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#61 of 78 Old 11-28-2010, 01:55 PM
 
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In general, I was a terrific parent up until I had kids, lol. I used to think natural childbirth was some kind of tool of the patriarchal oppression. Nowadays? I'm studying public policy and public health to improve access to midwifery. I also used to think that cosleeping was uber-creepy and extended breastfeeding was gross.

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I don't think I ever said it, but I definitely thought it - that women who stay home with their kids are lame and have an easy job and just don't have any career goals. That was when I was a childless "career woman" with lofty goals and sooo much stress in my life. Ha. Now I'm a SAHM to three kids and realize that I knew nothing about exhaustion and stress and choosing to SAH has nothing to do with lacking career goals. I was so smug and annoying.


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Poopy diaper changes are gross. Talking about baby poop is worse. Refer to my earlier posts...

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Poopy diaper changes are gross.


Poopy diaper changes ARE gross.  Just sayin, there are things I'd rather do.....

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I just took this Friday off.  I have time to use before the year is over.  I am TOTALLY sending the kids to school so I can get my hair done.  Bolt.gif

 

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My sister lives in Ohio and it was the weekend of her wedding.  The day before all of the bridesmaids were having a spa / lunch day.  The Maid of Honor had 3 kids at the time in daycare and she worked full time.  I asked her (MOH) who was watching the kids at home, and she said she sent them to daycare for those 2 days so that she could hang out with the other women and have fun.

 

I was SCANDALIZED.  I remember thinking, "Your kids are in daycare 40 hours a week anyway, and on your day off you STILL send them there?  Why have kids if you don't want to raise them?"  I just assumed that she should spend EVERY. AVAILABLE. MINUTE with her kids to make up for the fact that they were in daycare.

 

Ummmm.... flash forward 10 years.  I work full time, send my kid to an AWESOME day care provider, and yesterday, even though I had the day off for Thanksgiving, I sent him to school anyway.  Just so I could sleep in and do some scrapbooking.

 

Man, I was so ignorant.



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I said the "when they can ask for it, they are too old for it," about breastfeeding. My baby is 8 months old and has asked for it very clearly since day one! Dive bombing my chest is his current way of letting me know.

I said I'd never use cloth diapers because they were gross.

I've judged moms about tantrums in the store... not looking forward to eating those words in a year or two! :)


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hahaha!  What didn't I say!  Even after I had my first one I thought she was the way she was because of my spectacular parenting.  Then came #2.  She still challenges me in every way.


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i said i would never cloth diaper, never co-sleep, i wasn't keen on baby-wearing, and i wouldn't BF past a year. well, look at my life now! i'm glad my kid shapped me up!


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Poopy diaper changes are gross.


Poopy diaper changes ARE gross.  Just sayin, there are things I'd rather do.....


Nah, they're not a roll in flower petals but it isn't as gross as I pictured it, probably because dd's almost solely bfed as of now.


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Poopy diaper changes are gross.


Poopy diaper changes ARE gross.  Just sayin, there are things I'd rather do.....


Nah, they're not a roll in flower petals but it isn't as gross as I pictured it, probably because dd's almost solely bfed as of now.


oh... it gets so, so, so very much worse when they are on solids.
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hahaha!  What didn't I say!  Even after I had my first one I thought she was the way she was because of my spectacular parenting.  Then came #2.  She still challenges me in every way.


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My aunt likes to say that she feels sorry for people with only one child because they take far more credit and blame than they should.  I understand that comment a lot better since having child number two.
 

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I cringe at the thought of some of the pre-parent statements that came out of my mouth.   Bless my friends, they all just smiled and nodded at my very stupid as-vice.


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hahaha!  What didn't I say!  Even after I had my first one I thought she was the way she was because of my spectacular parenting.  Then came #2.  She still challenges me in every way.


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My aunt likes to say that she feels sorry for people with only one child because they take far more credit and blame than they should.  I understand that comment a lot better since having child number two.
 



Yes, I completely agree with this also.  #1 was happy, healthy, and easygoing, and I thought I was the best mom in the world.  That was before Mr. Colic and Always Sick was born...  It definately changes your perspective.

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Nah, they're not a roll in flower petals but it isn't as gross as I pictured it, probably because dd's almost solely bfed as of now.



oh... it gets so, so, so very much worse when they are on solids.


Oh yeah, just wait until your baby is almost 2yo, eating mostly solids, and the poop is just DISGUSTING.  Seriously, I can't wait till ds PL's.  Not that I'm particularly looking forward to that adventure....

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Gee why not?  Its soooooooo much fun!

 

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Nah, they're not a roll in flower petals but it isn't as gross as I pictured it, probably because dd's almost solely bfed as of now.



oh... it gets so, so, so very much worse when they are on solids.


Oh yeah, just wait until your baby is almost 2yo, eating mostly solids, and the poop is just DISGUSTING.  Seriously, I can't wait till ds PL's.  Not that I'm particularly looking forward to that adventure....



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Wow, you guys! You're so encouraging about future diaper gifts! :-). I'd prefer not to think of what's to come.


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My big one was "ADHD doesn't exist".  I didn't think it was over diagnosed, or misdiagnosed...just factually not a thing.  I figured it was always just a gifted or creative kid that couldn't handle the slower pace of school, or possibly a different disorder or food allergy that was lumped into the "catch all" diagnosis of ADHD.  I even thought some people just said their child had ADHD as an excuse for not disciplining them. bag.gif This comes from having been misdiagnosed with it myself as a child, which was not a good thing in my situation.

 

 

Now I have a 6 year old that has such CLEAR problems with attention and sitting still that I feel like such an idiot.  Behavioral tactics for ADHD have helped ENORMOUSLY and I am still resistant to using medications, but there is such a difference at all stages between him and my 5 year old just in energy and distractability that I know it's a real thing and not just a product of environment.  There are times when he WANTS to do something like read a book, but halfway through a sentence he is so distracted by the picture that he loses his place in the sentence and has to start from scratch (sometimes multiple times on one page, which makes him very frustrated)!  Now he uses a blank index card to cover pictures so he can decode the words first...we have many of these "tricks" to use to be able to focus long enough to get something done, and ways to wear off that pent up energy in various situations so he doesn't cause a disruption.  

 

I still think it can be misdiagnosed, and was over diagnosed for many years, but I've eaten my words on most of the rest of my "ADHD is fake" rant from years ago.

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"I will never spitwash my baby's face.  That's disgusting."  Perhaps disgusting, but... guilty as charged.

 

"Boys have to be circumcised to look like everybody else."  Wish I knew the facts before my first son, glad I know the facts now that I'm having a second son.

 

"Pacifiers are awful- I'd NEVER use one."  As a Mother of a formally very high needs baby who used ME as a pacifier 24/7, let me tell you, if this new baby wants a paci, he'll get a paci.

 

"Babies need to sleep in cribs."  And then I had my son... he slept in his bassinet halfway through the first night, and then I realized how unnatural it felt... he returned to his own bed at 8 years old.

 

"Children are fully capable of being potty trained at 2 years old."  My first son apparently didn't get the memo- he was 3 years, 10 months before he potty trained.


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