I am done feeling guilty over this one.
I let my kids watch tv. I have had moments when I felt badly about that, and I have tried to turn it off a lot more than I had previously..
However, in our family we have found that somethings work well. I am alone with my kids at bedtime every night, and I am tired. We have Mr.Rogers tivo-ed, and so When it is 7:45 and I am so tired from a long day that started possibly 12 hours ago..but my 2 beautiful kiddoes have btoh had naps sduring teh day and I did not get one..I resort to one or sometimes ( gasp of horror) two episodes of Mr.Rogers pre-bedtime.
I also allow certain disney mosives into my house ( Brother Bear, Aristocats, Toy Story, etc.) I let them watch PBS kids, and Noggin. Occasionally we might watch something on the disney channel. I really do not care for the commercials so that only happens if there is something special on. I do not like Nickleodeon so we don't go to that channel. My FIL lets Paul watch bugs bunny cartoons with him, and I am ok with that too..because it is NOT the only thing he does with Paul.
All of thses things are done in moderation as just a smallpart ofour day..they are not our sole daily activity.
Here is where I get all novel-ish and teary eyed...
MR.Rogers is from Pittsburgh. He has an accent that sounds like my family..who live North of Pittsburgh. I like to hear his voice. I like how when I am at my most tense I can sit with my kids on my sofa and we cuddle and watch Mr.Rogers. It is like a visit from my Grandpa. I love where he takes the kids..I love the fact that they go and see people making flashlights or crayons or windchimes or art work or musical instruments or candy or what have you. I love that we can all sing the speedy delivery song, I love when my song imitates Danial Tiger and i do it back to him when we talk and play. I love laughing at the arrogance of King Friday the 3th. I love Lady Elaines voice because she sounds so..familiar.
No one here sounds like 'that' when they talk, and after years of getting teased for my own 'accent' when I spoke, both from living in Florida and here..I no longer have one because I work hard to NOT have one...But I listen to them speak and it all rushes back to me and I feel calm and happy. It also reminds me of my family that has passed away, of sitting in my great grandmothers house watching Mr.Rogers and eating grilled cheese sandwiches and tomato soup and running on her front porch.
As far as I am concerned, it is all about balance. My son is in pre-school 2 days a week. We play with other kids here in the area, he sees family quite often ( because they mostly live down the road) .His grandfather takes him with him for hours at a time. He is exposed to so much over the course of a week( lets say) that in my opinion, 2 hours of tv today is NOT going to damge his brain for the rest of his life.
We have places out side to play, animals to take care of, places to go, people we can see and talk to and do stuff with.We have library books to re-read as well. We have pudding we can make..we have a LIFE...and tv is a small part of it.
I am so relieved to see that I am not alone !!!