This is a spin off of the "sacrifice and our daughters" thread. I wanted to survey the SAHMs and ask, "Do you hope your daughter SAH when she has children? Yes or no?"
I SAH, and I feel so strongly about SAH.
However, when I look at my daughters, I feel a painful ambivalence. The thought of their being financially dependant on a man unnerves me.
I also wonder if there will even be many men in the future who would encourage/ accept their wives to SAH. It's been my anecdotal experience that men tend to expect behavior from their wives based on what their mothers did. So if a man's mother worked when he was young, he'll see that as the norm, and expect it of his wife. I found this to be the case when I was dating, anyway, and the subject of W or SAH would come up.
So as more and more mothers work, what kind of men will be left who want a SAH wife? The control freaks? The religious extremists?
My DDs are already saying things like, "When I'm big, I'll have a husband and babies just like you."
This is such a huge, complex issue. What are your thoughts?
I SAH, and I feel so strongly about SAH.
However, when I look at my daughters, I feel a painful ambivalence. The thought of their being financially dependant on a man unnerves me.
I also wonder if there will even be many men in the future who would encourage/ accept their wives to SAH. It's been my anecdotal experience that men tend to expect behavior from their wives based on what their mothers did. So if a man's mother worked when he was young, he'll see that as the norm, and expect it of his wife. I found this to be the case when I was dating, anyway, and the subject of W or SAH would come up.
So as more and more mothers work, what kind of men will be left who want a SAH wife? The control freaks? The religious extremists?
My DDs are already saying things like, "When I'm big, I'll have a husband and babies just like you."
This is such a huge, complex issue. What are your thoughts?