Moms of young ones with ironed clothes, makeup and perfect hair - how do you do it? It was one of these things that I was thinking about while reading. I don't go in pajama pants to carpool but I am not "done" I see moms who are, it made me wonder, how do you do it?
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In the movies they just wake up all ready..lol Just kidding but now that my little guy is two we brush our teeth together and while he is washing his face and playing a bit in the water, I am able to do those little things to be done.
I rarely iron my clothes, once in a while, I usually choose fabrics that don't require ironing. I prefer to look "put together", it makes me feel more comfortable then then yoga pants and a ponytail. Nothing wrong with that look, it just isn't me. I have kids that range from 10 years down to barely 2. I wake up at 6am during the school year so that I can take 20 minutes to get ready. Shower and some makeup. I don't blow dry my hair but keep it long and straight so I can just wash and go but it still looks ok. I lay out my clothes the night before when I lay out all the kid clothes. I prefer dresses, skirts to jeans but that is just my preference. In the summer it is flipflops, in the winter I change to boots that are comfy to wear all day and still run after kids. Target and thrift stores are favorites of mine for easy, cheap pieces that I don't care if they get destroyed my small, grubby hands.
I think it is priorities. Some moms like to look good, it makes them feel good. They might get up an hour earlier because they are A type people or because they want time to themselves or they want to look good.... I'm in the hippy I am dressed and my hair is brushed but that is absolutely it group. I'd rather sleep in than just about anything. My priorities are a good nights sleep, followed by relaxed morning routine with my kids.
People also spend money on totally different things, and that is also good. I have friends that spend what I think is insane on make up, skin care and hair care products. I use no skin care (water and sometimes soap is it), generic shampoo, and my makeup is freebies I got from friends, which is more than enough since I wear lipstick, blush, and nothing else, max once a week. However, the same friends think what I spend on food is insane. I am always going to the ethnic shops and buying all sorts of strange things, making fancy 3 and 4 course meals.... To each their own. The world would be so very boring if we all acted the same.
In fairness to the put together moms that I know, their children are also their priority.
But maybe unlike me, where I like to stay up and sleep into that extra half hour to hour in the morning, they get up earlier so they can have their time of solace.
Both my older sisters growing up were motivated to get up early to shower and curl their hair and apply makeup. Then my middle sister started setting her alarm clock earlier and earlier to beat the eldest to the bathroom. Eventually S1 gave up when S2 set her alarm for 4:30 in the morning so she could be ready for the bus at 7:05. Not being old enough (or of the temperament) to be particularly motivated by appearance, I waited until everyone was done (though I didn't sleep much! As soon as my mother was up at 5:30, S2 started blasting Led Zeppelin, Loverboy, Scorpions, Black Sabbath.....) Being forced to wait, I learned that 1) I could get ready in a very short amount of time and 2) I really didn't care that much and 3) that I really, really love Black Dog best of all Led Zeppelin songs . Then my hair started doing weird things at puberty and I was faced with the choice of spending an hour everyday working at it, or.... not really caring. Well, I cared, but not that much!
Fast forward a few decades and not a lot has changed. My middle sister is a powerhouse of sheer will still to this day. She cares mightily about her appearance and her kids'. She loves her sleep, but it is less of a priority than these other things. She also finds little chunks of time for stuff when normal people will be taking a breath. Eldest is somewhere in between, managing amazing feats with 4 kids, but still with less emphasis on appearance. "Done Up" means make up and curled hair. Clothes are just comfortable and no more. Having kids has helped me budget my time better, but I am still that same person prioritizing my time-- and finding that some things just don't show up on my radar at all!
"Let me see you stripped down to the bone. Let me hear you speaking just for me."
I get up earlier than them. (most likely) As i said, its not my priority.