OMG JJMama ! Dh and I were *just* talking about this very thing !...I mean like 10 minutes ago.
Here's *my story*
Dh is very anti-gun, his dad (an old and now ex hippie) made him vow to never join the army (because of the guns, the killing, this is shortly after the American War in Vietnam), he was raised to fear and despise them. MY dad OTOH is a card carrying NRA member, who hunts every fall and shoots for sport at targets (he also collects knives and loves to whip them out
but that is another story). Anyways suffice it to say our homes were very different.
Now don't go thinking I am pro-gun or anything, just that it set the tone for me buying a squirt gun to get the cats with. When I nurse DD they seem to know I won't chase them off of the table, etc, they normally they do what I ask of them, but sometimes when they know I am nursing her it's like they think it's time to get away with stuff. Anyways I just wasn't thinking of it as a gun toy but as a conveyance device to squirt water long distance in order to get cats to stop licking the butter dish without getting up.
When Dh saw them he said no he didn't want them in the house cause they are gun toys. I totally respect and agree with this, once it has been brought to my attention, but just hadn't thought of it that way. We are giving it to a friend.
Yet it was DH who brought a bubble gun into the house years ago, but of course we didn't have a child then.
Another thing, I have a friend who is VERY AP, natural, organic, totally granola, ya know ? Her 5 year old DS was never allowed to play with gun or war toys, the whole bit strcitly enforced for the whole time. Then for his 6th Bday he gets a cowboy set with a toy gun and he LOVES it. He is just in love with cowboys. She allows him to play with it because she wants to repect his wishes in some way I think. I think she just talks to him a lot about how guns kill people and it might be fun to play but that is not real life, etc, just talking to him about it, keeping in touch. Last summer I saw a boy his age he was playing with go up to his own mom and put a toy gun to her head and say he was going to shoot her. She basically ignored him, fearing if she made a big deal out of it he'd want to do it more. Probably not my choice but it was hers, and she is VERY AP, all that, there's no way a gun would get into her house.
When DD gets older I don't think I can keep her from ever encountering them in the world, but we can not have them in the house and tell her why we don't have guns in our house. Explain it just like why we don't eat meat (usually
Just my two cents, I have been thinking about this subject quite a lot lately
BTW terabithea great name is it taken from the book A Bridge to Terabithea ? I loved that book although it was very sad.