Subscribing. I'm really trying to find a good blend of not lying / fibbing with the kids but allowing them some magic in their childhood. My childhood was pretty crappy with fighting, divorce among other really unpleasant stuff but I did have the magic of Christmas, etc and for me that was pretty important.
My kids luckily have a pretty pleasant childhood and in all honestly they create enough magic on their own but no ones lost a tooth yet and I'd like to see how others do this.
I started the whole thing by saying "I was told that if I put my tooth under my pillow the toothfairy would take it and leave money."
Then I started the idea that they should write a note to the toothfairy and tape it to the door outside, so she'd know to stop.
I've expanded on the universe without really meaning to. I did have one write "what do you do with all the teeth you collect". The response on that note was "sorry, that's a trade secret."
I'm not opposed to a bit of magic in childhood.
We capture the Tooth Fairy on video. She looks an awful lot like Daddy. Sometimes she looks like the cat, or a favorite toy. The girls get a giggle guessing who the Tooth Fairy will be (or the Birthday Fairy, for that matter, who also leaves an extra allowance under the pillow) and they race to the camera in the morning to discover what happened. They get a kick out of seeing themselves asleep, too. It lets us have the fun of the Tooth Fairy without the sneakiness. They get an extra allowance under their pillow.
Lost teeth get treated the same-- we've never lost one, I suppose they could leave a note for Daddy--I mean, ahem, the Tooth Fairy. Pulled teeth are worth $10 (that is what we negotiated. I offered $5, a tearful, needle-terrorized dd1 insisted on $10. I would have given her $20, I hate teeth pulling so much!)
"Let me see you stripped down to the bone. Let me hear you speaking just for me."
my children are now grown, but I always preceded our conversations about santa, easter bunny, tooth fairy, leprechauns, etc. by mentioning that " it's fun to pretend" that santa (or tooth fairy, etc.) will come. my children knew all of it was pretend, but had no problem playing along and I've never felt that they were denied the excitement and anticipation in any way. children are excellent at pretend and imaginary games, so this works well.
I tried, but I am terribly forgetful. Poor kids would be so disappointed. It became our family joke that we got assigned a flaky fairy who might take up to a week to show. Once they were older and knew it was a game, they would just come to me and show me their lost tooth and I would go to my wallet and then pretend to flap little wings and hand them money. Its become our family joke.
However, I will probably try to do it right with our younger brood (I have a 4 yr old, a 2 yr old, and one OTW) because my kids get a kick out of the imaginative games and traditions of childhood and I thinks its fairly harmless and a fun end to sometimes painful process. And just for fun, I am adding this smilie to my post because it always reminded me of the tooth fairy anyway!
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I'm not to that point yet, but I plan on just telling my daughter it is pretend, like Santa and so forth. My parents told me that stuff wasn't real, but they still did the tooth fairy thing even though I knew it was them and that didn't take any fun out of it. Like one of the pp's said, kids are great at playing pretend and suspending disbelief. So I'd rather not lie, and don't think it's necessary for childhood "magic"
The tooth went into a small glass of water beside the bed for the tooth fairy to find. We found "special" little glasses, such as juice glasses or shot glasses. Easy to find during the night; dry out the glass and put in the money! Imagination is a wonderful thing and I see no harm in encouraging them to use their imagination!'
I'm a grandma now, and back when we were kids we usually got a dime...a quarter was a jackpot! My children usually found a half-dollar or so...I'm amazed to see a tooth go for so much now!
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