I do cook with my kids, read to my kids frequently, and have my kids "clean" along side me (like washing cups in the sink while I'm working in the kitchen.) I spend a lot of time with them, but pretending to be a dragon isn't something I really can do.
What is there that you aren't into doing that you hear other moms talk about or see other moms do?
I can't do the endless make-believe. I couldn't do it when I was a kid. When my daughter was very small, it made me nuts because she wanted to control every aspect of the "make-believe" and act out the same thirty second snippet of pretend OVER and OVER. It would almost make me angry, I just...it's not for me.
I can play board games, card games, do crafts, cook together, ANYTHING except make-believe.
I am not into playing either. I don't know why but I just can't do it without going batty. I can read to them, do crafts, cook or garden with them, paint, even hide and seek and soccer and tag, but when it comes to playing "house" or princesses or whatever else I tolerate it for about 5 minutes. Glad I am not the only one who is like this. At least a lot of studies have shown that NOT entertaining your kids every minute is a good thing!
I do not like going to water parks. (Which is why my husband just left with the kids to go to the water park.)
I know moms, including my sister, who go to the water park a couple of times/week with their children and spend the entire day. I just cannot do it. I can force myself to go for a couple hours on a potentially rainy day when there are few people, it is not really hot, etc.
I am not good at pretending, acting goofy, or Nerf gun wars either...but my husband is. Luckily he enjoys the things I do not...and vice versa.
I ditto the playing pretend thing. I can dress up the dolls, comb their hair and then after that I am out.
I guess I am in the weirdo camp in that cooking with my little one makes me batty, too. I think I must be a control freak in the kitchen and that combined with her poor listening skills and impulsivity plus need to run the show and I'm usually the one melting down!
I love playing pretend! Hiding....reading...chasing....playing games generally. But I can't stand getting super physical. Can't STAND it when LO climbs up me pretending I'm a mountain, or literally leaps on me when I'm sitting down and tries to ride my head like a horse! ARGH!
She gets this type of play through her Dad (such a typical stereotyped divide, ah well)...though usually I have to leave the vicinity subtly as I don't like her balancing/climbing precariously looking like she's about to fall and crack her head open like an egg. So two probs: 1. Get OFF me...I'm not play equipment. 2. Oh god, oh god...don't HURT yourself!!!!
Everything else, cool.
I actually like make-believe games, i'm a great story teller so it comes naturally to me. If it gets repetitive i lose interest, though.
I hate going to the zoo. A lot of moms I know have zoo memberships and they go all the time and I just don't get it. It's crowded (unless it's really cold or rainy), most of the animals are hiding so you can barely even see them, and one time after a zoo trip DH said "You know, we just spent the day looking at prisoners." and I've never been able to think of a zoo the same way.
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People do that? It sounds hellish.
I love the park because I can mostly sit on a bench, or stand someplace, and the kids can run all over the fenced playground without needing me to be on top of them and make sure they stay out of traffic.
The beach. OMG I cannot stand bringing my kids to the beach. When I go to the beach, I want to jump in the waves, then lie on my chair under an umbrella for a couple hours, reading a book or magazine and sipping on something fruity. Not constantly scanning to make sure I can see both of them, not only going in up to my ankles because the little one is afraid of the waves and not, not, NOT!!!! playing in the sand! I HATE playing in the sand. Even without actually playing in it, I get sand in places my husband hasn't even seen, forget about what happens when I actively build a sand castle.
This may not be the most popular answer, but I really don't play with my kids. I can't play with cars or legos, I hate playing dolls...dressup I can maybe tolerate for short periods of time. I do spend time with my children doing things that we all enjoy like cooking together, coloring together, reading together, board games, walking, sports...when it comes to playing with toys I just tell them that playing with toys is their job and that I am not into it. I think it is appropriate for them to understand that what is fun for one person isn't fun for another and that sometimes I have grownup things to do. I came to this conclusion when my oldest child was two and wanted me to play with cars. I used to sit on the floor running them along the floor and I hated it! In his world something wonderfully imaginitive was happening when he ran the car along the floor, but in my world nothing was. I eventually just stopped pretending and told them no thanks!
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Yes! I can't stand the beach and sand and all that. I really don't like to swim either so luckily my DH loves taking the boys to the pool. I do like taking them to the spray park - because I can sit back and watch them play in the water. I don't like rough play either. I get hurt, and then I get angry, and it never ends well. But again, my DH loves wrestling with the boys so they get plenty of that.
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I love these confession threads. I feel so connected to other moms who struggle with these things too!
