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|Some small children go through a period of waking up frightened at night. They may repeatedly come into the parents' room, perhaps crying persistently, and the parents may take them into their bed with them so that they can all get some sleep. This seems like the most practical thing to do at the time, but it can turn out to be a mistake.
Even if the child's anxiety lessens during the following weeks, he is apt to cling to the security of his parents' bed, and there is the devil to pay getting him out again.
A good rule is to take him promptly and matter-of-factly back to his own bed. Of course, there are exceptions, such as illness or true fear, when it would seem cruel to cast the child out into his lonely room. But even then it is best to take him to his own room rather than give him confusing messages.
|Her main critique was that "every page" of the book said to "trust your instincts" but that every other page of the book told you exactly what your instincts should be.
Originally Posted by Shell
I imagine that when my mom watches me breastfeed she too will feel sad for that missed opportunity.
Homeschooling, Homesteading Mama to DD ('02) and DS ('04)
|So while I appreciate Shell's mum's comments about Sears saying "follow your instinct" and then "telling you what your instinct is", I also think he NEEDS to do that. I wonder if I would have recognized my instincts for what they were, something to be honoured and something that was GOOD for my baby, if I had not read him. I would perhaps have fallen victim to the guilt that my desire to be so attached to baby would ultimately be a detriment. Sure, Sears can't write for every individual mama, but I would bet that he has the majority described pretty well.|
|What helped me the most with my mother and MIL was when I read that the first three months should be considered the fourth trimester and babies NEED to be held/worn as much as possible... that it reduces the risk of colic, etc.|