We have four, and that seems like the perfect number for us...even though I thought I was done at three
Everyone thinks we just kept trying for a girl, and it was sort of like that, but I swore I would be done after the third, which was a boy, regardless of the gender. Dd was just a bonus, I guess, and I am a Fertile Myrtle, we probably could have had ten, but with our income and dh's long hours at our restaurant, it just wasn't feasible. I had my tubes tied after dd, but I would consider adopting more, older children, if I felt the call.
I really like having what is now considered a "big" family, and I call it that b/c everyone else refers to us like that. Dh grew up with two much older sisters, and my own sister is 10 years older than me. We hated growing up without siblings we could play with and both of us were jealous of the kids who grew up with lots of sibs.
Ppl always ask me "how do you DO it????" and I have to say, four is easier than one or two, you don't have to be their sole entertainment, the little ones become very responsible at a young age and help out a lot, so it's not like having one or two and having to be a playmate all day and do all the housework yourself. All my boys put their own clothes away and help with cleaning up. Ds3 started dressing himself at age two! They often get up before me on the weekends, and ds1 (8yo) pours out cereal for the younger boys (dd is asleep with me which is why I don't rush into the kitchen lol!) and cleans up (for the most part) afterwards.
The kids are learn to wait their turn
and share better than the kids I know that are only children. I know this isn't always the case with onlies, but I was so lonely growng up, and I really want my kids to have a sense of comraderie with theri sibs, which they do, for the most part.
And the fun part really is that they are all so different. My ds1 is "all boy" and my ds2 isn't, he's very feminine and loves to play girly stuff. Ds3 will go along with just about anything :LOL, and they all dote on dd, who is a little pistol at age 14mos! They are learning tolerancce of ppl's differences and how to get along in a group, I guess the hard part is making sure they all get alone time with me and dh, each one of them is so special, and I don't want them to feel just a "part of the pack" iykwim.
I also think along these lines, like Opsmom says...
|I've always been of the mind that, when my husband and I are gone, our children will have each other!!!
I thought that was a beautiful sentiment