedicated to our kids. I almost want to say something, but feel like I have no real grounds as to say something since I do post photos of my own kids, and also have a public blog (though I don't mention their names in the blog ).

If you were in my position, would you say something? How would you do it? I was thinking of sending a group message to everyone who has our children's pictures on their page. I'm also kind of feeling iffy on posting photos of them on my blog.. but again, it's not a photo album of everything they do- just here and there shots of us doing crafts, etc. I think that everyone else put together has more photos of them online on facebook than I do.

rainbow1284.gif Mama to DD1 (6) DD2 (4) and DD3 (1)
WindyCityMom is offline  
#2 of 83 Old 10-30-2010, 02:10 AM
 
Flower of Bliss's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jun 2006
Posts: 2,618
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
My friends and I take pictures of our kids together, upload them to FB, and tag each other all the time. I personally love it. Another regular at library story club took a few pictures of our girls together at a festival where we ran into each other, and then asked me the next week if I was on FB so she could friend me because she'd uploaded the pictures. It didn't bother me at all. The children's room librarians (who are both also friends of ours on FB ) were very excited to see the pictures of the girls together.

I have many many pictures of my kids uploaded on FB as well (though mine are set to friends only, and I do actually know everyone on my friends list). I tend to not worry to much about it. I gain a great deal of pleasure from sharing pictures of my children. My little brother had a picture of him with my DD1 as his profile picture for awhile. In fact, he has a whole album dedicated to her titled "this girl is my soul" I teared up when I found it. I think one or both of my girls may be in my mom's profile picture too. She mostly joined to see the pictures my cousins and I put up of our little ones.

All of that said, if it bothers you, you certainly have the right to ask them to take the pictures down.

SAHM to flower.gif DD1 8/06 , loveeyes.gif DD2 8/09 , and bfinfant.gifDD3 9/12  married to geek.gif 6/99.  We homeschool.gif, cd.gif, homebirth.jpg, familybed2.gif, and lots of wash.gif and dishes.gif.

Flower of Bliss is offline  
#3 of 83 Old 10-30-2010, 02:19 AM
 
Aubergine68's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jan 2008
Location: in the soul's garden
Posts: 2,942
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
I am very selective about images/info about my children going online, especially as they get older. My dd is now jr high age, for example, old enough that she isn't going to change *that* much more in appearance as she becomes an adult.

I think *she* ought to be the one to have as much say as possible in the images of her that are put out there, ykwim? I don't want some net-savvy stalker or abusive ex or even high-school bully in a few years somehow turning up old facebook or blog pics of her and using them in ways that might embarrass her. Or worse.

I would absolutely use this line of argument to ask friends or family to take down pics of my kids that they had posted.
Aubergine68 is offline  
#4 of 83 Old 10-30-2010, 02:22 AM - Thread Starter
 
WindyCityMom's Avatar
 
Join Date: Aug 2009
Location: Chicago, IL
Posts: 2,619
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
Thanks. I do like sharing photos, don't get me wrong... but I just wonder, sometimes, whose hands they're in. I'd like to hope that everyones pages were set to "friends only", but then again, who are their friends?

I just hate feeling like I'm putting myself in a bubble, but then I feel irresponsible if I decided to "pop" that bubble and disregard it. Sometimes it's hard to tell if I'm being irrational or not, I need outside perspective

rainbow1284.gif Mama to DD1 (6) DD2 (4) and DD3 (1)
WindyCityMom is offline  
#5 of 83 Old 10-30-2010, 02:30 AM
 
Naturallove's Avatar
 
Join Date: Oct 2010
Location: Washington State
Posts: 127
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
I don't have any advice, but I am in almost the exact situation and it does bother me that there on pictures on my kids on facebook that I personally can't control who has access to them. Like you I do not know how to approach the situation because I don't want it to come across as hypocritical or cruel because all MIL wants to do is show off her grandkids... It is such a sticky situation I am interested to hear what others have to say.

