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#1 of 27 Old 11-22-2010, 10:11 AM - Thread Starter
 
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Is this done?  Do you think it is okay if it is just a quick talking kind of appointment and not like a pap, ya know?


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#2 of 27 Old 11-22-2010, 10:33 AM
 
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I'm sure plenty of people do.  I never have, I've never needed to and it's just much easier not to.

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Yup,

Drs Appts, massage, chiro, bank, whatever, she is usually with me. No one ever blinks an eye.

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yep. Except in my case I take TWO kids with me. Ds has even been with me to get my hair done a couple times when he was under a yr old. No one cared in the least....I breastfed him while they were blowdrying my hair!


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I think it depends on the appointment, depends on the circumstances and depends on the kid. 

 

I took DD with me for my 6 week postnatal check up.  She just hung out in her bucket seat - babies are so easy at that age.

 

When she was about 14 months I had to take her with me to the walk-in clinic when I had strep throat.  My DH was working late and I had no other options, and I *really* needed to go to the doctor.  The appointment was short and we got through it.


Now that she is 2.5yo it would be much, much harder as she is all over the place and very head strong.  In a pinch I would still take her with me to a quick appointment that was urgent, like for a UTI or strep or something, but beyond that I would try to schedule appointments for when DH is home or a friend or Granny could take her for an hour. 

 

The nature of some appointments, like a pap, or the dentist, or the eye doctor, would mean that I wouldn't be able to adequately supervise and that is when trouble happens!


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I do, yes. I'm a SAHM and sometimes DH is not able to take off for appointments. I've taken both with me, and never had a problem.

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Yes, all the time. I always have my two kids on tow.


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All the time. I'm a SAHM with no one to look after the kiddos while I go to an appt. If I can get enough notice to go to an appt, DH has a lot of flexibility at work and he can request to come in and work a late shift that day-but I've got to have at least a week's notice to the appt. If I have little notice (like I'm sick and need an appt that day) then the kids go with. I've never had an issue.

 

Luckily I don't have a lot of appts aside from my prenatals. My mw's office is in her home so its very kid friendly-you can usually hear one or two of her kids from time to time during appts! Even during the one well woman visit (aka pap) I had with her my DD and DS were with me and just played, no problems.

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Wow.  Thanks for all the replies.  This is very liberating info:)


I have boys! My first baby boy was born 10/08 and my second baby boy was born 7/12

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I do. I bring all three of them, sometimes.

I wouldn't do it, if the appointment was one that was likely to be very involved, or if I was going to be in any kind of pain or if anything was going to happen my kids might find disturbing. For example, sometimes my GI visits involve examination of my anal area, and I don't want my kids watching me go through that. But for ordinary, non-invasive kinda appointments, I do.

I wouldn't, though, if my kids were disinclined to sit still. Mine mostly go very quiet and shy in situations like that, though, which means they sit quietly and don't bother anybody.

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I see kids in my ob's office all the time, though none as young as my ds. If dh comes with me to an ob appt, we bring ds. 13 month old DS is *not* inclined to sit still, and frequently 'mocks' my ob when she start's talking. (she uses her hands a lot, so ds does the same and start's babbling)

 

TBH... I can see how it's not really appropriate, though everyone at this particular office seems really excited to see ds, so I keep doing it. At my office, I would be annoyed if I had to have meeting after meeting with people with kids in tow. That being said, I don't work in a customer oriented field. 


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My kids are almost always with me. There are 3 of them, I only have a sitter for when I work my limited hours, and DH works all the time, so they come with. I bring toys, book, snacks along. I do have to pay a sitter on the rare time I go to my chiro, her office is not friendly and she isn't as willing to work around my kids as my previous chiro was but she is awesome so I deal. I usually get my teeth cleaned with them sitting there as well, I've known the dentist for years and he loves to see the kids. I've always had at least one kid with me for a pap, they don't care. It does get rough when DD2 has a specialist appointment, they are always late, the appointments are long, and 1 year DS goes nuts, after 2 awful appointments there, I will certainly have to find a sitter next time. 


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I haven't gone to an appointment without my 18 month old yet. but her dad also comes too because I don't drive, and he's a student so it's easy to work around his schedule. 


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All the time.  I'm a SAHM and DH can't get time off, and we don't have any friends or family here that I could leave the kids with, so they always come along (though it's really only been DD1, since I haven't had to go to anything since DD2 was born).


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Yeah, I take my kids everywhere. And they were actually all there for my pap, my 2yo nursed through it. lol.gif I nursed through my last eye exam too. I don't think I've gone to a single doctor appointment without a child since I've had children. No one has ever said a word or been anything but professional.

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Yes, DS always comes with me to appointments. Usually they are just talking & quick exam which DS hates (he doesn't like doctors touching me). For long exams however (dentist, eye doctor) DH & I book our appointments back-to-back on the same day so neither of us has to take extra time out of work or anything, we get it all done in one shot and one of us is always available to entertain DS while the other is being examined.

