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Would you let your daughter wear pants out of the house?

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You know, growing up, My Dad had these friends. An ultra conservative, catholic family with 8 kids---6 of them were girls. My brothers and I had to travel across the states with these people....long story. Anyway, The girls, including me, were not allowed to wear pants. We were planning to go hiking and asked the father if we could---for a special occassion wear these ridiculous pant/short/ankle-length skirt things. He said he would pray about it. He came back with the answer...NO!! We had to hike in stupid skirts. I absolutely hated that trip, but what an eye-opening experience that was.
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Huh? Would I even buy my daughter a dress if I had one? I would rather see my daughter in pants than a skirt as skirts are much more reavealing, know what I mean....pants are more modest and practical.

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Ugh… never. Nothing but bows and dresses for any girl of mine

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Yup I do all the time .

I have neighbors, their little girls are not allowed to wear pants out of the house and very, very rarely are they allowed to wear them in the house or the yard. The wife doesn't either, I think finally after "permission" she was allowed to get a pair of jeans. :Puke
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Would you let your daughter wear pants out of the house?

Of course.

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I guess it would depend upon what year it was. If, for example, we time traveled back to, say, 1715 I probably wouldn't allow my daughter to wear pants out since it might be dangerous. Once our time travel vacation was over, though, I'd leave it up to her since, you know, it's like her body and her life and all.












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Nope, unless they were under a skirt.

I've hiked and biked and ridden horses in skirts, with no problem. I love skirts.


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I would rather see my daughter in pants than a skirt as skirts are much more reavealing, know what I mean
Not my skirts. Unless you consider a full, ankle length denim skirt revealing. :LOL
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OK, truth time. I generally only wear skirts and, for the most part, my daughter wears only dresses or jumpers with bike shorts or leggings underneath. Or swing tops with leggings. Mostly I do this because I think it makes her look sweet and innocent. If she asked to wear pants, I would let her, though.

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Huh?
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OK, truth time. I generally only wear skirts and, for the most part, my daughter wears only dresses or jumpers with bike shorts or leggings underneath. Or swing tops with leggings. Mostly I do this because I think it makes her look sweet and innocent. If she asked to wear pants, I would let her, though.

But the main point is you would let her! I love dresses and skirts on little girls, I think they do look sweet. But to not ever allow her to wear pants if she wants to would be my issue.
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Not my skirts. Unless you consider a full, ankle length denim skirt revealing. :LOL
I was thinking of kids running and playing and little boys peaking. Just the stuff I remember as a kid...climbing trees, playgrounds, etc...guess I was a tomboy in my day.

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Mamajama: I had neighbors who were strict Baptists and the girls only wore skirts and culottes (the baggy long shorts thingies). I played with them and went places with them and even went to church with them and I wore pants. I guess they didn't feel like they had authority over someone else's kids. .

Now I can happily do all kinds of physical things in big skirts, after ~5 years of living history. :LOL
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I've watched many girls in dresses and big baggy culottes try to play on playgrounds, climb trees, crawl through tunnels etc and it's sad. Honestly, in my experience, a parent who thinks wearing only skorts and dresses doesn't hamper their girls is kidding themselves. I have *never* seen a girl in a dress/skirt be able to keep up with her pants-wearing friends. Either she is struggling way behind them or she has to give up or modify the activity.

I think it's beyond sad for little girls to grow up with their bodies shackled and their physicality limited that way. Whenever I see it -- whether it's because of religious beliefs or because parents dress their girls to a "girly" stereotype -- it seems emblematic, to me, of the restrictions placed on all women in our culture

Leggings, even under longish swing tops, are different. They seem to allow mobility to the same degree as pants.
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Of course no daughter of mine will be seen in pants outside of the house.

I believe all of you who allow your girls to wear pants are contributing to gender role confusion. And this is immoral, a big no-no.

Next thing you know they will be lesbians, sitting on the furniture with their feet up.

Girlndocs, I'm not surprised to see your post.
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Ugh… never. Nothing but bows and dresses for any girl of mine

That's pretty much what I was going to say.
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Absolutely not.

















Only mini skirts, fishnets, and sillettos! :

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I never wore a dress or skirt when I was growing up, unless it was for a special occasion. In fact, even as an adult, the last time I wore a dress was on my wedding day. Whatever you feel comfortable with!

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Hey, I'm a pants wearing girl, and I was out in public today, with my son wearing a nightgown!

We have matching nursing gowns, too.
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DD wears mostly dresses, but for park, play dates, and Gymboree, she wears shorts or pants. Not religious reason, just like her better in dresses, but totally understand it's tough to really play in them

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To be honest.....my dd wears almost all skirts and dresses.....by her own choice.

She will play football, jump in mud puddles, and wrestle in her dresses!

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Sometime in the late 1960's or early 70's, it became acceptable to wear pants in the public schools in my town in the USA. Before that it was not allowed, older women tell me. I was a tiny girl at the time, too young to remember.

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Yeah, I will make her wear skirts when I start wearing them I guess..:LOL....I am not a big skirt person.

She loves dresses but I make her wear pants or shorts if she is going to be playing hard.

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humph, when I was in elementary we were required by the stupid teacher to wear shorts under our dresses
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Only when my DS wears a dress/skirt. Otherwise never.

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My older dd has been on an anti-skirt/dress thing for the past year. She will only wear them in the house. If I prohibited her from wearing pants I guess she'd just wear her underwear. I guess I'll just have to take the lesser of the two, um, evils.

She has not figured out that skirts are actually cooler in the summer than shorts or pants. Personally pantswise, I don't wear anything shorter than capris. I actually got daring and bought some knee length skirts last year.

I wear more skirts than pants, but that's just a personal preference.

I agree if it was 1880, no way would she wear pants.
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Sometime in the late 1960's or early 70's, it became acceptable to wear pants in the public schools in my town in the USA. Before that it was not allowed, older women tell me. I was a tiny girl at the time, too young to remember.
I remember my mom telling me that when she was in elementary school (in the 60s-early 70s) in Iowa and Nebraska they were forced to wear skirts to school. Even when they were walking to school hip-deep in snow (uphill, both ways :LOL )! I don't think I wore a skirt to school more than 2 or 3 times as a kid (in the 80s and 90s). I couldn't imagine!
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My daughter usually chooses to wear dresses...very girly ones. I make her wear shorts or leggings under them for play because I do NOT like the idea of anyone passing the playground seeing her undies.
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OK, truth time. I generally only wear skirts and, for the most part, my daughter wears only dresses or jumpers with bike shorts or leggings underneath. Or swing tops with leggings. Mostly I do this because I think it makes her look sweet and innocent. If she asked to wear pants, I would let her, though.
my daughter was like that,too, though she didn't wear bike shorts underneath at that age.
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