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#1 of 5 Old 06-15-2011, 12:08 PM - Thread Starter
 
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X-posted from DDC to hopefully reach others who have BTDT:

 

In order to stay home with DS I have taken on watching my friend's son A (15mo.) while she works. It's been an adjustment but for the most part we've found our rhythm. Now with this pregnancy I can't figure out what to do. When we were still working out the details of our arrangement they did ask what would happen if I got pregnant (they knew we were wanting more). Without really thinking it through I replied "Well, I'd still have to take care of DS, so I don't see why I wouldn't keep watching A too." uhoh3.gif What was I thinking?!!!! banghead.gif

 

We really could use the extra income, but part of the reason I only have the one extra child is that it still allows me the freedom to take the kids out whenever we want. We have a Honda Civic and it'll be a stretch to fit 3 across in there. Buying a bigger vehicle would cost as much as I would earn watching "A". "A" naps right now in the room that will become the baby's room. I don't even know where "A" would nap. I plan to babywear a lot anyway, but how do you even pick up another kid while you've got one wrapped? "A" is not small, he's 36lbs already at 15 mo; heavier than my almost 3yo.

 

I guess I'm so worried about how I'm going to handle a newborn and a 3yo on my own, that the idea of those two PLUS a 1.5/almost 2yo really freaks me out. I realize there are mothers out there who have no choice but to deal with this situation (the age spread is possible) BUT is it fair to all of us to struggle through it if we don't have to? If I do keep "A" on, any tips on how to handle the first month or two? Aaaaah! Help!!! I'm pretty freaked out right now. yikes.gif

 

(And I have to figure this out soon, as I'll have to tell them soon due to MW appointments and I know that will be one of their first questions. At least it would be if the situations were reversed.)


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If you are sure that you need to stop watching him, come out and tell them so that they can start looking for a new provider.

 

If you want us to help you troubleshoot dealing with having a 2yo, 3yo and newborn, we could do that here. I used to do home childcare and there are others here who do.


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I guess that's it, I'm NOT sure if I need to stop watching him. For everyone's sake I'd like to keep him on, but I could definitely use some help "troubleshooting" dealing with a 2yo, a 3yo and a newborn as you put it. I just can't visualize how I'd do it! (And yes, I know I sound whiny, pregnancy hormones I think. Sorry)


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I gave up my dayhome kiddo before I got pregnant. We were trying and I knew that I would be too sick to care for someone else's child. It's one thing if my kid eats Mac and Cheese and watches PBS all day long because I'm too sick to get off the couch but it's quite another if a child I'm being paid to care for does. That said, now that my new baby is here, I really wish I had my dayhome kiddo back. He and my son play so well together and I think it would actually be easier because my son would have someone to play with. As it is right now, I can tell he's getting bored a lot which translates to bad behavior and general destructiveness.

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I got 3 Radian carseats to fit in our '02 Civic.  No need for a minivan!  It's a pain in the butt but totally worth it.

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