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Old 06-03-2005, 04:27 PM
 
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I remember my mom talking about her childhood, she grew up in a small town in Connecticut & was required to wear skirts/dresses to school for part of her elementary school (the rule was changed, I forget how old she was). Anyway, she was a major tomboy. She would get up to go fishin' in the wee hours before school & would show up to school in her knee-length skirt & hip length fishing boots, lol
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Note: I read many of the posts, but not all!

I saw some posts about strict/religious families that do not allow their girls to wear pants. My best friend's family was exactly like this. They were very strict southern baptists and sometimes I attended their church.

Their pastor was very annoying. I went to a wednesday evening church activity with my friend (I guess we were about 14 years old at the time). I wore jeans. The pastor kept referring to me as "son," and "boy," etc despite my long hair, blue eyeshadow and obvious chest buds! I was so annoyed and offended that he kept pointing out to me "Oops, I thought you were a boy because you are wearing pants." Sorry, there's nothing boyish about me!

I never went back to the church, but the pastor lived near my friend and seemed to ALWAYS be over at my friend's house. I used to dread seeing him because of all the comments. Once, he commented to my friend's mom that she shouldn't let her daughter go upstairs alone with a boy - he was referring to me! He already knew me by then and KNEW I was obviously a girl. (My friend's family was cool about me wearing pants.)

In retaliation, next time he was over at their house, I would sit with my legs wide open on purpose, belch, fart, you name it, in his general direction. Very un-ladylike.
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I never went back to the church, but the pastor lived near my friend and seemed to ALWAYS be over at my friend's house. I used to dread seeing him because of all the comments. Once, he commented to my friend's mom that she shouldn't let her daughter go upstairs alone with a boy - he was referring to me! He already knew me by then and KNEW I was obviously a girl. (My friend's family was cool about me wearing pants.)

What an ass! Maybe he wasn't allowed to be a normal kid, so he was reliving his 3 year old days, "Nyah, nyah, you're a boy, a big old boy!"
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I have not read through this thread . . but I wanted to point out that pants/dress is Western culture. In China it is traditional for me and women to wear pants and tops. In India (and many other places in the world) it is traditional for men and women to wear something wrapped around their bottom half.

My wedding day in India

Both dh and I are wearing "dresses".

It is sad though, that dh doesn't feel comfortable wearing his veshti in public and will actually wear pants to the temple and change in the bathroom.

7yo: "Mom,I know which man is on a quarter and which on is on a nickel. They both have ponytails, but one man has a collar and the other man is naked. The naked man was our first president."
 
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Oh, no, Darshani, how do they all know who's a man and who's a woman?
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Oh, no, Darshani, how do they all know who's a man and who's a woman?
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7yo: "Mom,I know which man is on a quarter and which on is on a nickel. They both have ponytails, but one man has a collar and the other man is naked. The naked man was our first president."
 
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i love your wedding picture!
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I must be very naiive. I don't know who's serious an whos kidding on this thread.

In my former life I worked in a public school in Michigan. The dress code for the younger teachers (my age) was very casual. However, the more senior teachers (especially the African American ladies) adhered to a very classy, well dressed code. One day a student came into me with a scrap of paper that had a bible passage on it. He told me his grandma wanted me to read this about pants. I did, and sure enough it was pretty strong words about women dressing 'like men'. I can't remember where it is, but will try to find it.

My mentor teacher and I had some real heart to heart talks about it. She was my mom's age, and was kind of sad that her daughter, like me, chose to dress more casual in cottons, jeans etc.

I don't know what my point is. I guess I was really impacted strongly at the time by that child bringing that in. I guess that folks have a right to choose how they want to dress, and it really isn't anybody else's business to judge!
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annettemarie, sorry I didn't respond earlier, but I've been really busy the last few days getting ready for a trip, so I haven't seen the thread since yesterday. Yeah, it was a religious thing. We have been completely dropped by our old "friends", who will now pass us without so much as a word.

I've really done a lot of soul-searching about this issue, and I just can't see it as a moral issue. I don't care what my girls wear, as long as it's modest enough. I'm not going to draw lines where they don't have to be, because I can tell you that there comes a time when lines are a necessity. I'm not spending my capital on what are to me insignificant issues.

I understand that others see this issue in a whole different light. I've really tried to see both sides--but it's just not a salvation issue for me.
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Dh and I have discussed what we will allow ALL our children to wear in public..if it is modest, it's cool. That's it. boys in dresses, girls in pants, whatever...

That said I LOVE putting little dresses on dd...she has some of the cutest little tank dresses she wears over a t-shirt and they are short enough that she can crawl fine. She pretty much ALWAYS wears pants out though, because it can still get a little chilly up here in the great white north, so I want her to be warm.

When she grows up, we have the modest rule. That's it. She can wear what she is comfy in.
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