Wifey buddamomimg1.png to DH jammin.gif, Mama chicken3.gif to DS 8, DS 6, DD 1
 
homeschool.gif   lactivist.gif    h20homebirth.gif    goorganic.jpg

Naturallove is offline  
#6 of 83 Old 10-30-2010, 02:38 AM - Thread Starter
 
WindyCityMom's Avatar
 
Join Date: Aug 2009
Location: Chicago, IL
Posts: 2,619
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
Naturallove- now that you brought it up I think MIL does want to show off the kids, mostly to her family in Mexico. BUT... we frequently video-chat with them on Skype, so they do get to see them Which I'm happy about.

rainbow1284.gif Mama to DD1 (6) DD2 (4) and DD3 (1)
WindyCityMom is offline  
#7 of 83 Old 10-30-2010, 10:47 AM
 
mamalisa's Avatar
 
Join Date: Sep 2002
Location: Germantown WI
Posts: 8,427
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
I don't really care. I feel like it would be almost impossible to avoid and I don't find it to be a big deal, I certainly don't think it will be for the kids at any point. The only time I've cared is when dh's sister decides to play "SuperAunt" and post pics of my kids when in fact, she doesn't actually care about my kids. She only cares about the appearance of looking like she cares.
mamalisa is offline  
#8 of 83 Old 10-30-2010, 11:08 AM
 
Join Date: Sep 2004
Posts: 3,305
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
No, I don't care because I post them, too.

And in the long run, our images are out there. I don't really know what bad things people could do with the images. I'm sure I could conjure up some pretty creepy things but I prefer not to, and in the end I realize it's not somethng I can either control nor does it really affect us.

That said, I generally ask other parents before I post photos that have images of their children in them.
Hoopin' Mama is offline  
#9 of 83 Old 10-30-2010, 11:11 AM
 
GuildJenn's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jan 2007
Location: Toronto
Posts: 4,776
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
It doesn't bother me. I consider the safety risks really low, and the sheer volume of information is making each individual piece less important. As a trade off for a loving, warm community of people who all care about each other's kids - I'll take the tagging.

I worry more about the high school/university years, but I figure in 10 years the technology will have shifted anyway.

~ Mum to Emily, March 12-16 2004, Noah, born Aug 2005, Liam, born January 2011, and wife to Carl since 1994. ~
GuildJenn is offline  
#10 of 83 Old 10-30-2010, 11:13 AM
 
Join Date: Sep 2008
Location: Cover letter he!!
Posts: 6,548
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
Well, I'm guessing that pic in your avatar is of you and your girls (super cute btw), and its public.

I don't know, people post pics of my ds all the time. It's fine with me, and I use fb as a way of posting pics so that my far away friends can see him grow up in a way. Otherwise they wouldn't see him at all.
Super~Single~Mama is offline  
#11 of 83 Old 10-30-2010, 11:58 AM
 
sammymama's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jun 2010
Posts: 100
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
I'm not a huge FB user so I never really gave this much thought (rather, just admired pics of friends' kids) - UNTIL one of my really good friends started working for Child Protective Services, specifically the internet division. It is definitely not something any of us want to think about, but there definitely *are* people who are obtaining innocent images of babies/kids and using them in not very pleasant/legal ways. So I personally do not post any pics of my babe on FB, and thank anyone who has posted something with my babe in it and then delete it. I also have my settings on friends only, and am very selective about who is my friend. Like I said, I would not have given this much thought until hearing real-life (and very unsettling) thoughts from someone in the internet child-porn field. I'm sure it's one of those things where there is such a small percentage of it happening to you, but it just makes me feel better to refrain from it...
sammymama is offline  
#12 of 83 Old 10-30-2010, 12:04 PM
 
oaktreemama's Avatar
 
Join Date: Oct 2010
Posts: 402
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
I don't care in the least. I am not going to lose any sleep over the really remote chance someone MIGHT take my kid's picture and do "something" with it.

I want my far flung family to see regular pictures of my son and I know they love posting his pic and bragging on his cuteness. I don't let fear dictate my personal life and the enjoyment people get from my pictures and from posting their own.
oaktreemama is offline  
#13 of 83 Old 10-30-2010, 12:33 PM
 
sammymama's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jun 2010
Posts: 100
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
I don't view it as letting fear dictate my personal life (which I avoid as well), so much as a safety issue - the same thing that leads me to erf, delay/no vax, etc. It's simply what you are comfortable with in terms of the safety of your child - if you choose not to post your kids' pic on FC I don't think it implies that you're home hibernating, terrified of what "might be"... just saying...

