That she will be happy. Passionate about what she cares about and kind and generous.
But mostly ... That she will truly know I will love her and support her regardless of the choices she makes. I know too many people who even now in our thirties have never connected or reconnected with their parents after adolescence because they feel their parents don't "get" who they are. I know I'll be a successful parent if my dd doesn't think twice about bringing home a girlfriend instead of a boyfriend, an atheist instead of a Christian, or choose a career totally different from the college degree she earned that I worked my butt of saving money for twenty years to pay for.
Whatever she chooses may or may not be what I would have picked for her but if we can still be close and have an open and honest relationship I'll be one happy mama.
mama to three little ladies
I'd consider myself a successful mother if my dd just grows up. I think there is something to be said for just keeping her alive and healthy enough to reach adulthood.
I'd consider myself a successful mother if my dd can take care of herself as an adult.
I'd consider myself a successful mother if my dd has some good memories of her childhood.
I don't feel I could take credit or blame for everything she will do or feel as an adult. I do wish for her to be happy. I do hope she will treat herself and others with respect and kindness. If she somehow isn't happy or kind as an adult then I don't think I failed as a mother.
I like these, Zombiecat and ilovemygirl.
I hope I am able to teach my kids compassion and consideration for themselves, others, and the earth and I hope I am able to impart to them that their happiness lies in themselves. No one else (not even mom) can make them happy. They have to choose happiness and optimism. So I hope they will be happy, but it's up to them and I'm not sure I can base my success as a parent on their happiness. I strive to do my best by them, but ultimately they are their own people and they get to choose the path they walk.
"All you fascists are bound to lose" — Woody Guthrie