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Originally Posted by amarasmom
So dd was born and it was natural and easy to breastfeed.
She slept with us because it was easy and safe.
We delayed solids which was easier than stuffing her face with food she wasn't ready to eat.
We use cloth diapers because its easy....
see the pattern.
WOW. I did not co-sleep, because it was not easy for me or my kids. I did not delay solids because boy were they ready to eat, like champs (and bfing did not even reduce for a long time) cd'ing did it hated it used dd's.
BUt Gentle Discipline, at least in the no yelling, no spanking no punishing form comes easy to me. That's how I was raised.
So what is "easy" for one might not be easy for all.
Single mom to Rain (1/93) , grad student, and world traveler
Originally Posted by Dar
See, the pushing/testing thing just has never been a big issue for us. Maybe that's why the GD thing does seem easier to me. Or maybe it's because I say "yes" a lot and can usually negotiate a solution to avoid "no". Even when I taught behaviorally and emotionally disordered kids, I tried to stay away from "no". I negotiated assignments a lot, which most teachers wouldn't dream of doing, but it worked for us (I did have to point out that it probably wouldn't work during mainstreaming).
I have a high tolerance for a lot of stuff, which probably helps.
Now the issue I'm dealing with most is make-up, as in "It is okay for an 11 yr old girl to go out with goth-type eyeliner?" Negotiated compromises haven't gotten me very far, and mostly I've just decided to leave it. If I was okay with green hair at 7, I suppose eyeliner swirls at 11 are similarly weird and even more temporary. I'm sure a lot of people wouldn't agree, but for me it's easier to go along with it.
My sister at 12 had a stage where she plastered her bang to her forehead with hairspray and wore bright pink lipstick. I thought it was horrible, but my parents had been through two kids already and they let it go, and it passed. All Things Must Pass, as George Harrison said.
Most of my limits are about me, not my kid. I will not drive you here. This is my thing, you can't break it. And I extend the same rights to my kid...
"The best things in life aren't things."