And OP, I forgot to say - IMO it is definitely your right to ask people to respect your preferences on posting your kids' pics. It is your child - and there are so many other, less public ways for people to share images (something password protected that cannot be shared, for example, like snapfish or shutterfly - you can put darling captions on all pics there as well - and they can be shared only with trusted sources). That's what I do once a month for the extended/ far away family.
sammymama is offline  
#14 of 83 Old 10-30-2010, 12:52 PM
 
gbailey's Avatar
 
Join Date: Mar 2009
Posts: 1,498
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
I don't want people posting pics of my child online. I don't even have pics of my DD or even DH on my facebook page and I don't post pics of other people and/or their children. DH is not a fan of it and neither am I.

OP, I don't think your being irrational. One of my bestfriends coworker posted pics of them on a work trip on facebook and my friend flipped out. This REALLY bothers her. Her coworker doesn't understand why but she was still respectful enough to remove the photos.
gbailey is offline  
#15 of 83 Old 10-30-2010, 01:00 PM
 
Bluegoat's Avatar
 
Join Date: Nov 2008
Location: Nova Scotia
Posts: 2,619
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
Quote:
Originally Posted by sammymama View Post
I'm not a huge FB user so I never really gave this much thought (rather, just admired pics of friends' kids) - UNTIL one of my really good friends started working for Child Protective Services, specifically the internet division. It is definitely not something any of us want to think about, but there definitely *are* people who are obtaining innocent images of babies/kids and using them in not very pleasant/legal ways. So I personally do not post any pics of my babe on FB, and thank anyone who has posted something with my babe in it and then delete it. I also have my settings on friends only, and am very selective about who is my friend. Like I said, I would not have given this much thought until hearing real-life (and very unsettling) thoughts from someone in the internet child-porn field. I'm sure it's one of those things where there is such a small percentage of it happening to you, but it just makes me feel better to refrain from it...

I just don't see how, even if someone "used" images of the kids for something, it would really make any difference to us. If someone wants images of kids, they can snap them on the street without anyone seeing. I mean, I take my kids to the beach - I don't know who might see them.

I don't think the possibility that someone might use them to kidnap my kids is very realistic either.

 I like the mind to be a dustbin of scraps of brilliant fabric, odd gems, worthless but fascinating curiosities, tinsel, quaint bits of carving, and a reasonable amount of healthy dirt.
Bluegoat is offline  
#16 of 83 Old 10-30-2010, 02:18 PM
 
odenata's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jan 2005
Posts: 2,055
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
Quote:
Originally Posted by Bluegoat View Post
I just don't see how, even if someone "used" images of the kids for something, it would really make any difference to us. If someone wants images of kids, they can snap them on the street without anyone seeing. I mean, I take my kids to the beach - I don't know who might see them.

I don't think the possibility that someone might use them to kidnap my kids is very realistic either.
odenata is offline  
#17 of 83 Old 10-30-2010, 02:47 PM
 
BellinghamCrunchie's Avatar
 
Join Date: Sep 2005
Location: Alpha Centauri
Posts: 4,293
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
I also don't care. There are so so so so many images of kids out there in the public domain that trying to put restrictions on how others use photos on facebook is just silly. Anyway, so what if a stranger looks at a picture of your child? Mamas gonna put all of her fears into you. Mama won't let anyone dirty get through.
BellinghamCrunchie is offline  
#18 of 83 Old 10-30-2010, 03:35 PM
 
Aubergine68's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jan 2008
Location: in the soul's garden
Posts: 2,942
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
My leaning towards facebook/internet privacy for images of my kids is *not* so much about fear as it is about the feeling that my kids should grow up feeling that they *own* images of themselves and information about themselves as much as is realistic in the internet age.

Personally, I dislike googling myself and finding all kinds of info/pictures I never gave permission to be posted about me . I'd dislike having all my own baby pictures floating out there; I try not to be excessive about putting pics of my own kids out there. I feel that they should have the right to choose how their online identity is created when they are older, not to grow up so much within an identity that their family has created for them online. There is enough of that in real life...just my opinion, though. I do think about my kids' future employers and romantic prospects googling them and somehow finding the stuff I put out there before I publish it.

I should probably go back and edit a lot of info about my kids out of my old mdc posts to be consistent, just in case my identity here is revealed. Someone did recognize me here once, someone I like and trust, but still....

