I’ve been following along and have noticed that many of us are reacting (possibly) because we can relate to one or both of the ‘characters’ in the OP.
I know I can really relate to the woman who left her child. I can relate to her because it seems to me that she was reaching out. Why else would she use her time off to go to a Mother’s Bible Study, yk?
I can relate to her because my experience with mothers who struggled with motherhood ~ the bitter sweet honesty, the humility, vulnerability ~ is what saved me when I had my child. I honestly believe that *not* talking about this stuff, not reaching out and being honest is what causes so many problems for mothers.
So, I can come to a place of appreciation and admiration for that woman in the OP.
But I can also relate to the OP. I know there are many things that I have a hard time reacting to and that I need to talk about them. One of the things I know from other threads like this is that I don’t know what it’s like to be marginalized as an AP/NFL parent. I also don’t know what it’s like to constantly be bombarded with parenting that you feel is harmful.
I know there are things that I’ve seen that made me want to talk about them. I’ve wanted to vent, be frustrated, irritated, sad ~ without having to be so clear headed. Sometimes my reaction to something another person does shocks me to the extent that I need a moment to think of *me*.
That said, I, personally, don’t feel a public forum and, especially, MDC is the place to vent this stuff. But I have a good support network and outlet to do this stuff in private and my ideals for MCD are different than many members.
So, I’ve tired to apply the same sort of non-judgment to the people who need to vent here at MDC as I would to the people being judged.
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