thank you moms so much...
well he's cried today twice at nap times. i find now that when i'm putting him to sleep, i tense up soo much, just waiting for him to scream...
but this evening, though it took forty minutes for his eyelids to actually close, he didn't scream nor cry. just whimpered and fussed every now and then. i found that i was still so tense and just looking at his eyelids as they fluttered close, willing them to stay closed. finally i realized... i have to RELAX!!! it's not the end of the world!!!
It's so good now to understand that babies *do* need to cry sometimes to let go of steam, get out frustrations, communicate, etc. After the cry session (9 minutes of screaming) he had this afternoon, he hasn't done it since. It feels almost liberating... for him and for me.
Of course I'm sure that he may even cry tomorrow and the next day or year. How as mothers, when we have our very lives for their happiness, can we find out to tolerate this? How will I handle it when he gets older and gets hurt by a fall, or upset by a friend who disses him? My, my... such thoughts are worrying me.
If I cant handle this communication, how will I prevent myself from being overprotective.
Quite a challenge, this motherhood thing is... quite an emotional journey.
Hydrangea: You're right. I do think it's important to make sure that one has tried other options, instead of holding their kid and letting him scream when one can definitely 'make it better'.
USAmma: I've tried the Baby Mozart video. But tv just seems to rile ds up more. He zones out but doesn't sleep; then when he leaves he's all the more upset.
Piglet: I'm also wondering the same thing. If I stop ds from sleeping, and stimulate it, it's not in his best interest. he'll just never sleep or get to a point where he cant stop crying. I noticed one person voted that doing this is damaging. Wonder what their reasons are.
Grumo, Wildflower: Also, I'll be checking out those two books... seems very interesting.
AmyG, NewMa, Dr Worm: thanks for your support and experiences.
Again I'll say, it's wonderful to come here for support; I was really at the end of my rope these past few days. Have been working to with Pantley's methods for over two months and after 2-3 wks of success, it seemed like we're back at square one.
Now I can think clearly and see that we've gotten so far. He's not waking up every hour at night to nurse, and that is a BIG step!