Hi, would like to hear from experienced parents how to handle request of my child for
playdate on school days? I can't quite decide wether to do it every day at the park
with a friend to let them run and release steam? or should I limit it to once
a week or weekends only?
It is first grade, they don't have any serious homework yet and the weather is great
not for much longer.. though so..
how do you handle playdate and when it is most reasonable to do it from your experience?
after school, before dinner? after dinner or other options?
i have found in my experience during weekdays its usually really hard to have a playdate, unless you live right next to each other.
however if it IS done its always before dinner (meaning evening meal) - either an hour after school or right after school (depends on your family philosophy on hw - right after school or later). this is the case where the kids dont live in the neigborhood. if neighborhood then the time is loose. the kids are constantly over at each others house till they have to go to bed. they even do hw together.
My dd is a first grader and I have two older boys. Playdates during the week don't really work for us. We're all so busy, I just don't want to throw a playdate into the mix-- except with the next door neighbors, with whom the kids can play for 20 minutes or so before dinner.
My dd always has a Friday afternoon playdate, though. And frequently a Saturday and Sunday playdate as well.
how casual? our school playground is open and available immediately after school and lots of the kids who get picked up have a casual "play date" before we leave school grounds. works for me! i'm actually really glad for it, gives me a bit of a chance to unwind too.
homework comes next, as soon as we get home, it's nutritious snack / homework time.
then it's activities including walking our dogs through the neighborhood, where we almost always pick up more "play dates" (informal) involving playing with the neighborhood kids and i get a little time to visit with my mom friends.
structured playdates that involve me driving somewhere special and/or dropping off/picking up? no. save those for days off of school, summer break, etc. MAYBE a friday afternoon, right after school.
do what works for you!
We do occasional playdates during the school week. They are immediately afterschool and ends before dinner. They come home with us afterschool and I give them a snack, they play, and mom picks them up before dinner. Then, my kids still have time to do any homework after dinner, and before bed. I could never do them every day, and try to keep them to once a week. Sometimes kids come here, sometimes my kids go to a friend's house. It just depends.
Heather , momma to ' Parker- 10, Carlee- 7 and our baby Genevieve Faith - 8-27-10