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#31 of 43 Old 05-31-2012, 04:45 AM
 
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That she will be happy. Passionate about what she cares about and kind and generous.

 

But mostly ... That she will truly know I will love her and support her regardless of the choices she makes. I know too many people who even now in our thirties have never connected or reconnected with their parents after adolescence because they feel their parents don't "get" who they are. I know I'll be a successful parent if my dd doesn't think twice about bringing home a girlfriend instead of a boyfriend, an atheist instead of a Christian, or choose a career totally different from the college degree she earned that I worked my butt of saving money for twenty years to pay for. 

Whatever she chooses may or may not be what I would have picked for her but if we can still be close and have an open and honest relationship I'll be one happy mama. 

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.. and move out.

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I'd consider myself a successful mother if my dd just grows up.  I think there is something to be said for just keeping her alive and healthy enough to reach adulthood.

I'd consider myself a successful mother if my dd can take care of herself as an adult.

I'd consider myself a successful mother if my dd has some good memories of her childhood.

 

I don't feel I could take credit or blame for everything she will do or feel as an adult. I do wish for her to be happy. I do hope she will treat herself and others with respect and kindness. If she somehow isn't happy or kind as an adult then I don't think I failed as a mother.

 


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That she will be happy. Passionate about what she cares about and kind and generous.

 

But mostly ... That she will truly know I will love her and support her regardless of the choices she makes. I know too many people who even now in our thirties have never connected or reconnected with their parents after adolescence because they feel their parents don't "get" who they are. I know I'll be a successful parent if my dd doesn't think twice about bringing home a girlfriend instead of a boyfriend, an atheist instead of a Christian, or choose a career totally different from the college degree she earned that I worked my butt of saving money for twenty years to pay for. 

Whatever she chooses may or may not be what I would have picked for her but if we can still be close and have an open and honest relationship I'll be one happy mama. 

 

I like these, Zombiecat and ilovemygirl.

 

I hope I am able to teach my kids compassion and consideration for themselves, others, and the earth and I hope I am able to impart to them that their happiness lies in themselves. No one else (not even mom) can make them happy. They have to choose happiness and optimism. So I hope they will be happy, but it's up to them and I'm not sure I can base my success as a parent on their happiness. I strive to do my best by them, but ultimately they are their own people and they get to choose the path they walk.

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...are happy and healthy.

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..are resilient and open-minded. Because that a happy person makes.


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...are mensch.

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Thanks for the grammar correction. Wasn't sure of the plural form.

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don't kill anyone or become addicted to crystal meth.

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don't read Susan Forward's Toxic Parents, send a confrontation email and cut off contact

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