 

Last time we went to the dentist DH got lost on the way there so I ended up having to take DS in for my cleaning. It was a disaster, he screamed the whole time (which I would've expected) and wouldn't nurse or anything so I couldn't get him to calm down. The (pregnant) hygenist was very patient but the dentist was NOT happy, I guess he didn't like a kid screaming in the background while his other patients were getting painful, anxiety-provoking procedures done.... I don't blame him & I would never purposely put any of us in that situation again!

 

Oh also when I had to go for an echocardiogram my mom took time off work & came with me to watch DH during the test (to avoid the above!) but he doesn't tolerate being with anyone but me or DS so he ended up back in the exam room with me halfway through anyway, he was crying so much that the nurses begged the tech to let him in the room to see me.


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This is such a good tip!!!!
 

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Yes, DS always comes with me to appointments. Usually they are just talking & quick exam which DS hates (he doesn't like doctors touching me). For long exams however (dentist, eye doctor) DH & I book our appointments back-to-back on the same day so neither of us has to take extra time out of work or anything, we get it all done in one shot and one of us is always available to entertain DS while the other is being examined


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Yes, just make sure you both book it with the same person (hygenist or same eye doctor or whatever) so you will actually be 'back-to-back' rather than on 2 different hygenists schedules that may not align, KWIM? (And make sure your DH doesn't get lost lol)

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Yes, DS always comes with me to appointments. Usually they are just talking & quick exam which DS hates (he doesn't like doctors touching me). For long exams however (dentist, eye doctor) DH & I book our appointments back-to-back on the same day so neither of us has to take extra time out of work or anything, we get it all done in one shot and one of us is always available to entertain DS while the other is being examined




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Yes, I frequently have to bring my 5 and 2 y/o boys with me. Today we all went to the dentist for the 5 y/o's checkup, and the dentist said how great it was that I brought his little brother along to watch and get acclimated. Um, have no choice! Usually mif it's for me  DH will take off and meet me at the drs and then watch the kids, but lately he's insisted on coming anyway, so then it's all 4 of us in the tiny doc's office. Now that does embarrass me. redface.gif

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I've taken my now 3yo DD to many appointments including: chiropractor, doctor, car repair and gyno.  When she was tiny DH and I would do dentist appointments back to back.  Now that she's older I have gone without her to some more personal appointments (last yearly at the dr) so that I could focus more on me.  I've also left her with my friend or DH when the appointment requested no children (hairdresser). 

 

I prefer to take her with me places b/c that's how we do life.  She's a part of my day-to-day.  Most places I've gone understand that.


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My dh lived out of town for 8 months so yea, they go with me.  
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I have the kids with me most of the time, though now DS is in preschool I try to schedule non emergency stuff while he's there. I think it's fine so long as you are well prepared, make sure the child has something to play with and so on.

 

Dental check ups we book the whole family in at once so the kids get to see DH and I being checked over. Any treatments though we'll try to make sure we have childcare.

 

 

 

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Yes I have brought my DS to my Dr appt's.  I would not bring him to dentist appointments however as I would be stuck in the chair and not able to properly supervise.   

 

I prefer not to bring him to my Dr. visits especially because I'm sure it's boring for him but sometimes I have no choice.


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Pretty much every appointment except for my Pap.  DD even went with me to get a mammogram a few weeks ago ~"Mommy, why is that lady squashing your boobies?"!  I've brought all three kids to the hair salon (cut and color, so an hour at least), dentist, oil changes, pretty much everything.  They're fine as long as I bring something for them to entertain themselves with ~ coloring stuff, books, DS for the older ones, etc.


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I'm writing this 2 hours before I take DS with me to my hand doctor appointment orngtongue.gif  I prefer to not have him with me, but only because it frees me up. I try to find someone to watch him if it's going to be a long appt, an involved or invasive appt, or if elevators are involved, (he had stitches at 2 yrs old in the hospital and ever since has equated elevators with that experience. So not a good scene).

 

He is very good with waiting and patience so he's usually not a problem. And sometimes you just need to bring your DC with you, they are a part of you life and most offices realize that.


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I used to but they're 8, 9 & 12 now & in school most of the year so I no longer have to.  Before that yeah they all came with me to every appointment including Paps, vaginal checks when pg, etc.

 

The last Pap they were at they were 5, 6 & 9.  I figure they have to get them done themselves at some point they may as well see it isn't a big deal.  My dr(male) had no problem with them being in there.

 

now if I had boys I probably wouldn't have taken them to a pap beyond age 3-4 or so.

 

When they were younger they'd go in the stroller during these parts so they couldn't be running around. The rooms are quite small though so not alot of running around room anyhow.

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Yes, always. My dd doesn't really get into stuff or bounce off the walls. She even sat and watched me have a cyst and mole removed when she was about 2.5.


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