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|View Poll Results: Have you ever put your child(ren) in daycare?|
|never have, never will||109||100.00%|
|no but I plan on it||17||100.00%|
|yes, full time||59||100.00%|
|Multiple Choice Poll. Voters: 4. You may not vote on this poll|
|Personally I have only left my dd 3 times, only for a couple hours each time. The first time was for dh and I to go out to the movies and the last 2 times were to set up my college courses. I will only leave her with my dh or my best friend. I guess I have trust issues but I also just miss being away from her. If I go into town to run errands for an hour I can't wait to come home and see her. I think part of the reason I'm so against leaving her with a sitter is because I was seperated from my mother when I was a toddler. I didn't see her again until I was 12 and it was very traumatic. I grew up with a lot of babysitters and daycare, I hated it.|
|I'm considering putting my 16 month old dd in daycare for a couple hours, one day a week. I've been talking to my adviser at the community college and apparently there's really no way to get a CDA without attending at least one day class a week. To qualify for the financial aid I have to get at least 12 credits a quarter as well. I was hoping to do all of this on the weekends, nights and online so my dh could watch her. I only know one other person I trust to watch her, my best friend, but she lives 30 miles away and works from home plus she has 2 kids of her own to worry about. She can babysit once in a while but I don't think she could do it once a week for an extended period of time. Soooo I'm thinking about looking around at the area daycares. I'm not really looking forward to this, I've only left my dd once with a sitter since she was born, with my best friend. So I want to make absolutely sure I trust the place and it looks nice and everything. I'm trying to think of the positive aspects about this, that she'll be able to socialize with the other kids etc.|
Pardon me while I
Originally Posted by AdrianneWe
Ok Nate, we cross-posted. I see that you do have research info... but sometimes I question these studies bc they may be based on women of different situations from my own? don't know. Just know that I don't know any depressed SAHMommies who are former successful career woman who had stimulating and challenging careers.
|Stressors specific to the parental role have been shown to be an important factor in maternal depressive symptoms. In addition, conflict over their employment role may contribute to depression. In a small study, college educated mothers with 1-year-olds who were dissatisfied with their employment role (ie, at home but preferred to work) were shown to have more stress and depressive symptoms. Therefore, when studying maternal depression, both employment status and mother's overall satisfaction with her employment role need to be considered.|
|Independent of work role satisfaction, mothers employed part time were less likely to be depressed than mothers who were not employed.|
Originally Posted by journeymom
And to the mama who said she was thinking of leaving mdc because there are just so many ap mothers who seem to be judging with religious fervor, I think if you count the number of responses that are clearly coming down on the side against daycare, you will find that is the small minority.
Originally Posted by DestinysMama
Personally I have only left my dd 3 times, only for a couple hours each time.
|Originally Posted by DestinysMama Personally I have only left my dd 3 times, only for a couple hours each time.|
|How can you raise a child without a community?|
|Isn't that child going to be massively distrustful of the world in general?|
|If there's another parent involved, is that parent going to feel any real sense of accomplishment if he never gets to parent?|
|Would I be a better AP mom if my kid was scared of strangers and didn't know how to interact with other kids?|
|Most times the provider is there just to make sure the child doesn't get hurt, that is it.|
Originally Posted by kimmysue2
I have NEVER needed away time from my son. I take all I can get from him because in a couple more years he is going to be wanting to go off and hang with his friends and on to school, job, college, partner.
My SIL would rather put her son in childcare SIXTY HOURS a week then keep him home on her days off. They both get off around 3pm. That last 3 hours of childcare is for the parents to go off and play without their child. How gross is that?
|I find it a normal cop out that socity as instilled on parents that you NEED alone time, you NEED to put your child in daycare, you NEED your career. It should be want. I want want want. I WANT to be with my son and have worked hard to make sure I can be the one to watch my son.|
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