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Do you let your kids climb up the slide, or do you direct them to the steps?

I let my kids climb up the slide most of the time. If the playground is too crowded, if there's a baby or a very big kid in the group, if we're there with a friend who has different family rules, or if the slide is the old narrow style with steep sides & climbing it would be unsafe, I explain why we can't climb the slide *right now*

My kids don't try to climb up the slide after I ask them to stop. If the playground becomes less crowded, or if the baby leaves, they'll ask me if it's ok to climb up again.

I think climbing up the slide is important. I think it's good for coordination and muscular development, as well as problem solving skills. It brings up some conflict sometimes with other kids, but learning how to work out conflict is an important task for children.

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you know, i always told ds not to, because my mom always told me not to. she was a preschool treacher, so they had to have very strict safety rules on play equipment for liability reasons. then i kinda realized it was silly if i was there watcing and there weren't a lot of other kids, so i've tried to relax on it a bit now.
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I also allow my kids to climb up the slide, as long as we have the playground to ourselves.

If there are other kids around though, I don't.

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I can't stand it when kids at the playground are climbing up the slide. I just feel like the ladder is to go up; the slide is to go down. It seems like more and more often when my kids want to go down there is a kid coming up. My kids end up having to wait and often the other kid makes it to the top and climbs over my kid. I feel like there are plenty of other things for kids to climb up at most playgrounds - different kinds of ladders, climbing walls, climbing nets etc-. Why do they need to go up something that is meant for going down? IRKED- but I'll get over it.
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I also allow my kids to climb up the slide, as long as we have the playground to ourselves.

If there are other kids around though, I don't.

Same here (when babysitting).

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I also allow my kids to climb up the slide, as long as we have the playground to ourselves.

If there are other kids around though, I don't.
Same here.
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I do unless there are other children attempting to use the slide. I like them to use things for all kinds of purposes- not just the "right" way all the time. Of course if there are other children they can't because someone else is waiting to go down.

Kabes- if another child is trying to go up and over my DD I will ask them to wait until after my DD goes down. Just say "oh, somebody is waiting to go, can you wait to climb the slide until she/he goes down?" I've only had a few times where the child didn't listen- and I think my DD has gotten better at using her words to express herself to other children at the park because of it. I've never gotten a dirty look or anything for asking such thigns from other people's children.
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I don't just b/c I don't want to confuse them. They can't do it in preschool or when the playground is busy. We have tons of other playground equipment that's expressly built for climbing and they love those.

But...I also don't let them throw rocks on the slide or slide down face first. (I've seen lots of kids try that here in the winter and scrape their faces on the ice.) And, I know lots of other moms allow these.

Kind of nice for them to learn now that we all have different rules and we have to think for ourselves.
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I have no problem with climbing up the slide, so long as there isn't someone wanting to go down...

I wouldn't let them throw rocks down the slide, simply b/c that makes it pretty dirty and someone (me) is going to have to clean them off.

I have no problem with going "face down", though obviously I would be there "spotting".

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Like some of the other moms here, I let my dd climb up if there's noone waiting to go down. I used to love doing it as a kid so I have no problem letting my dd do it.

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Well, I see no problem with allowing children to "throw" things down the slide, as it's a great way to experiment with various scientific principals. i wouldn't, however, let my child experiment in this way when other kids wanted to use the equipment. And we would clean up after ourselves.

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I don't have a problem with it as long as they are not stopping other kids from sliding down.
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I allow it as long as there aren't other kids there. I've seen too many times on the curvy slides where someone was climbing up while someone else was going down and BAM. And I do let them use the slide for other things. The other day they were having a ball driving a remote control car down it.
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I can't stand it when kids at the playground are climbing up the slide. I just feel like the ladder is to go up; the slide is to go down.
That is my pet peeve! I never allowed (and still don't) my kids to go up the slide. Just like I don't allow them to go up the down escalator.

My 8 year old would love nothing more than to run up the down escalator. I don't let her. That's not what it was intended for. Same thing with the slide. Plus, it is a crazy mess when there are kids doing that.

Thankfully though, you up ladies seem to be watching your cherubs and making sure they don't get hurt - or hurt other kids by being in the way......

