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#61 of 69 Old 09-24-2013, 11:33 AM
 
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My daughter usually calls me by my first name but if she's hurt/sad/ any negative feeling it's "MOM". I think this is because we hung out with so much of our extended family when she was younger and they of course didn't call me mom, but she's connected that nurturing feeling with "mom", so if she is just talking to me it's my name but if she is needing extra security or comfort it's "mom". I don't mind, but my husband doesn't like being called by his first name so much. :)

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I dd, age 8, calls me Mom or Mommy. When first adopted she called me Ms. Heather and she called dh "that man" or "mr. first name". Now she calls him Dad or Daddy. She wanted to call my mom Cindy (that is not even close to her name). But now she calls her Gogo, which is Zulu for grandmother and she calls my dad GrandPop. She calls DH's mom Nene. My little dd, age 2, calls me Mama and calls dh Baba.

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I wouldn't call my parents by their first name. Even when I introduce them to someone, I have a hard time saying their names out loud! It just is weird to me! 

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I don't call my folks by their first names. Mom and Dad have been pretty much it. They do the same for their parents. My LO will probably refer to us as mom/my and dad/dy or some variant once she gets old enough to speak.

 

I'm not crazy about "Mrs." for me. I prefer my first name--or Ms. if a title is really needed. I'm not keen on the emphasis of marital status for women ("Miss"/"Mrs." while men get a universal "Mr."). I got married in my thirties and "Miss" never sounded right for someone into her third decade.

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I've always told my children that I worked hard for the title of "mama" and they best call me by my fancy title! 

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DH and I usually use mommy/daddy to refer to each other in the third person (I have to tell my 2yo DAILY "Daddy is at work right now, sweetheart."), but we use the regular first person (I don't ask my children to "Give that to mommy", I say "give that to me"), and when we adults address each other in the children's presence, we use the regular second person stuff-- you, or first names. 

 

So my nearly-4yo calls DH by his first name, but both he and the nearly-3yo mostly call me "mommy", and that's just the way it is right now.  No big deal.

 

I don't believe in teaching children that adults are inherently worthy of more respect just because they're adults, and I worry that the Mr./Ms. thing communicates that.   We use the big five due to ease of pronunciation (mommy, daddy, grampa, gramma, baby), but otherwise use first names for everyone, from their uncles, to their friends, from their friends' parents, to their siblings.

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My children call us Mom and Dad, and when they try and use our first names we nip it in the bud; we feel it's a sign of respect. Same with grandparents. It's Grandma First Name and Grandpa First name. When I am referring to them when the children are around, that is the name I use.

 

When addressing neighbours or other adults when first introduced or when I am referring to them I call them Mr./Ms. last name unless told otherwise. Most of our neighbours are the same way unless we are close to them, a lot of kids in the neighbourhood call me Ms. and I like it also, it's a sign of respect. When I was growing up, you did not call adults by their given names, you called them Mr./Ms. which is what I am teaching my children.


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I don't call my folks by their first names. Mom and Dad have been pretty much it. They do the same for their parents. My LO will probably refer to us as mom/my and dad/dy or some variant once she gets old enough to speak.

I'm not crazy about "Mrs." for me. I prefer my first name--or Ms. if a title is really needed. I'm not keen on the emphasis of marital status for women ("Miss"/"Mrs." while men get a universal "Mr."). I got married in my thirties and "Miss" never sounded right for someone into her third decade.
Yeah. I'm not married. Not a teenager either. Most kids don't know Ms. though. Lots of adults don't either.
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My son, at 3.5, feels it's important to not only know titles, but also names. Though for the most part dh and I are still mama and daddy ds knows, and occasionally uses, 'baffne' or 'timfee.' pat grandparents are grandma, grandpa, or japanese honorifics, interchangeably. we don't do 'miss' or 'mister' anyone; any male beyond his age class is 'uncle' and female 'auntie,' with or without first name, including daycare providers. this went for pretty much everyone aside from an old coworker I had who decided he was also an honorary grandpa or ojiisan because my father passed before ds was born.

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