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#1 of 6 Old 02-27-2012, 06:30 PM - Thread Starter
 
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I was diagnosed with breast cancer on Valentines day and will be having a bilateral mastectomy in two weeks mecry.gifMy kids are both very attached to my breasts- DS (who is 6.5) nursed until his 5th birthday, my DD who just turned 4 nursed until she got too busy to nurse anymore (just after turning 3).  Even thought they aren't nursing now they still love to cuddle their face in my chest when they need soothing, etc.  They know that I am having both of my "nursies" removed and they seem to be handling it well enough, but I wonder if they really understand what it means.  DD was asking if they will grow back ;)

 

I think I need to have some kind of farewell party, lol.  For the kids to say goodbye to their nursies (like a bye bye binky party) and for me as well- to come to terms with the fact that I will never nurse again and will loose that connection with my children.  Any suggestions?

 

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Oh, mama, I am so sorry! Hugs to you! I think that is a wonderful idea, although the memories of their nursies, and the closeness they have/had with you will always be there!


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Oh, mama, I am so sorry! Hugs to you! I think that is a wonderful idea, although the memories of their nursies, and the closeness they have/had with you will always be there!



Thank you :)

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I don't have any great advice but I couldn't read without giving hugs.  I'm sorry you're going through this mama.  ((((hugs))))

 

I think you will always have the connection of having nursed your children, even after the mastectomy.  That bond is there.


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Hugs to you, mama!  I can't imagine digesting that news.  I recently lost a friend to stage 4 colon cancer.  In the wake of her death, I watched a documentary on Netflix called "the Gerson Miracle" that outlines the amazing success of an organic vegan-juicing healing process for all degenerative disease, including (and especially) cancer.  I am drawn to the therapy because of my own issues with skin cancer and gestational diabetes.  I can't recommend checking out the documentary enough!!  I'm reading Charlotte Gerson's "The Gerson Therapy" right now in preparation of doing a detox/cleanse diet myself.  If I had a cancer diagnosis, I'd be on a plane to their clinic immediately!

 

http://www.hulu.com/watch/180363/the-gerson-miracle

 

Many patients that they treat have a terminal diagnosis.  The cure rate is roughly double what chemo, radiation, and surgery can offer.  Many see the healing process begin within days of starting the treatment.  Dr. Max Gerson healed himself of debilitating migraine headaches after experimenting with his diet.  He worked with other migraine patients, one of whom had tuberculosis as well.  The Tb was healed, and over the course of several decades, he fine-tuned the diet and realized it really was effective for all degenerative disease.  The premise is that our bodies have toxins from the environment in them, and that we lack necessary vitamins, nutrients, and enzymes that enable our bodies to heal themselves.  The organic fruit & vegetable juicing flushes the body with these vitamins, nutrients, and enzymes.  Salt is eliminated so that the body can restore a good balance of potassium at a cellular level, and the liver is supported in its elimination of the toxins.

 

Please see if this gentle, restorative therapy can save your breasts!

 

ps - I have absolutely no connection to the Gerson clinic or foundation!

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So sorry you are going through this! Lots of healing thoughts coming your way.


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