Everything NFL in me was screaming "WHAT ARE YOU DOING! YOU ARE ABOUT TO PUT HOLES IN YOUR DD'S BODY!!!!
But everything mainstream in me was trying to calm my "crunchy side" by saying, "DD is a princess, and this will be so cute. DO IT!!! DO IT!!!". As insurance I brought along a friend that is a little crunchy, but has her daughters ears peirced.
How do you guys feel about this? Am I the only crunchy momma that has peirced her DDs ears? BTW, DD took it like a champ. She was only upset about the "restraint position" I had to hold her in.
She'll be 3 in December, so I am planning on having it done then if she hasn't changed her mind.
It is a painful process, it is a body altering process, and it requires daily upkeep. All things that a young child can not understand and can not ask for/consent to.
breastfeeding, babywearing, homeschooling Heathen parent to my little Wanderer, 7 1/2 , and baby Elf-stone, 3/11!
Just as if I had had boys and didn't feel I had the right to circumsise them without their consent, I do not feel i have the right to pierce my girls' ears without their consent.
But... this is just my opinion. Lots of people do this in our culture, and if you feel ok about it that's what matters for your family.
I would never pierce my DD just because I wanted it done - pick out cute clothes/ cute halloween costumes? Fine - Have metal studs shot into her body? No.
I absloutely hate seeing babies and young children struggling in the chairs at the piercing shops . Sure the parents think it's cute but it can wait.
If you have to hold your child down and they are struggling against you during the procedure it is not worth it just to get earrings. It's hard enough to watch a child that needs some sort of medical scan or exam done and is struggling but for jewelry?
Not sure if we are going to get Nitara's done since she's not going to India until she's older most likely. But yeah, it's one of those things that dh and I feel strongly about that should be done according to tradition. We also shaved Abi's head at 12 mos. and will shave Nitara's sometime when she's had a chance to heal from all the medical procedures and is less touchy about people handling her.
Both things are reversible. If it was a permanant thing like circumcision I would wait and let the child decide when they were of an age to do that.
btw i have a lot of piercings and tattoo's and i would only allow my ds to have these if he was ready and wanting to have these things done.
sorry mama that noone is in agreement but this is a tough subject
We tell her she can do it when she is 8 because she responds well to a definite number (even though she doesn't really understand the concept of time in years). Eight isn't really the magic number though; I just figure that is roughly how old she will be when she can mostly take care of them herself. Hey, she may not even ask at that point. She could move right to a nose ring! :LOL
"There is no belief, however foolish, that will not gather its faithful adherents who will defend it to the death." -Isaac Asimov
In my family, children can have piercings when they are old enough to pay for (and I don't mean at some place in the mall) and care for their own piercings.
I think there's alot worse things people do to/with their children than getting their ears pierced. It's not exactly a "life altering decision". JMHO.
I agree that it's sad enough when a child has to go through something they can't understand for medical reasons. For pure aesthetics, I would not do it.
Now with dd2, I'm going to wait too. I dont find it fair that she could get her ears done and not dd1. I may do with her the same as with dd1 and make it a ritual of womanhood.
My mom and sil are both not understanding why I'm not doing it. They would have done it as soon as they could have. Even if the child was 1yr or older.
I am glad your daughter hasn't tried to pull them out, and hopefully she will leave them alone. Mine wouldn't have kept her hands off of them at that age.
I can't justify the pain, plus I don't think little children look cute with earings. Not that they make the child look ugly, but it is a similar feeling as when I see little girls in full faces of makeup.
Evergreen- Loving my girls Dylan age8, Ava age 4 and baby Georgia (6/3/11).