I have some guilt about this so I thought I'd ask about other people's experiences.
I have two little ones. Our first would not sleep if she weren't being held. She wanted to be with me all of the time so... I held her all the time. I carried her in a sling for walks and around the house while I did chores and I laid on the couch or bed with her on my chest when she needed to nap.
My second little one is content on his own. From the beginning he was okay to nap alone and doesn't mind sitting in a bouncy seat or playing on a mat on the floor. Because #1 is almost 3 now I can't just lay around and hold #2 while he naps, like I used to with her. He also weighs much more than she did so I don't sling him as often. When we go for walks I push the double stroller instead of slinging him. I always bring a sling in case he fusses but I've found it really hard to push a stroller with #1 in it and have #2 in a sling.
With both we've co-slept and breastfed and cloth diapered, etc. I never ignore him if he's getting upset.
It's just that #2 is getting held less than #1 did. Sometimes I can't stand it and I need to hold my little guy for a nap so I'll tell dd#1 that she has to play by herself for a little while and she's okay with that but it doesn't appease my guilt.
My mom says if he's content then its okay. I only held #1 as much as I did because she NEEDED it. #2 doesn't need it the way my first did.
I try and bring #2 into whatever room we are all in but sometimes, I have to admit, he'll be lying in a room for awhile by himself enjoying the ceiling fan or something. He never cries.
Sorry... am I a bad AP mom to my ds#2? Or is it okay that he's being held less because he's content with it? And it is kinda a necessity since I have to play with dd#1 too??