3boysmom, I agree, it is alot of sugar to consume, DH buys it (maple syrup)and uses it the most, the ones that DS sneaks are the little ones from cracker barrell (2 oz?) at any rate, we are in tune with the emotional issues...have really had troubles with DS for a long time, after interviewing several therapists, we finally found a ~play therapist~ who will help the whole family sort out things (not focusing on whats ~wrong~ with the child)
Sierra, i am very worried about DS's relationship woth food...we eat a healthy diet, i try not to have power struggles with him around food...i have been thinking of eliminating dairy and wheat to see if that is what causes his regular tummy aches ( i have always thought it was anxiety) of course, the sugar would probably have more to do w/ it.
We do not as a family consume that much sugar, honey goes on oatmeal and in herbal teas. I guess i need to have no sugar in the house, or have DH hide his maple syrup...it just seems so unhealthy (hiding things that is)
My dilemna is how not to power struggle over food, he probably sneaks food bc i do limit what he can have...if he had his way he would eat nothing except bread, butter, cheese, and sweets of all kinds. The only veg he will eat is broccoli and raw carrots on occasion. I prepare a nutritious meal , taking into account what he may enjoy as well as things i don't think he will eat (DD will eat a wider variety) I tell him "this is your dinner, if you don't want to eat this you can get an apple or a carrot" (or something else healthy) he gets it for himself. If he is hungry later, i tell him that we will have a big, yummy breakfast...i don't want to punish him, just want to encourage him towards a healthy diet. If he really is hungry, he eats something healthy, or he gets bread and butter
This does go much deeper, maybe that approach is contributing to the problem..?
I have had him help me w/ the grocery list, he tells me the foods he likes , i have asked him which vegs he would enjoy (brocc, carrots..which i serve alot) we are working on cooking together . That is new, i hope it helps.
Sometimes, i'm really worried about DS and i wonder if i have the right qualities needed to parent him.