We know two couples who have/are adopting from India this Summer.
We sent identical care packages including:
OTSBH sling in appropriate sizes/colors
The Baby Book (Sears)
You Are Your Child's First Teacher (Dancy)
Launching a Baby's Adoption (Johnston)
Nursing Your Adopted Child (LLL booklet)
and a baby book" called A Dream Come True (www.adorableadoptees.com
Both especially liked the baby book--specific to adoption process (when we found out, who we called, etc.) and in bright, cheerful colors as opposed to the usual soppy pastels. And one mother even told me that she was going to the bookstore to get The Baby Book the day the package arrived. Apparently, adoptive nursing and attachment are the 'hot topics' in adoption these days!
Then, once the first baby was here we sent a carefully chosen care package of gifts (our baby is 1 month older) that are appropriate for the 'older' (9 months) baby. The one thing I wish I'd included were Weleda oil and the Infant massage book.
I also made sure to send a note that one of the most important things they could do as parents is to pick and choose what works for their child and their family and leave the rest behind--including any gifts or thoughts from us!