Join Date: Jan 2002
Location: Elkins Park, suburb of Philly
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Staceymom-- are you sure we are not long lost sisters separated at birth? Sounds like your mom and my mom are one and the same. Very frustrating, no? Everyone in my family has eating and weight issues -- my mom is heavy, one sister is a gym freak and totally self-conscious about her (fine) weight, the other has had numerous issues and eating disorders, and then there is me (minor eating disorders, totally invested in "healthy eating", exercise, etc. to the point of near obsession). I am trying so hard to communicate to my kids that health is what is important, not weight, and that good eating habits and exercise are important; what you look like is not. My mom makes comments about my weight, my sisters' weight (to me, behind their backs and says -- but I could never say that to them!) and my mothering in general. She even says things to my kids like "grandma likes lots of butter on her toast, but your Mommy would never let you have that, would she!") Everything is a joke and you cannot "call" her on anything, because she throws it back on you tht you have no sense of humor. SHe has not yet started on my kids physical forms but I am every vigilant! Good luck with Mom!
PS -- Do you think it is a problem to squeeze dd3's legs and squeal "Oh look at these chubby legs! I love them" It makes her laugh (she is 7 mo) and she was 4 lbs when she was born so I am beside myself with BFing joy that she has rolls.