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I neverlet them climb up the slide until I sat in on my sons occupational therapy appt and saw his ot was using it as an exercise!! So, now we do. It builds muscles and helps them with balance and coordination/
I also let them throw things down the slide. We have a park we go to by ourselves and we do "cannonballs" with the basketball. They have done tonnka trucks, too,b ut I watch and make sure no one is on the bottom. My oldest likes to put bark or rocks on the bottom of the slide. I let him. If someone wants to slide down, he sweeps it away and we clean it up before we go
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I let mine go up the slide, and send things down the slide, as long as they aren't interfering with anyone else's enjoyment.

I think that we all (kids and adults) are pretty over-regulated in our society. Playgrounds are for playing, and kids are the ones who do the playing and should be deciding how to play, IMO. When I was a kid we could go to the park by ourselves, and we did lots of things like going up the slides etc. Even though my kids won't get the chance to go to the park by themselves until they are MUCH older than I was, I still want them to direct their own play and not be told that "slides are for going up". Who says slides are for going up anyway? A slide is just a slide!

An escalator is designed to transport people efficiently from one floor to the other. A slide is designed for having fun on. (I'm not trying to be argumentative or nasty, lab - that's just how I see the difference.)
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(I'm not trying to be argumentative or nasty, lab - that's just how I see the difference.)

None taken!

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I always tell my kids no climbing up the slide. My theory is that the steps are for going up and the slide is for going down. Is just something I feel is important to me. I also don't let my kids throw/slide things down.
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I let mine go up the slide, and send things down the slide, as long as they aren't interfering with anyone else's enjoyment.

I think that we all (kids and adults) are pretty over-regulated in our society. Playgrounds are for playing, and kids are the ones who do the playing and should be deciding how to play, ...
I ... want them to direct their own play and not be told that "slides are for going up". Who says slides are for going up anyway? A slide is just a slide!


Yep. That's how I feel too.
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Do you let your kids climb up the slide...
yes, i do... & if the playground is not busy i climb up right behind him! he has a lot more fun at the playground when i am PLAYING with him than when i used to follow him saying, that isn't safe, don't do that, play over here.

i think it is totally fine as long as he is being courteous. of course if he is halfway UP the slide & someone wants to go down, i let joe finish his climb.
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Do you let your kids climb up the slide, or do you direct them to the steps?
Only if we are alone.

I am at the school for recess, and its one of the "toughest" part of being a monitor (I cant believe i'm typing this!). Its a big safety issue, and we dont allow it. And no rocks or sand down the slide either, although i can certainly see why both activities can be great fun. But no, i usually dont allow it, and when i am "monitoring" i cant allow it. most kids understand though.

I agree with the over regulated part. but at schooltime or a busy playground i think someone could get hurt.
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Oh, what a funny thread! When my daughter was a toddler and just learning to go down the slide, it used to irk me when children were climbing up. Mostly because it wasn't just that little children were climbing up, it was that older children at the park by themselves were climbing up in their roller blades, or trying to grind on the edge of the slide, the bench and everything else. They'd put gouges in the plastic part of the slide which makes it a slower slide, and sometimes the new gouges can be sharp. And then kids would climb up the outside of the tubes while a pile of children are inside trying to climb up, and things would start to fall apart after awhile. And I hate when they break the swing seats, and junior high students are standing in the babyswings while I'm waiting to use them.

Sometimes kids would pile sand and gritty dirt all over the bottom part, and then pour water on it from the drinking fountain. Castlebuilding shouldn't be done on the slide, doggone it, unless the parents are willing to clean it off afterwards. Sometimes I go to the park and the slides are all "useless" as they are so dirty that kids get stuck going down. So what the heck, all you can do is climb up the slide in that event.

I guess I don't mind climbing up the slide much, but it does seem like sometimes children are trying to break things. I guess that is part of exploring the universe, but the consequences of having to pay to fix it don't come into play. The park nearest my house has burn holes in the tubes, and anything that can be smashed or broken is. Plus there is graffiti painted on the equipment. And this is in the wealthy, planned community--the downtown park where the homeless people sleep is in great condition.
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I do not allow my kids to climb up the slide, whether I am watching them or not, or whether we have the playground to ourselves or not. For one, it's just not safe and second, I do not want to send mixed messages letting them know that it's only O.K. sometimes (empty playground) but not at others. So, they are simply not permitted to do it.


