Thank you . Sometimes i just can't bite my tongue anymore! When someone says they actually feel ashamed for teaching the word "vagina" instead of "vulva" and that feeling is created and continuously reinforced by moms like the ones who post in this thread, i get angry. That is sickening and i cant help but be furious.
We always do balls and butt too because they sound lighthearted and real. Guess I want the kids to feel comfortable not stressed talking about bodies. Although of course we do study the more scientific terms just to prep for the BIG QUIZ.
Ever told a child to "wipe your mouth" when the mess is only on her lips? How about "my stomach hurts" when the pain might really be coming from your intestine, uterus, or liver?
Indeed, "vagina" is the technically correct term only for the inside part, but I don't think that makes it horribly wrong to use the word more generally. I grew up saying "vagina" as a collective term for "female genitals" and did not find it anything like confusing to learn the correct terms for the specific parts. It was exactly like learning that "stomach" technically means one specific internal organ, not the entire front squishy part of the torso and all its contents. No big deal.
I have only a son, and he's not been very interested in discussing female bodies except when asking about birth, so "private parts" has been an adequate term most of the time, although we did tell him the names of the basic external female organs when we first talked about that. We didn't teach "vestibular fossa" and "fourchette" because it didn't seem necessary. He's also not been very interested in discussing his own parts, except when he noticed some boys are circumcised and asked about it, so he knows "penis" and "foreskin" but I'm not sure that "scrotum" or "testicles" are words he could retrieve from memory at this point.
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Vulva and penis.
My son came home from his dad's once when he was maybe four and said something about his "winkydonker" it made me cringe and we started using penis. I have no idea what we said before that. It made his dad really mad "What if he goes to school and says his penis hurts?" Um... His teacher will think his penis hurts? Would you rather him look goofy by saying Winkydonker?
Anyway, to my knowledge, he has only said penis since then. Unless he says something else at his dad's.
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