ETA: I always imagine, what if my kid (or some family member close to them) ever became famous (or, gods forbid, infamous?). What dirt could the reporters dig up on 'em? As cute as it is, do I *really* want the pic of my son when he stripped himself down and painted his body all over with bright red paint at the age of two to turn up in his biography or on reality tv someday?
Aubergine68 is offline  
#19 of 83 Old 10-30-2010, 04:06 PM
 
CherryBombMama's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jan 2010
Location: Southern California
Posts: 875
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
i dont mind other family members taking pictures of my ds and posting it. my ds is adorable and i love to see how other people catch him in the moment

my brother, OTOH, is adopted and is actually my cousin, and we dont put up pictures of him on the internet. his birth parents havent seen him in years, so they dont know what he looks like. if they had a picture, there is a very high chance that his birth parents will try to kidnap him. his birth mom (my aunt) is a bit of a con artist.

so it all depends, i guess.

             Coffee, Vintage and Kids.  My Life.
              reading.gif  jammin.gifdust.gif   1sttri.gif

                        cat.gifcat.gifcat.gif

                                      

CherryBombMama is offline  
#20 of 83 Old 10-30-2010, 04:18 PM
 
EdnaMarie's Avatar
 
Join Date: Sep 2006
Posts: 6,148
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
I'm totally okay with it. My rule is, no naked or bath photos on Facebook as they do attract creepies. My mom loves to see pictures of my kids other people post. All of them have their privacy settings set to "friends only".

I do see the point about not having your pictures out there, but then... we walk around every day and people could remember us and use our face in their memory, even if not on paper.

I used to feel differently. I don't know what changed. I guess I just realized... I can't really keep it all private. I mean, anyway, someone could get a picture of me from my mom!

It's not that the stay-at-home-parent gets to stay home with the kids. The kids get to stay home with a parent. Lucky Mom to DD1 (4 y) and DD2 (18 mo), Wife to Mercenary Dad
EdnaMarie is offline  
#21 of 83 Old 10-30-2010, 04:18 PM - Thread Starter
 
WindyCityMom's Avatar
 
Join Date: Aug 2009
Location: Chicago, IL
Posts: 2,619
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
Quote:
Originally Posted by Aubergine68 View Post
My leaning towards facebook/internet privacy for images of my kids is *not* so much about fear as it is about the feeling that my kids should grow up feeling that they *own* images of themselves and information about themselves as much as is realistic in the internet age.

Personally, I dislike googling myself and finding all kinds of info/pictures I never gave permission to be posted about me . I'd dislike having all my own baby pictures floating out there; I try not to be excessive about putting pics of my own kids out there. I feel that they should have the right to choose how their online identity is created when they are older, not to grow up so much within an identity that their family has created for them online. There is enough of that in real life...just my opinion, though. I do think about my kids' future employers and romantic prospects googling them and somehow finding the stuff I put out there before I publish it.

I should probably go back and edit a lot of info about my kids out of my old mdc posts to be consistent, just in case my identity here is revealed. Someone did recognize me here once, someone I like and trust, but still....

ETA: I always imagine, what if my kid (or some family member close to them) ever became famous (or, gods forbid, infamous?). What dirt could the reporters dig up on 'em? As cute as it is, do I *really* want the pic of my son when he stripped himself down and painted his body all over with bright red paint at the age of two to turn up in his biography or on reality tv someday?
You have some excellent points, and I think that that's something for me to consider for sure.

rainbow1284.gif Mama to DD1 (6) DD2 (4) and DD3 (1)
WindyCityMom is offline  
#22 of 83 Old 10-30-2010, 04:33 PM
 
rachieface's Avatar
 
Join Date: Mar 2010
Location: The Village within the City
Posts: 421
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
Quote:
Originally Posted by Bluegoat View Post
I just don't see how, even if someone "used" images of the kids for something, it would really make any difference to us. If someone wants images of kids, they can snap them on the street without anyone seeing. I mean, I take my kids to the beach - I don't know who might see them.
This. We live in the city and the other day my hubby and I were on the bus with our (admittedly adorable ) son, and an older woman could not stop talking about how cute he is. Next thing we knew, we looked over and she was covertly (well, not really but trying to be) taking cell phone pictures of him. LOTS of them. Yeah, it freaked me out and I thought about saying something, but she was definitely a little bit mentally "off" so I felt bad and let it go.

