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#1 of 80 Old 11-05-2010, 07:35 PM - Thread Starter
 
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Took DD (2.5 yrs old) with me to the bank to make a deposit. I turned from DD to ask the teller a question. When I turned back to DD she's telling another boy, "mines, mines. gimme" It was an Elmo car that was on the cake for her birthday many months ago.

I asked the little boy (no parent in sight) to please give the car back to DD because we have to go.

"It's mines now. She gave it to me!" I told the little boy it was fine for him to play with her car but now that we're leaving the bank he has to return it. He shakes his head no.

The mother must have been on the side dealing with something else because she suddenly comes over with lots of attitude I told her the boy refused to return my daughters toy. She asks her son where he got the car and he says, "at school." I told her it's my daughters car that she left our house with and she'd like it back.

Her response? "He says he got it at school. My son wouldn't lie so there's no need for him to return it." It took me half a second to get over my shock but when I did I removed the car from his hand and gave it back to DD, turned on my heels and walked toward the exit door. I could hear the mother cursing me. She called me a f'ing *itch for taking her sons toy. Seriously? I really wanted to give her a piece of my mind but didn't want to engage crazy. Also was in a rush and didn't have time to negotiate with a child about the return of my daughters toy. Oh, the child looked like he was around 5 or 6. I can't believe the mothers reaction.
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Wretched! Didn't the mom know whether or not her kid had the car to begin with?! I mean, I usually have an idea what my kid is carrying around (mostly so that I can keep track that he doesn't lose it). That is seriously over the top.

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Holy crap!!! I think you handled it very well.

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I was so glad to get to the part where you took the car back.
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Wow! That is remarkably badly behaved! Your poor little one (and hers) for having to witness her reaction.

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I think you handled that very well! Much better than I probably would have.

How could she have not realized that it wasn't his? Whenever we get out of the car I always check to see what toys my son has brought with him so I can keep a check on them when we're out.

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Wow. That's crazy. I'm glad you took the toy back, though.
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I'm glad you took it back. So sad for him and his mother that she truly believes he "never lies." How ridiculous! 5 and 6 year olds do, indeed lie. Nearly all of them. They're actually supposed to do that, and you, as their parent, are supposed to teach them not to. If her kid really "never lied" then it would probably be a developmental problem. Just saying.

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That's so sad. I'm so sorry you had to deal with that. Like other pp said I was so glad to read you got the toy back for your DD!! Go mama.

I feel sad for the little boy. From what you describe it sounds like it might be not so nice at his house.
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Wow, that's just crazy! You handled it incredibly well -- I would have been a quivering wreck!
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Thats insane. I'm reading this with my mouth literaly hanging open. Some people are simply freaking crazy. Its there only excuse.
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Mark the calendar because for the first time I have nothing to say beyond...Uh, wha...?

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He knew darned well that she would make him give the toy back if he said he got it from your dd.

What kind of jerk of a parent sets a kid up to lie like that anyway?

(Now I want to search customerssuck.com to see if someone had to deal with that mom coming to complain that the security guard didn't stop you "stealing her kid's toy".)
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Absolutely awful! Way to go on taking it back though!

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What!!! I can't believe some people!!!

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I was so glad to get to the part where you took the car back.
Me, too.
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That was a seriously messed up response from the mother

Glad you stuck up for your daughter. I would have done what you did, took it an left. No time for that nonsense.

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What! Wow, I can't believe that mom. I'd have done the same as the OP and just taken it back and left.
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I'm sorry you had to deal with that! And I'm glad that nobody got hurt.
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That's unbelievable. I bet she reacted the way she did because she felt if she took your DD's toy from her son he would freak out and cause a scene she couldn't handle!

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a 5 or 6 year old doesn't even want an elmo car trinket. that boy obviously enjoys taking things from children much littler than he is, and then lying about it with his mom.

that you took it out of his hand for your daughter.

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Way to go on taking the toy back!


I would have turned around when she started cursing and calmly told her that we were in a bank, therefore I'd be happy to wait while we asked the manager to look at surveillance tapes. But then again my neighborhood is kind of small and I wouldn't want the rumor that I ripped a toy out of some kids hand getting spread around Plus her reaction would probably be priceless.
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Way to go on taking the toy back!


I would have turned around when she started cursing and calmly told her that we were in a bank, therefore I'd be happy to wait while we asked the manager to look at surveillance tapes. But then again my neighborhood is kind of small and I wouldn't want the rumor that I ripped a toy out of some kids hand getting spread around Plus her reaction would probably be priceless.
Priceless! I would love to see the look on her face after saying something like that, ahhhh hindsight.

OP, so glad you took Elmo back!

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You go, mama!

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Taking note, "Let it be known that on the 5th day of November 2010, 14 minutes past the 20th hour..."

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MD- this is about as shocking as the story

GREAT job mama! that is just crazy! when the mom said "he would not lie" i would have said "well he just did" then taken it from him. so sad... he is going to go through life thinking that is ok... you handled it so much better then i would have.

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He clearly does lie since his story changed.

Thinking about this more, I'm really sorry for the kid. Apparently he is assumed to be perfect, which means that it's probably horrible for him when he isn't.
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I am feeling really sorry for that boy too. His mother, at least as much as this one situation is evidence, is really steering him in the wrong direction.

Can you imagine the adulthood he is going to have to endure with having been so mis-guided in childhood?

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I'm still trying to wrap my brain around the mother's reaction. I've never in my life screamed obscenities at anyone, and she did it over an Elmo toy?

Did she truly believe that it belonged to her son and you stole it? Was she embarrassed that you didn't fall for her crap? Was she having a crazy-bad day and this was the tipping point (again, tough to imagine even on my worst day losing it at someone over something like this). Is she just an unbalanced person who screams obscenities at everyone? I just ... don't get it.

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