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Yep, I allow it when no one else is around. Ds knows the difference between being able to do certain things in certain places or when no one is around vs. being careful when there are others around.

For instance - flinging sand with his shovel. If it's just us in the sandbox, go ahead and fling away. But he knows that if other kids are around he can't do that. At most I just remind him once and he's fine with it. He knows he can jump on the couch at our house, but not at Grandma's house.

And like another poster pointed out, who ever said the slide is just for going down?
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I allow it when we are the only one at the park. I do not allow playing at/around the bottom of slides that are not in my back yard this includes watching things getting thrown down.

We had a lovely trip to the ER because of a quick child. This 4 yr old ran out of his car faster than his mom could say stop or I could tell my son to move. This mother felt horrible but really it was a no-fault situation but I could see it happening again.
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"And like another poster pointed out, who ever said the slide is just for going down?"

Chutes and Ladders for one. IMO its just like a one way street. If there isn't room for two childre/cars to be on going different directions at the same time then it is only safe to go in one direction. It just seems like common sense to me.
I've been at playground too many times and had kids who were aparently unsupervised(no one ever corrects them and when I speak to them they look at me like I'm crazy) ruin our fun because theywere doing things like: climbing UP the slide (over my girls), holding onto the bars at the tops of ladders and swinging their feet out into the air (kicking kids in the face who were trying to get up), throwing sand (it only takes once and if it gets in your eyes your fun is ruined), and pushing smaller kids out of the way because they moved slower.
I don't want to stifle my kids. I try to provide plenty of opportunities for creative and imaginitive play during our day. I simply feel that in the world there are rules/etiquette and my kids should learn now that there are times to be creative and there are times when we have to be respectful of others so that everyone can have a good time.
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I am rarely the only one at the playground--I might do things differently if we were there by ourselves. But we aren't, we have to share. And kids going both up and down isn't safe on many slides -- a kid at the top can't see if a kid is at the bottom because of curves, bumps, tubes, whatever. To avoid crashes, kids need to go up the ladder and down the slide. I am especially careful with this because I have a very small (less than 18 lb.) toddler who loves big slides, but could get really hurt if she crashed into a bigger kid coming up. So, I insist on "up the ladder", and I will stand at the bottom of the slide and direct other kids as well. Its a safety issue and I won't let anyone get hurt.
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so, what do your kids say when they are told that they cant climb up the slide, but so many other kids are climbing up it?
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so, what do your kids say when they are told that they cant climb up the slide, but so many other kids are climbing up it?
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Pretty much the same thing I tell them when they ask why they can't watch a particular tv show, or why they aren't allowed to do other things they see friends doing.

I tell them that people are different. And that I make decisions for them based on what works for us as a family. Then I would probably point out how the children climbing up the slides are slowing everyone else down and just basically messing up everyone else. I actually let them observe the chaos and trouble it causes.

Is this where I'm supposed to insert the disclaimer?????

Not trying to offend. You asked! Of course, these are generally children whose parents aren't watching and aren't anywhere around.

I don't think any of the responses I read - where the parents let kids climb up - were from parents who abused or took advantage of the slides. I think the general consensus was that everyone got their kids off the slide when other kids wanted to slide the proper way...... Of course we all know these moms are not the ones we go to the playground with. At least I don't - I get the rude, ill-behaved mean kids with moms that are dying for you to say something to Susie when she smacks your kid!

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Ds climbs up the slide when I'm there to supervise (which is always - his catch phrase at the playground is a gleeful, "C'mon Mommy!"). If other kids are going down, I ask him to wait. If he wants to go down and another kid is halfway up, I also ask him to wait. He understands both sides. If it's incredibly busy, I ask him not to. He's pretty amenable when I tell him that I worry for his safety with it being so busy... most likely because he knows he'll be able to do it another time. He hasn't tried to climb the tube slide yet (he's still a little scared of it), but I'm pretty sure I'll draw a line there unless we're at the playground by ourselves, because it's impossible to see when someone is coming up.

I don't worry about sending mixed messages. He's a smart kid. He's pretty capable of understanding that acceptability can be situational -for example, he already knows that it's not safe to throw sand in the middle of a bunch of kids, but it's okay to throw sand when you're off by yourself.
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