I don't mind the zoo or the amusement and/or water parks. I don't mind cooking or baking or running around outside kicking a ball (unless there are mosquitoes). I love road trips (and yes, even long car and plane rides!), and painting and doing crafts is probably my biggest joy to do with my kids.
However, I intensely dislike the following:
- Playing pretend. It's been mentioned here a lot, and I agree with all of it and for all the same reasons that have been mentioned!
- Attending their extracurriculars or friends' birthday parties. I don't want to sit on a bench and listen to a bunch of hens go on about this or that, and I don't want to make fake small talk. Give me a book or knitting, or better yet, tell me what time I should come back to pick my kids up.
- The beach. PP mentioned it and I completely agree. I LOVE the beach, just not wading into my ankles, picking up my scared middle child out of the waves, ensuring the baby doesn't burn, dragging all the beach toys up and down the boardwalk to the sand only to find out that the toy/sandwich/sippy they NEED is still in the stupid car.
- Walking through/near the toy section at Target. Oh yeah, it starts out cute and I think, wow, I will have a big list of suggestions to give to Oma when they ask what the kids want, but then it devolves into the gimmes, the whining, the tugging, the sibling squabbles, the "you don't love me because we don't have XYZ" conversations. And they are GREAT kids other than that, but god forbid you need to kill time at Target and come within 50 meters of the toy aisle.
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I don't like singing. I used to like it, was even in chorus/choir through my first year of college, but then I went to theater school and realized I wasn't very good at it. Since then, I just get frustrated when I hear my own singing voice. It's a bit irrational because my son loves to hear me sing and obviously isn't judging my voice, but I still don't like it. So I sing one song to him at bedtime, then hum for a while (I don't mind humming). The other day I was hanging out with my sister at an outside cafe and called my husband to check on them...he was about to put our son to bed and asked me to sing over the phone! He thought it would be funny. I wish I could have embraced my crazy side and done it, but I just couldn't!
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Water parks. Do I want to take a bath with 1500 other people? No. No I do not.
The park. "Watch me!" "Look at me!" "Loook looook, I'm doing the monkey bars for the 80 millionthy time!!"
I like Lego, playdough, coloring, painting, video games (not mine craft, I just don't get it), going to their sports, almost everything. Just please don't make me watch you swing or go to a water park.
I really can't stand to play with mine either and have heard many upset by those that don't enjoy it. It is especially difficult when with another mother who appears more involved than you and actually seems to like it!
I'm with you! I interact with my kids, but I don't "play" with them. I will do board games or wii, sometimes.
I don't play pretend or hide and seek or do arts or crafts (I have always hated crafts, even as a child). I will not go to water parks, and I don't think I'll go to an amusement park anytime in the near future, unless it is free and not crowded. I cannot stand most kids movies and won't watch them (other family members take ds2 to the movies). Despite this, my kids do have fun :)
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I love hearing my kids play. I could listen to that forever. But I lack the imagination to play like they want me to. They always say I'm doing it wrong, and I can't connect with them that way like they can with each other, so naturally. I really wish I could and I've tried, but even my kids don't enjoy it with me after awhile. So we do other things together that work out, like cooking and crafts, reading books, park time and swimming. I'm sure grateful for this thread, because I've always felt super guilty that I couldn't play well, especially since I have sisters who are just amazing at it.
I am happy to dress dolls and do their hair. But I am NOT happy to give them voices and play pretend in that way. I am happy to set up a doll house, build with LEGOS, create a doll-sized environment with things found around the house or outside, but once my lil gal wants to start "play-acting" with the dolls. I'm done.
Oh man - I'm pregnant with my first, and I've thought about this fairly often. Mostly I'm worried that I'll have a child who needs to be cared for in ways I'm either in capable of or unwilling to do. I love playing with my niece (she's four now, but she's been a hoot ever since she learned how to talk) because she can have a real conversation. We go for walks and go swimming, we sing songs, we play "gymnastics" on the floor, and it's great. But I don't like playing with toys of any kind, especially "kid" toys, and when she decides she wants to do that, she just plays on her own for a while.
But what if I have a kid like the ones I used to babysit, who had no idea how to play alone?! I'd lose it, I tell ya. Fortunately, I think kids can handle what they've practiced, and my kid is going to have a decent amount of practice at playing with toys alone.
Also, I can't be the only Louis CK fan in the audience here - anyone heard this bit about playing board games with his daughters (at the time, they were six and nine)? Hilarious and so accurate, at least for me (SFW). http://www.ebaumsworld.com/video/watch/82955884/
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