Anyway, that's just to say that in this age of technology, anyone really can take a picture of my son easily without me knowing it (most people are a bit more tech savvy than the elderly woman on the public bus, and it took me a few minutes to realize what she was doing). My sisters and J's grandparents live all over the world and absolutely love seeing his photos and we find facebook to be the easiest way to share them. My privacy settings are on friend's only, but even if they weren't I wouldn't be super concerned.

I'm Rach, full-time mama and part-time doula.  I love my city life with Mr. J stillheart.gif, Little J diaper.gif (05/03/10), and brand new Baby V love.gif (02/11/13)!

rachieface is offline  
#23 of 83 Old 10-30-2010, 08:30 PM
 
Ninetales's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jan 2009
Posts: 1,068
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
I do allow it. Really the only person who posts pictures regularly is my mother because she is a hobby photographer. I don't have a problem with it because I have no reason to fear what anyone would do with such pictures.

Mama to Elsa Louise: 2/10, 13lbs 8 oz  energy.gifand Oscar Allen: 7/12, 13lbs 8 oz  babyboy.gif

Ninetales is offline  
#24 of 83 Old 10-31-2010, 12:18 AM
 
JudiAU's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jun 2008
Location: Where creepy facebook-featured threads can't find me
Posts: 3,593
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 1 Post(s)
No I don't allow it, especially on Facebook. Now Facebook owns your kids. Nobody seems to understand what they are giving away. The web is eternal.

It seems like a lot of parenting blogs are practically selling their lives and kids. Is the add revenue worth it? I fully expect their to plenty of bitter "blog kid" books in a few years. "my mom starved us to death for pretty pictures and it was all a lie"
JudiAU is offline  
#25 of 83 Old 10-31-2010, 10:48 AM
 
GuildJenn's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jan 2007
Location: Toronto
Posts: 4,776
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
Quote:
Originally Posted by JudiAU View Post
No I don't allow it, especially on Facebook. Now Facebook owns your kids. Nobody seems to understand what they are giving away. The web is eternal.

It seems like a lot of parenting blogs are practically selling their lives and kids. Is the add revenue worth it? I fully expect their to plenty of bitter "blog kid" books in a few years. "my mom starved us to death for pretty pictures and it was all a lie"
I'm more looking forward to whichever Duggar kid writes the "what it was really like" book.

I still don't have a problem with tagged photos. I love parenting blogs for getting a look inside families and I have only rarely seen things where I felt privacy was being violated. For the most part I admire the writers - I remember how isolating infertility was and how great it was to connect with people who were willing to write about how it really made them feel.

I have way, way more problems with things like "reward cards" where they match my every purchase to my area code to determine how many people in my area use Crest & read O Magazine. (And trust me...they do.) In the end people probably make about the same in discounts on those as they do on blog ad revenue on most blogs (not talking about the big ones).

~ Mum to Emily, March 12-16 2004, Noah, born Aug 2005, Liam, born January 2011, and wife to Carl since 1994. ~
GuildJenn is offline  
#26 of 83 Old 10-31-2010, 01:53 PM
 
Ninetales's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jan 2009
Posts: 1,068
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
Quote:
Originally Posted by JudiAU View Post
Nobody seems to understand what they are giving away.
Ok, then, please explain it to me. What am I giving away?

Honestly, I can understand people not wanting their kids' pictures posted online for whatever reason. Their choice, not mine. But I heavily resent the implication that I am ignorant or neglectful because I have looked into the issue and don't have a problem with it.

Mama to Elsa Louise: 2/10, 13lbs 8 oz  energy.gifand Oscar Allen: 7/12, 13lbs 8 oz  babyboy.gif

Ninetales is offline  
#27 of 83 Old 10-31-2010, 03:48 PM
 
EdnaMarie's Avatar
 
Join Date: Sep 2006
Posts: 6,148
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
Quote:
Now Facebook owns your kids
Really? I don't see any tags on them.

Facebook is not the only place I have pictures of my kids. I have pictures of them on Flickr as well. I also have my hard drive backed up!

