Hello! It's interesting to me that many of the posts I have perused so far (though no, I have not read all 1500+!) seem to be about whether or not to have another kiddo. I have had thoughts and feelings about this myself, of course, but at the moment, I'm here to comment on how it can irk me when people make assumptions about only children. I should be used to it as I am also an only child (and fairly happy that way), but I do tire of often explaining patiently that no, not all onlies have zillions of toys. No, not all onlies are socially inept. No, not all onlies are loners. No, not all onlies have trouble sharing.
I also grow tired of parents who have more children giving me the "you don't know how it is" vibe. I definitely don't know how it is to have more kids, or to have a daughter (since I have a boy), or to navigate the sibling issues--I would never claim to know how it is.
I also have trouble with the "Why aren't you going to have more kids?" query from people I don't know very well (I can handle it from people I know intimately). DS is an only because I am too old to have another, we are too poor to have another, and we had two losses, one before and one after DS. Yes, I like babies and kids. Mothering DS is the most important thing I have ever done. Am I alone in thinking that the why-no-more question is a very personal question?
Thanks for reading this vent! Comments are welcome--as long as they are not only-child stereotyping!
Subbing. I'll post something when I have more time, but I liked your post and I have an only.
There is a "Moms of only tribe" or some variation of that title on the forums. I bet all those mamas would understand exactly how you are feeling!
eta It's actually just a few posts down from this thread right now! Here's a link though...http://www.mothering.com/community/forum/thread/652903/any-moms-of-an-only-child-tribe I think the tribes on MDC are very supportive and helpful.
I had thought you were starting a new thread based on the old one. If this one doesn't go anywhere, maybe I'll check in on the other one. I haven't posted on it in a long time.
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