Join Date: Sep 2009
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I can see that my own mother may have been in a somewhat similar situation when I was young. She never enjoyed visiting my father's family, where everyone spoke a different language, the heat was uncomfortable for her, & there really wasn't a any attraction for her to the trip. I am so glad she put up with it to let my brother & I experience my grandparents' culture up close. My brother & I talk about those trips often. And these trips were REALLY important for me as a kid from mixed cultures in forming & understanding my identity. (I can't stress how really important this is--I don't know your background, OP, but my own parents weren't mixed so it was difficult for them to know how to navigate this part of my inner life.) I'd say do it for your kids.
That said, you shouldn't suffer through the whole thing. Can you get away by yourself or with your daughters (as someone else suggested). Also, since your girls are already a little older, can you leave them with grandma & get away with your husband. It's ok if they don't understand each other, the experience of spending time with grandma can be important & enjoyable, especially if you can withhold your own preference to no spend time with her (and I say that without judgment--I just know how perceptive kids can be!).
Also, is this important to your husband? Your daughters? How do they feel about the trip & what are their hopes/expectations for it?
Mama to my little busy bee.