I'm not sure if you understand that I'm really, truly okay with people seeing my kids in public and having their pictures out there. I don't think we have a choice, unless we stay in all day long or wear tchadris or something.

It's not that the stay-at-home-parent gets to stay home with the kids. The kids get to stay home with a parent. Lucky Mom to DD1 (4 y) and DD2 (18 mo), Wife to Mercenary Dad
EdnaMarie is offline  
#28 of 83 Old 10-31-2010, 05:10 PM
 
JessBB's Avatar
 
Join Date: Apr 2007
Posts: 234
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
OP: I say this with all gentleness, but:
- You put pics of your kids on FB
- You blog about your family
- You come here, to a public forum, and talk about your in-laws and extended family a not-inconsiderate amount.

I think that if you decided to try and control how said in-laws (who prob have NO idea the things you've said about them here) post pics of your kids on fb, you'd be a wee bit hypocritical and it will NOT go well. I figure my options are media silence or acceptance that my kids are in the public domain. I've gone with the latter. GL.
JessBB is offline  
#29 of 83 Old 10-31-2010, 05:33 PM
 
Theoretica's Avatar
 
Join Date: Feb 2008
Location: Inside my head (it's quiet here!)
Posts: 3,825
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
Quote:
Originally Posted by Bluegoat View Post
I just don't see how, even if someone "used" images of the kids for something, it would really make any difference to us. If someone wants images of kids, they can snap them on the street without anyone seeing. I mean, I take my kids to the beach - I don't know who might see them.

I don't think the possibility that someone might use them to kidnap my kids is very realistic either.


Quote:
Originally Posted by BellinghamCrunchie View Post
I also don't care. There are so so so so many images of kids out there in the public domain that trying to put restrictions on how others use photos on facebook is just silly. Anyway, so what if a stranger looks at a picture of your child? Mamas gonna put all of her fears into you. Mama won't let anyone dirty get through.
again

Quote:
Originally Posted by JudiAU View Post
No I don't allow it, especially on Facebook. Now Facebook owns your kids. Nobody seems to understand what they are giving away. The web is eternal.

It seems like a lot of parenting blogs are practically selling their lives and kids. Is the add revenue worth it? I fully expect their to plenty of bitter "blog kid" books in a few years. "my mom starved us to death for pretty pictures and it was all a lie"
This seems a little more than fear based and overly dramatic, but I could be reading it wrong? Could you elaborate on what you mean exactly?

GOOD moms let their kids lick the beaters. GREAT moms turn off the mixer first!
Humanist Woman Wife , & Friend Plus Mama to 6 (3 mos, 2, 9, 13, 17, 20)
Theoretica is offline  
#30 of 83 Old 10-31-2010, 06:21 PM
 
karemore's Avatar
 
Join Date: Oct 2008
Location: Hudson Valley NY
Posts: 739
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
I was uncomfortable when my sister first posted my daughter's photos on facebook. But now that I use facebook all the time it doesn't bother me.

I got some GREAT photos of my daughter that people posted from my sister's wedding this summer. It never occured to me to be upset that so many people were posting pics of my child. She WAS an awesome flower girl

Naked photos of course would be off limits, and anything that would embarrass her. Or if DD didn't want her photos on there. She often gets stopped at church or playgroups and getting complimented on things people saw on facebook.

In your situation I wouldn't say anything. If you didn't want their photos out there and didn't post them yourself it would be completely different.
karemore is offline  
Reply

Quick Reply
Message:
Drag and Drop File Upload
Drag files here to attach!
Upload Progress: 0
Options

Register Now

In order to be able to post messages on the Mothering Forums forums, you must first register.
Please enter your desired user name, your email address and other required details in the form below.
User Name:
If you do not want to register, fill this field only and the name will be used as user name for your post.
Password
Please enter a password for your user account. Note that passwords are case-sensitive.
Password:
Confirm Password:
Email Address
Please enter a valid email address for yourself.
Email Address:

Log-in

Human Verification

In order to verify that you are a human and not a spam bot, please enter the answer into the following box below based on the instructions contained in the graphic.



User Tag List

Thread Tools
Show Printable Version Show Printable Version
Email this Page Email this Page


Forum Jump: 

Posting Rules  
You may post new threads
You may post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off
Trackbacks are On
Pingbacks are On
Refbacks are Off